Serena74
I’ve had a baby 6months old I’m an older parent & baby is via ivf. I live in an inherited property which I had to raise a mortgage to pay off the other beneficiaries DH contributed 20% for purchase. I worked 9months into pregnancy & we had discussed I would like a year off. This changed after DH parents stayed with us. I have since continued to pay for all bills, mortgages baby’s clothes , foods nappies. Unfortunately my company have reduced my maternity pay. I have approached subject with DH if he would financially allow me to take full year. My DH is a high earner on a salary of £96k he stated he will provide £900pm towards the running costs of house& baby supplies only. Am I being unreasonable as feel this is not enough & will still leave me financially struggling. I want to enjoy my baby my DH does not assist around the house & only spends 20mins with baby here & there. I feel like I have to beg to try to increase this allowance. Am I being unreasonable & this will not cover all our living costs. I feel this has caused a strain in our marriage, I could go back to work but feel I will miss my baby & do not feel mentally prepared. I do not like to depend on DH and never have throughout relationship as he is very stingey.
Am I being reasonable this causing me mental & emotional suffering not knowing if he will increase allowance or even give me £900pm. He has a million pound property which he rents & receives income on top of his salary but never financially contributes towards baby or bills etc for the last 4years of being together.