Having a shitty old day. Please listen to my moan.

[jazzyoldjim]

So we have been planning family holiday for ages now. We've rented little caravan down by the coast for all 4 of us (2dc ages 4m and 4y) for minimal money and we spent last week or so getting excited and buying things we might need, swimwear, buckets and spades etc. We were supposed to leave today.

On Monday DH was struck down with something and was in bed for 3days. Cue 3 days and nights of me doing everything for 2dc and caring for him. Thursday rolls around and he is a bit better but by this time I am knackered from running about after everyone all week, still.. I single handedly pack up everyones clothes, all baby bits (so much stuff) and all 4yo things. Pack 4yo a holiday treat bag, take car to get air in tyres and fill up the tank with petrol (ouch) get online shop delivered and packed into holiday bags and fridge bags, drop off pets at kennels and whats more wrap up all DH's presents and pick up cake (its his birthday while we are away) I didn't stop til 9pm last night, quickly jump into bed because I have to drive 200 miles tomorrow (DH is a non driver.)

This morning I woke up to an email from DVLA, my car tax DD needs renewing because I have a new debit card. Fine, one last admin job... except I can't complete it because the fucking MOT actually ran out in NOVEMBER. I seem to remember getting a reminder but something else was going on... ah yes I was in labour birthing our second child. Shit.

So panic stations. Manage to somehow get an MOT booked in this morning so drive over there at 100mph with no makeup on and yesterdays socks on. Man agrees to do it while I wait so sit around for 2h waiting. Meanwhile my period is leaking all down the back of my jeans through my pad. Fuck sake.

Car fails the MOT. Repairs needed and the garage can't do them for another week.

One of the things it failed on: Air freshener hanging from mirror.

Holiday cancelled, 4yo in years, Massive car bill likely, Blood stained jeans. DH furious with me for forgetting MOT and ruining his birthday. Car-less for a week.

This is my pity party.

Oh god, that sounds bloody awful. So sorry OP. Life truly sucks sometimes.

There will be better times.

Have to say, I’m massively impressed you even attempted this with a 4mo!!

Sounds rubbish sorry to hear about your bad day - plus the repercussions.

Easy for non driver dh to criticise car-related omission.

Is there any other way you can travel to the holiday?
Or can another garage repair the car more quickly?

Pity away mate, sounds like one hell of a shit week for you all. I've had a shit week too so I shall join your pity party too if I may?

Try and do something nice for yourself this evening even just a bath and hot chocolate.

@Kirstos1 Go for it!

@onepieceoflollipop We looked into hire car, £250 tho and thats more than our spending money for the holiday. In all honestly the car repairs are probably going to gobble that up now. Wouldn't attempt public transport with 4m old I don't think.

Fucking hell that's a day and a half

I'm assuming hiring a car is a non starter as far as ideas go

Don't hot wash your jeans

That's a terrible series of events. I'm sorry OP.

@jazzyoldjim aaah that’s disappointing and frustrating.

Sending you a great big cyber hug (((( )))

4 month old on public transport is a dream really just pram and go the only tricky parts are train change overs or bus stops

Yes deffo don’t hot wash the jeans.
I’d soak them in cold water tonight then bio wash tomorrow.

DH furious with me for forgetting MOT

Tell him to learn to drive then. What's he been doing to contribute to the holiday apart from lying in bed all week?

I'm so cross at myself for forgetting the MOT, for some reason I thought it was July. I honestly just cried all the way home from the garage.

Best piece of news to come out of the whole day is that I managed to book into a garage tomorrow morning at 9am for the repairs so maybe we can salvage DH's birthday with a measly day trip or something.

Fuck, that’s a bad one. Big hugs, you’ve done well getting all that sorted. Have a holiday at home, do absolutely no housework, drink during the day, go out for dinner one night or order in. You might laugh about this in a decade…

@Theunamedcat Its quite a long way and also have a TON of stuff plus food. Plus public transport is probably more expensive than a hire car.

I forgot my MOT once it is easily done and I rarely forget anything. I was single and childless at that time so no excuse for me!

Sounds like you’ve got a lot on and a lot to remember.

OMG- don't feel bad. You were having a baby!! Sorry your holiday got cancelled but sounds like you have a lot on your plate so if you dont go away, maybe leave kids with DH and just have a day to yourself somewhere (lie in a field and scream at the sky )

@PrisonerofZeroCovid honestly, for my birthday I asked if I could check into the travel lodge down the road for a night and be left alone... everyone was very worried I had PND again. Nope.

That's shit! I feel for you op. I've had a shit week too. My lovely father in law died last week. I was the one who got there. My husband has stayed with mil since which he needs to because of physical issues, as well as the emotional support. I'm running the home ship and kids solo. My work has formed something of a perfect storm for the next week and a half and there is no one I can hand anything on to, I just have to push through when ideally I'd just cry.

I've just poured a glass of wine. About all you can do really. I hope your jeans survive at least!

@Reluctantadult ah shit that sounds really tough. I'm sorry.

I think the jeans will live to see another day, it felt much worse than it actually was.

Adulting sucks hey

Moan away,sounds absolutely awful and you must be so disappointed about the holiday.
It is very very easy to forgot an MOT ( I have done this myself - never got a reminder from the garage ) I used to like it when we had tax discs and my MOT coincided with the tax disc running out- much easier!
Dont let DH make you feel crap you've organised loads maybe generally he needs to step up a bit more.
If car is fixed today I'd be tempted to go on holiday anyway, if you can at all juggle it financially, sounds you need it! The holiday has been paid for and maybe you can just do free stuff when you are there? If car had failed MOT just after the holiday you'd be in same financial position as you are now. I hope car repair isn't too ruinous and you get to salvage holiday. If not I agree with don't do any housework and have lovely days out .

Er… where the fuck is your DH in all this? Never mind not being able to drive, he could bloody well help with the life admin side - and LEARN!

Oh that sucks OP . Anyone would moan!

Fingers crossed for the repairs today OP!