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Is this worth having checked our or is dh right and I'm being ridiculous

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OopsImDoingItAgain · 20/03/2022 08:31

3 year old in bed this morning slammed his entire head on to the back of my head, he was a pretty heavy skull and he put force into it. I woke up straight away in agony. His head slammed into bottom of my head and neck. Since then it's throbbed for 2 hours but also have a head ache all the top of my head into my forehead. It's just getting worse and feels like it's creeping lower down my forehead into my eyes. Made a horrible noise when he did it too. Said to dh not sure if I need to go and get looked at? Don't want to suddenly drop dead from some bleed on the brain but apparently I'm being ridiculous. Am I? I know that's obviously an extreme example but it really hurts and was pretty brutal with such force

OP posts:
334bu · 20/03/2022 10:45

111 now

Whiskers4 · 20/03/2022 10:47

Please ring 111 or go to A&E. I know someone who got hit in that area if the head, didn't get it checked- the consequences were devastating. Not trying to worry, but get yourself checked just to be sure

LottyD32 · 20/03/2022 10:51

@OopsImDoingItAgain

3 year old in bed this morning slammed his entire head on to the back of my head, he was a pretty heavy skull and he put force into it. I woke up straight away in agony. His head slammed into bottom of my head and neck. Since then it's throbbed for 2 hours but also have a head ache all the top of my head into my forehead. It's just getting worse and feels like it's creeping lower down my forehead into my eyes. Made a horrible noise when he did it too. Said to dh not sure if I need to go and get looked at? Don't want to suddenly drop dead from some bleed on the brain but apparently I'm being ridiculous. Am I? I know that's obviously an extreme example but it really hurts and was pretty brutal with such force
I wouldn't go to hospital unless a limb on hanging off but I'd go to hospital fir this ^

That doesn't sound right at all. I don't think it's one of those things to 'see how it goes'.

lollipoprainbow · 20/03/2022 10:54

I always worry about any sort of knock to the head after Natasha Richardson hit her head sking and then died soon afterwards despite feeling Ok.

DefiniteTortoise · 20/03/2022 10:56

DS2 gave me a hairline skull fracture by smashing his head into mine. Please go in.

NoToLandfill · 20/03/2022 10:57

That is a head injury. If it was on a sports field it would be checked out. Call 111

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pepsirolla · 20/03/2022 11:01

St John's ambulance first aid trained, can only add go to a and e ASAP.
Hopefully OK but you need to get checked by medic
Get a lift or taxi thereFlowers

LightSpeeds · 20/03/2022 11:07

Despite your husband's POOR ADVICE I hope he is sufficiently clued up enough about head injury symptoms to know when medical help is definitely needed (vomiting, loss of consciousness, any apparent loss of cognition, eyesight problems, etc.).

What is it with these total dickhead men who can't be trusted with someone else's health and safety!?

Get some advice asap. It sounds like there may be a problem. I hope you're ok Thanks

DefiniteTortoise · 20/03/2022 11:11

For context, DS2 was 8 at the time and smacked the front of my head with the crown of his. DH was completely dismissive and slept through the ambulance crew visiting, assessing me and taking me into hospital Hmm it lives on in household lore as the time he completely got the risk assessment wrong.

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OopsImDoingItAgain · 20/03/2022 11:15

It has somewhat eased but still sore where the impact was and a dull ache across my head. It's all happening whilst I'm waiting for a scan tomorrow after not finding babies heartbeat at 17 weeks yesterday so it's not a good day overall I'm an anxious wreck one minute stressing that my baby has passed and the next stressing that I'm having an internal bleed in my head. I'm in hospital in the morning so not sure if I should just mention it then and see if they can help or if I should go in specially now. Argh

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Quartz2208 · 20/03/2022 11:16

What is it lately with Husbands encouraging their Wives not to bother getting medical treatment and minimising symptoms?

I suspect in this case guilt that he was awake knew his son was awake and didnt deal with him until after all of this

Garman · 20/03/2022 11:18

You should go in now, like everyone is telling you to. Yeah, leave it til the morning, sure. That's always a good idea when you could have a bleed in your brain or a cracked skull.

TheShoeLady · 20/03/2022 11:19

Another one saying check it out - hope you’re ok and that you’re not responding because you’re being seen at a and e.

As someone who works in a school, we have a policy of any head bump no matter how minor (and most of them are veeeeery minor!) being recorded in a book, a phone call home to inform the parents to keep an eye later and a wristband being applied to alert teachers to any possible issues arising later in the day. Any headache or dizziness etc they’d be sent straight home with a parent and advised to have it checked out. Don’t take chances with head injuries. The creeping pain sounds like it needs checking out asap.

RoyKentsChestHair · 20/03/2022 11:21

Oh bless you, I’ve just seen your update. I’m sorry you have so much going on at the moment. Honestly just get it seen today. Flowers

RoyKentsChestHair · 20/03/2022 11:21

And even more upsetting that your H isn’t taking it seriously in this context.

2bazookas · 20/03/2022 11:30

both of you go to Aand E. Your symptoms need checking, don't wait until they get worse. The fact DC's head had a matching impact means he needs a check over too.

MuggleMadness · 20/03/2022 11:30

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said.

A&E TODAY (not waiting until tomorrows appointment in a totally different department!!)

Address DH's attitude to both this & dealing with DS.

DS needs to be taught it's unacceptable!! DH should have given him a proper telling off not taken him downstairs to play/watch TV.

I hope you get checked out today & you're OK & that things turn out OK tomorrow!!

Do NOT drive yourself to the hospital. Neighbour/friend/taxi...

Alittlepotofrosie · 20/03/2022 11:33

Yep go now. Don't mess around with heads.

ParisNext · 20/03/2022 11:36

I read your other thread and know it seems awful when 2 things seem to happen but they are totally unrelated. Why would you not get checked? Why not go and let a professional decide about your head. You could have a bleed or gravure on your skull. I was you once having fallen holding my toddler and twisted to protect the baby…I broke my foot and if I’d listened to everyone I’d have limped on my “sprain”. I came home from A&E with a cast on. Please please check.

Laiste · 20/03/2022 11:38

Oh gosh - Flowers OP x

Everything crossed for a good outcome of your baby scan tomorrow.

If it was me and i felt the pain was lessening and i had no nausea or vision disturbances i might hold off for a while before going to A&E. If for no other reason than round here i'd probably still be sitting there tomorrow when it's time for your scan! Is scan same hospital as A&E?

In all other cases i'd go. I would'nt ring 111 because it will lengthen the time you're hanging about today (waiting for doc call back can take ages) and they'll probably tell you to go anyway.

Good luck.

Sweepingeyelashes · 20/03/2022 11:38

I would go in specially now. I don't think that you can turn a scan for a heartbeat into something about you banging your head. Best of luck with the baby and the head. I lost the heartbeat for one of my babies once and it was terrifying as an obviously very concerned obstetrician kept scanning repeatedly over and over. The baby was fine though.

Will your husband be able to drive you? I think I'd be a bit wary of driving if you're possibly concussed and stressed.

By the way if one of my children had ever deliberately headbutted me like that - even at 3 - the punishment would have been instantaneous and would not have involved doing what he wanted. He would not have known how much damage he could do but he did want to hurt you when he wasn't getting his way. He would have been back in his bedroom minus any number of toys. He would have been taught that a violent outburst was not the way to get what he wanted. You certainly wouldn't want him doing that to other children.

lollipoprainbow · 20/03/2022 11:40

I'm sorry that your dp isn't being more supportive especially when you have the added worry over the baby.

headspin10 · 20/03/2022 11:43

I would definitely go and get checked out now. Don't wait till tomorrow.

So sorry to hear it's such a stressful time Sad and your DH is being a knob.

DefiniteTortoise · 20/03/2022 11:46

I suggest you call 111. They will probably send an ambulance and will bring you in if needed. This may be useful as it means you don't need to rely on your husband for anything transport.