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Should I stay or should I go

51 replies

Lily2075 · 26/03/2022 16:47

I've got the opportunity to go to Canada for initially 6 months, could be more if I like it and can get an extension on my visa. On a working holiday visa. I'm really unhappy with my life, I don't really like my job, I'm single no kids, rent so leaving a house wouldn't be a problem. Me and my friend applied on a wim and now it's actually happening I can't decide whether I want to go....I'd have to put all my belongings into storage and give my dog away. Arghhh I don't know what to do.

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Lesperance · 26/03/2022 17:30

Shame on you @LaraDeSalle kicking the OP when she has said she is down. The dog could be very happy with somebody else, hopefully somebody a bit nicer than you.

@Lily2075 is it a visa for somewhere specific in Canada or can you go anywhere?

VinylCafe · 26/03/2022 17:44

@LaraDeSalle

Give your dog away?

I would say no to anyone wanting to live under that idiot Trudeau’s regime in Canada but you seem right up his street if you would happily give your dog up to go away on a six months jolly.

Have fun and I hope your dog finds a loving owner who cherishes and loves them forever as they are well shot of you.

Oh do fuck off with your idiotic conservative comments.

There are some things I wish would change here in Canada (nowhere is perfect) but Trudeau is heads and shoulders better than O'Toole or any of his crack pot cronies.

As for your dog, you could probably bring your him with you but it might be kinder to rehome him with family or friends especially if you decide to go back.

midsomermurderess · 26/03/2022 17:49

@Crunchymum

Well what research have you done with regards to your dog?
How is that your business? This place gets battier by the day. The assumptions that people must justify themselves to the satisfaction of a stranger; express themselves to the satisfaction of another stranger, Bloody hell.
Movingonup22 · 26/03/2022 17:51

Well - I’ve got to agree with the flippancy of oh and I’ll have to “give away my dog”.

Poor dog.

girlmom21 · 26/03/2022 17:54

@midsomermurderess if she's asking for advice it's reasonable to ask what her plans are so that people can make an informed decision before sharing their opinion.

Musicalmaestro · 26/03/2022 17:56

I'd absolutely go OP, but Indo understand your dilemma

Musicalmaestro · 26/03/2022 17:56

I do understand.

Natfemale · 26/03/2022 18:00

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DisplayPurposesOnly · 26/03/2022 18:01

I was all for saying 'Go', it sounds like a no-brainer.

But your dismissive throwaway comment about "giving away your dog" was really upsetting to read.

EinsteinaGogo · 26/03/2022 18:01

@Movingonup22

Well - I’ve got to agree with the flippancy of oh and I’ll have to “give away my dog”.

Poor dog.

Well done for expecting the very same amount of social diplomacy and depth from every single person you come across on the internet.

How very emotionally intelligent if you.

RampantIvy · 26/03/2022 18:02

Maybe if the OP had worded it "rehome the dog with a dog lover" the dog obsessed posters would find it acceptable?

I'm not a dog hater BTW.

babywalker56 · 26/03/2022 18:10

@LaraDeSalle @girlmom21

You both sound seriously unhinged. You’re acting as if the OP said she’ll have to put her child in care for 6 months whilst she moves to Canada to try a new way of life. Or as if she’s said she’ll be dumping her dog on the roadside and will forget about them forever.

It’s a DOG. As long she provides suitable accommodation for her dog whether that be with a friend/family member, someone who will foster the dog or whatever. How is that even your business what plans she has for her dog. She also made it clear that one of the reasons why she’s hesitant is because she won’t be able to take her dog with her.

If the OP was getting married and wanted to move to another country, should she not go because she wouldn’t be able to bring her dog with her? Please get several grips

girlmom21 · 26/03/2022 18:14

@babywalker56 she hasn't considered plans for her dog. That's very clear.

I wouldn't consider going if it meant leaving my dog because I think it's cruel. He didn't ask for me to buy him. He's been with me for 4 years and I committed to owning a dog. Dogs aren't something you can just leave for 6 months and expect to be fine like a piece of furniture.

girlmom21 · 26/03/2022 18:15

And if my dog being important to me makes me unhinged then I guess I'm unhinged 🤷‍♀️

LowlandLucky · 26/03/2022 18:16

Lily Please please go for it, you can always come back but you may never get the opportunity again. Living abroad is an amazing experience. I am so jealous and i would love to go and live overseas again but i have a DH that won't even go to Spain for a weeks holiday.

babywalker56 · 26/03/2022 18:39

@girlmom21 she probably hasn’t even got as far as making proper arrangements for her dog as she isn’t even 100% sure if she wants to go! She said her and her friend applied on a whim and it’s clear by her explanation that she didn’t actually think she’d be in a position where she’d be considering to go.

Her OP also read that she’s hesitant to go because she’d have to put all of her stuff in storage AND leave her dog behind. Again, if you’d turn down new opportunities because you couldn’t bring your dog with you, then that’s you. No need to put that on the OP. As long as her dog is cared for/loved/looked after and she isn’t neglecting him/her then seriously what’s your problem

Cherrysoup · 26/03/2022 19:08

Jesus, typical MN derail. @Lily2075, go, change your life, I’d have given my right arm for an opportunity to move to Canada when younger. If you’re really unhappy, this might be the most amazing time in your life. Go for it.

CallMeDaddy58 · 27/03/2022 05:35

There’s absolutely no reason whatsoever not to take the dog with you to Canada. It needs up to date vaccines including a rabies vaccine & a passport. That’s it.

Nandocushion · 27/03/2022 05:54

@Natfemale

It’s very, very cold in the winter.
Not all of it. The whole "brr, Canada cold" thing is true in some areas and less so in others.
44PumpLane · 27/03/2022 05:55

It's not that hard to take your dog with you. Go but take the dog!

Mrstwiddle · 27/03/2022 05:59

You should do it, I recommend BC. Agree with others though, Trudeau is an idiot.

catchingzzzeds · 27/03/2022 06:06

I'm sorry you've had some harsh responses from those who seem emotionally tone deaf to your post.

I think you should go, life is for living. You are unhappy and you have a wonderful opportunity to make a change that could bring you happiness. The UK will still be here if you need it. Put yourself first.
As for the political stuff, the UK is hardly a shining example!

Goodbyetowinter · 27/03/2022 06:28

I had the opportunity to work in Canada years ago. I wish I had at least tried it for six months. You are clearly a dog lover who will ensure that yours will be loved and cared for. Many people when moving county have to make the decision to leave pets behind. I'm sure that DDog's best interests will be a priority for you. Go, give Canada a try.

Original poster
Lily2075 · 27/03/2022 18:59

@LaraDeSalle it is not the case that I only want to read posts that agree with me but you could have very easily said that you don't agree with someone leaving a pet behind to move abroad without saying it in the nasty way that you did. I'm glad mumsnet have deleted your comment as being against guidelines.

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DazedandConcerned · 27/03/2022 20:01

I’m Canadian and you couldn’t pay me to move home. But I’m happy and settled here.

What do you have to lose really? You are unhappy with work, single, no property, and have plans for your dog. If you’re as happy in Canada you can come back.

Where do you want to move to?