Having a shitty old day. Please listen to my moan.

[jazzyoldjim]

So we have been planning family holiday for ages now. We've rented little caravan down by the coast for all 4 of us (2dc ages 4m and 4y) for minimal money and we spent last week or so getting excited and buying things we might need, swimwear, buckets and spades etc. We were supposed to leave today.

On Monday DH was struck down with something and was in bed for 3days. Cue 3 days and nights of me doing everything for 2dc and caring for him. Thursday rolls around and he is a bit better but by this time I am knackered from running about after everyone all week, still.. I single handedly pack up everyones clothes, all baby bits (so much stuff) and all 4yo things. Pack 4yo a holiday treat bag, take car to get air in tyres and fill up the tank with petrol (ouch) get online shop delivered and packed into holiday bags and fridge bags, drop off pets at kennels and whats more wrap up all DH's presents and pick up cake (its his birthday while we are away) I didn't stop til 9pm last night, quickly jump into bed because I have to drive 200 miles tomorrow (DH is a non driver.)

This morning I woke up to an email from DVLA, my car tax DD needs renewing because I have a new debit card. Fine, one last admin job... except I can't complete it because the fucking MOT actually ran out in NOVEMBER. I seem to remember getting a reminder but something else was going on... ah yes I was in labour birthing our second child. Shit.

So panic stations. Manage to somehow get an MOT booked in this morning so drive over there at 100mph with no makeup on and yesterdays socks on. Man agrees to do it while I wait so sit around for 2h waiting. Meanwhile my period is leaking all down the back of my jeans through my pad. Fuck sake.

Car fails the MOT. Repairs needed and the garage can't do them for another week.

One of the things it failed on: Air freshener hanging from mirror.

Holiday cancelled, 4yo in years, Massive car bill likely, Blood stained jeans. DH furious with me for forgetting MOT and ruining his birthday. Car-less for a week.

This is my pity party.

What an utterly shit day!!

Sorry OP I hope your weekend improves!

Ps- I wouldn't be having your DH moaning at you after all that running about you've done.

Big glass of wine for you

That really sucks, although I would question that email from DVLA as your dd is taken using your sort code & account number, not your long card number from your debit card. That is unless it's not a dd and you pay by card then by all means update the details.

But please check it out first, I wouldn't want you day to get any worse.

Oh yes that’s a bad day. Poor you.

One of the things it failed on: Air freshener hanging from mirror.

I hope you can salvage something, OP.

You poor thing. Just a check, I assume you don't have aa or rac cover that includes a courtesy car? We had this and I didn't realise until after it was needed. I hope the repair bill isn't too bad. If they are pulling up this like an air freshener hopefully it is all pretty minor.

I think you need to stop giving yourself a hard time about salvaging your husbands birthday! I could understand it if it was one of your children but he needs to grow up quite frankly.

Awh that’s rubbish op. Give yourself a break though as you must have been 9 months pregnant when you got the mot reminder so no wonder you forgot. Could you borrow a car from family?

Aw that is so crap OP.

Diarise MOT for next year now and make some other admin DH's job. You can't be expected to remember everything and never drop the ball.

Is there a friend or family member who might let you borrow their car?

I mean £250 is a lot but if it means you don't waste all the money already spent on accommodation I would be tempted to pay it and salvage the holiday.

Also get DH some driving lessons! No wonder you are knacked!

That's massively shit op, I'm sorry

But wtf is your husband doing to lighten the load? A non driver can still organise things like tax and mot. Unless he was on death's doorstep he could have watched the kids while you ran around (as every single parent has to). I'm single now, but if my ex partner had took to his bed for 5 days with a cold then criticised me for forgetting one part of an enormous workload I would smother him with a pillow.

God that's awful. I'm really sorry.

I don't suppose anyone can lend you their car for a week? Getting put on insurance might not cost too much.

And yes, your husband. He needs to pull his finger out, and stop criticising. You're ill and have kids? Suck it up buttercup. Unless it's flu or truly disabling you've still got to pitch in.

And what do you mean about your birthday? Were you not "allowed" to go? Who disallowed it??

Dreadful ,shitty day doesn't cover it!

One of the things it failed on: Air freshener hanging from mirror. what kind of garage doesn't just take it off !

Might have been more hardwork in caravan ....try and have a nice week ,take aways ,leave little ones with DH and have a day on your own somewhere ,whatever cheers you up .

Hope DH has realised how wrong he is to criticise you and is being kind .

Oh no that does doing crap.

Fingers crossed the repairs aren't too expensive or take too long.

Try to do a few days out from home, tbh with a 4month old it sounds much easier in your own home anyway. Get yourself out of the house so you're not tempted to clean/organize. On a positive the weather looks good for bring out and about.

Can a relative lend you a car for the week? We only had to pay £5 extra insurance when we borrowed my FIL car for a week

One of the things it failed on: Air freshener hanging from mirror. what kind of garage doesn't just take it off !

Ex dps van failed mot because the windscreen wiper fluid was empty!

Ah thanks for all the kind replies. I couldn't borrow anyone elses car unfortunately because I have an automatic licence and the only person I know with an automatic car is my FIL who has a 40k range rover, so I wouldn't even ask.

Managed to get the car in the garage this morning and the good news is the repairs will only be £240 which is way less than I was expecting. The MOT retest is included in that, so at least it isn't breaking the bank. Holiday has been well an truly rescheduled though.