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Feeling like my baby's harder.....

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TeethingProblems123 · 10/03/2022 15:17

Hi mumsnetters. NC for this. I'm feeling a bit down and incompetent, looking for some reassurance really. I've a beautiful, much longed for, 4 month old. No PND, mostly feeling pretty good, albeit tired. But, I've started to feel like my baby is harder work than all the others I see. I've been to a baby music group today which was lovely but honestly I've come away feeling crap. I seem to be surrounded by babies who will happily sit on their mum's lap or lie down contentedly whilst mine cries or just wants picking up. He was also sick (as in just brought up some milk) all over the floor - not a single other baby did this! We went for coffee as a group afterwards and my baby cried in the pram for ages before falling asleep. Not one other baby was crying! They either gazed around or fell asleep. I feel embarrassed, esp as one mum gave me a pitying look when he sicked up. It's bringing up age old feelings of not being good enough, like I'm doing it wrong but everyone else has it sussed. I just felt like I had a 'normal baby - he's very smiley but goes 0-100 in seconds - until I'm with other mums and their babies and I come away feeling like shit frankly. Does anyone else feel like this or has done? I think I need my head wobbling and a reminder that I'm not alone. Please god tell me I'm not alone in this as I feel like I am atm! I love him so much, I think he's wonderful, but I hate feeling so different.

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Itstheprinciple · 13/03/2022 08:39

My DD didn't like being a baby. As soon as she could walk and talk she chilled out massively.

DinosApple · 13/03/2022 09:33

I remember feeling the same OP. I think it was baby yoga. Four of us with 4 month old babies. The other three were content to lay on the pillow gazing up at their mum's. Mine was wriggling off and looking all around at the other adults and babies. I remember wondering why wasn't my baby just happy to contentedly stare at me. DD1 is 12 now, she was a very active toddler and child, calmed down a lot recently though.

I also remember meeting a very new first time mum with a 3 month old baby when my second was tiny and I was really sleep deprived. She told me her baby slept through from 2 weeks old and had to be woken for feeds.
The are now in year 6, and that kid sleeps like the dead at sleepovers!

The kids are all different, don't feel shit.
You're not alone. It's just luck and everyone is muddling through.

TinkerTinkerbelle · 06/05/2025 14:43

@TeethingProblems123 Did things improve? I have one of these. 5 months x

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