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Scoobydoooo99 · 2022-03-26T17:30:47+00:00

Hi, I know this has been posted a lot before and please don’t judge me, I feel so so sad for the people Of Ukraine and am doing what I can to help them in regards to donations ect and I can’t ever imagine to be them, however is anyone terrified the nuclear war is about to kick off here, I can’t get the idea out of my head! I suffer with anxiety Disorder anyway and have only just got over the idea of Covid for the last 2 years with life being pretty much non existent and now this! I know non of you can give me an answer to what may happen in the future, but I wondered what everyone else’s views are and how your managing your anxieties and worries please. Thanks

Suzi888 · 26/03/2022 18:44

No.
I think we’ve got all awful lot more to ‘worry’ about to be honest. I think we would be doing the world a favour if the human race was no more. All we do is cause destruction, spread hate, I despair.

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Scoobydoooo99 · 26/03/2022 18:46

Thank you everyone, I apologise for posting in the wrong group, in all honestly I wasn’t sure what we best I just felt I wanted some support from others that wasn’t immediate family and friends, but I feel maybe I shouldn’t have posted the thread as it seems it has caused more upset which I genuinely was not trying to create, and as for my grammar or spelling? That’s very rude.. I do not have an issue with spelling and grammar, but I’m a busy mum posting and writing when I have time so it may be very rushed and I haven’t proof read it so again very sorry, there are some very unkind people in this world that seem to be on this forum just to bully and attack people and I’m not sure why?! I thought the point in this place was to support other mums and create a friendly environment it seems I must have been very wrong!
Thank you for anyone that genuinely took their time to be kind and reply to my genuine concern it’s much appreciated and there are some kind people left in this world!

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duvetdayforeveryone · 26/03/2022 18:49

@Cocycola I hate most of all that we live in a world where the majority of people truly believe that fact and opinion are the same!

Where is the evidence that "a nuclear war is about to kick off"?!?

At this current moment in history, anyone worrying either about WW3 or the possibility of a nuclear war is not thinking straight. The OP already admitted they have anxiety, therefore this thread needs to be moved to Mental Health.

mamabr · 26/03/2022 18:58

You shouldn't have to apologise, it's a shame that some people react so vile to other people genuine concerns.
But we do not know what will happen and I think it's very unlikely. It was upsetting me knowing about all the children affected so I've had to stop watching the news and videos you see on Facebook and just tell yourself that there is nothing you can do.

To all the arse wipes that being cruel, if you don't like a post then just keep scrolling! It's really not that hard! Smh

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 26/03/2022 19:02

Why why would it be a bot? I feel the same!

the threat was there in the 80's, i did my worrying then! so did l. There was nothing like this in the 80’s though. In fact the wall came down in 89.

I find the whole thing worrying.

Someonemustknowtheanswer · 26/03/2022 19:10

Just hope you're in the epicentre. In the meantime, live your life.

LaraDeSalle · 26/03/2022 19:17

No, I’m not remotely concerned.

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 26/03/2022 19:19

If you want to be kept informed and updated, then I really don't think MN is a good place for it.

FourChimneys · 26/03/2022 19:22

I spent most of my teens worrying about being nuked and made some major decisions based on that. I refuse to start worrying again now.

Hbh17 · 26/03/2022 19:22

No, not at all. Some of us remember all the drama in the 80s, and there was no chance of it happening then either.

But if it happens, then let's just hope for a direct hit that takes us all out immediately.

carefullycourageous · 26/03/2022 19:26

I think all sentient and vaguely informed people are concerned about nuclear war, Putin has again made hints.

But also most people do manage to suppress the worry and keep it in proportion to the % likelihood of it happening. I am worried about it, but I'm not actively worrying about it, I think there is a difference.

I agree if you are worried whilst it can become a habit to check the news, actually not checking is a good way to reduce anxiety.

I also think you are fine to post about it here, some delicate flowers act as though chat is only for rainbows and unicorns, but they have their own issues so don't mind them.

Idroppedthescrewinthetuna · 26/03/2022 19:33

OP, I was concerned. In fact I lost sleep about it, I would wake feeling physically sick, crying silently in bed and walking around the dark house giving my sleeping children kisses and whispering I loved them, all this was way before nuclear warfare was mentioned in the news. I was quietly unstable. I just needed the time to rationalise and work out the reality if it all.
Now I am not so worried. Is it possible, unfortunately yes, is it likely...no! In my honest opinion Nuclear war is highly unlikely. I believe nuclear weapons are there for threat only. Nobody wants to go nuclear, not even Putin. But everyone wants the power...mainly Putin. So in my eyes the most it will come to is empty but scary threats. I am more scared of Putin getting pissed off with the sanctions and then retaliating. (This is still unlikely, but more likely that going nuclear)
Right now, we need to focus on things that are actually happening. Ukraine is getting bombarded, children are losing homes, stability at the very least. This is what I am focussing on. Donations are needed.

Op I an sorry you are suffering. I get it. Covid I was a wreck. Every time my kids coughed I would start pacing my hallway. My Dp is CEV. I took being scared of losing him to the extreme. We all got Covid, he didn't distance himself from us. In fact my youngest slept next to him dace to face while she was poorly. He never got it. Which in lesson to myself and to you, just because you are scared doesn't mean your fears will become true.
Take each day as it comes. Do not think of the whole picture. Each day as it comes. No nuclear weapons used today. Great, tomorrow will be the same. You are reading this. No weapons have been used.
When you get the bout of anxiety, start counting things.
5 things you see
4 things you hear
3 things you can touch.
2 things you can smell
1 thing you can taste.

Still in bout of anxiety.
5 things that are blue.
4 things that are yellow.
3 things that are red.
2 things that are green
1 thing that is orange.

Say these things out loud. I hope it helps. Works wonders for me.

CailleachGranda · 26/03/2022 19:50

@mamabr

You shouldn't have to apologise, it's a shame that some people react so vile to other people genuine concerns. But we do not know what will happen and I think it's very unlikely. It was upsetting me knowing about all the children affected so I've had to stop watching the news and videos you see on Facebook and just tell yourself that there is nothing you can do.

To all the arse wipes that being cruel, if you don't like a post then just keep scrolling! It's really not that hard! Smh

No one's being cruel or vile

And I don't see MN in your name, so I'm guessing you're not a mod

Don't police the thread, please. Let posters respond as they see fit

AngelicaElizaAndPeggy · 26/03/2022 20:06

No, I'm not terrified. Firstly because it's vanishingly unlikely to happen, secondly because if it dead then we'd all be toast anyway and thirdly because, for the people of Ukraine, being blown up is quite a real fear. So therefore we owe it to them to be extremely grateful for our relative security and comfort every minute of every day.

VampireMoney · 26/03/2022 20:07

@Hbh17

No, not at all. Some of us remember all the drama in the 80s, and there was no chance of it happening then either.

But if it happens, then let's just hope for a direct hit that takes us all out immediately.

Pretty much agree with all of this.

alwaysontheloo · 26/03/2022 20:10

@Idroppedthescrewinthetuna

OP, I was concerned. In fact I lost sleep about it, I would wake feeling physically sick, crying silently in bed and walking around the dark house giving my sleeping children kisses and whispering I loved them, all this was way before nuclear warfare was mentioned in the news. I was quietly unstable. I just needed the time to rationalise and work out the reality if it all. Now I am not so worried. Is it possible, unfortunately yes, is it likely...no! In my honest opinion Nuclear war is highly unlikely. I believe nuclear weapons are there for threat only. Nobody wants to go nuclear, not even Putin. But everyone wants the power...mainly Putin. So in my eyes the most it will come to is empty but scary threats. I am more scared of Putin getting pissed off with the sanctions and then retaliating. (This is still unlikely, but more likely that going nuclear) Right now, we need to focus on things that are actually happening. Ukraine is getting bombarded, children are losing homes, stability at the very least. This is what I am focussing on. Donations are needed.

Op I an sorry you are suffering. I get it. Covid I was a wreck. Every time my kids coughed I would start pacing my hallway. My Dp is CEV. I took being scared of losing him to the extreme. We all got Covid, he didn't distance himself from us. In fact my youngest slept next to him dace to face while she was poorly. He never got it. Which in lesson to myself and to you, just because you are scared doesn't mean your fears will become true.
Take each day as it comes. Do not think of the whole picture. Each day as it comes. No nuclear weapons used today. Great, tomorrow will be the same. You are reading this. No weapons have been used.
When you get the bout of anxiety, start counting things.
5 things you see
4 things you hear
3 things you can touch.
2 things you can smell
1 thing you can taste.

Still in bout of anxiety.
5 things that are blue.
4 things that are yellow.
3 things that are red.
2 things that are green
1 thing that is orange.

Say these things out loud. I hope it helps. Works wonders for me.

@Idroppedthescrewinthetuna

That's such a lovely, thoughtful post.
And excellent advice

Waxonwaxoff0 · 26/03/2022 20:11

No, I am not remotely worried.

SaxendaSummer · 26/03/2022 20:13

@FourChimneys

I spent most of my teens worrying about being nuked and made some major decisions based on that. I refuse to start worrying again now.

thats how i feel too

Waxonwaxoff0 · 26/03/2022 20:15

Look at it this way - if there is a nuclear war, you can't do anything to stop it, would you rather have spent your last days in fear or spent them enjoying yourself?

DrSbaitso · 26/03/2022 20:15

I don't see how starting threads like this will help your anxiety.

duvetdayforeveryone · 26/03/2022 20:22

@DrSbaitso

I don't see how starting threads like this will help your anxiety.

(This is the video your comment reminded me of)

DrSbaitso · 26/03/2022 20:27

(This is the video your comment reminded me of)

I'm not sure who in the video is supposed to represent me, but it seems a pretty clear message that starting threads like this isn't a good coping mechanism.

Birdfooddirect · 26/03/2022 20:37

DrSbaitso

I don't see how starting threads like this will help your anxiety.

Maybe the poster will be reassured be other people, maybe she just needed to get it off her chest - you know with this being a chat forum n all that

Davros · 26/03/2022 20:38

@duvetdayforeveryone

I will report your post and ask for it to be moved to mental health. Whilst I sympathise with you, these posts should not keep popping up on Chat to terrorise us all.

Quite You can post what you like, you can feel the way you do but not appropriate to post this in Chat

DrSbaitso · 26/03/2022 20:42

@Birdfooddirect

DrSbaitso

I don't see how starting threads like this will help your anxiety.

Maybe the poster will be reassured be other people, maybe she just needed to get it off her chest - you know with this being a chat forum n all that

Yes, I'm aware it's a chat forum. That's why I'm responding. It's, you know, a chat forum.

I don't think starting internet threads all about the things causing you anxiety is a good coping mechanism. It certainly wouldn't have been suggested in the CBT I had for mine. There is often an element of self-perpetuation in anxiety and deliberately engineering uncontrolled exchanges in the ether could qualify.