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My 3 year old is not in bed because...

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meow1989 · 28/02/2022 19:48

Or 2 or 4 or 5, why is your dc up past bedtime?

Mine has gone through needing a drink/ poo etc routine and I left him in bed with Alexa on. Popped into the kitchen to make pancakes (aware is day early I have no self control), came out 10 mins later to hear hysterical sobbing. Worked out between tears he is upset because "I wish you had a best decorations again" before more absolutely shoulder shaking wails.

I've worked out he's talking about a bauble I had out of a pack at Xmas that he emptied the glitter out of. I didn't even really have a go at the time,just told him it was my favourite and he had broken it. According to my now snuggled downstairs (because I am a soft touch) child, that was enough that he "thinks about it all the time" 🤷‍♀️ funny, sentimental little pickle.

Any one else's children have a ridiculous reason to have wriggled out of bedtime tonight?

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FaceLikeASlappedAss · 28/02/2022 19:57

Because she can't see with her eyes closed.
Bed is boring
Why does it have to be night every day

From my 3yr old.

Others have been in the past she doesn't like having toe nails. She doesn't think she had Enough snacks that day and is starving despite having a roast followed by ice cream then fruit.

TheGriffle · 28/02/2022 19:58

My 4 year old is in bed but refusing to sleep as I won’t make her a den. Me telling her it is bedtime and not den making time is not helping.

FaceLikeASlappedAss · 28/02/2022 19:59

But I'm mean I don't give in and let them down unless they're ill,
We also have the drink, wee, kiss, hug, squeeze from me, dh, ds. Then a certain baby to take to bed. And she's not stupid she'll mention the opposite to what's in the room. They're twin dolls but have different outfits now. I've since started making sure both are in the bed.

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RosaBaby2 · 28/02/2022 20:00

He's poorly today and I can't be arsed with the battle so I let him watch the ipad until he willingly handed it over (which took a lot less time than I thought!)

MartinMartinMarti · 28/02/2022 20:03

Not today thank fuck, but yesterday’s problem was dinosaurs.

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meow1989 · 28/02/2022 20:04

@facelikeaslappedass I don't normally but he was so sad I thought a quick snuggle downstairs might reset/ put some distance between sadness and bedtime. I've no idea why he thought of it poor love.

On a more silly note
Historically he also:
Can't close his eyes
he didn't have his sun and moon clock so he had to stay up all night
he didn't have his "babies" (teddies)

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Mummysgonetobed · 28/02/2022 20:06

I remember my then 4 year old telling me he couldn’t sleep because his yawn was broken.
Tonight all 3 have gone to bed on time amazingly.

theseriousmoonlight · 28/02/2022 20:08

Mine simply isn't tired. She's told me several times while yawning.

whereareyousleep · 28/02/2022 20:14

My 3 year old DS couldn't possibly go to bed at the normal 7pm as he had planned a 'boxing match'HmmHmm

This had not been mentioned once during the day, he or us have never had a boxing match and I have no clue where he got the idea from he was absolutely distraught that he couldn't have one!

AllYouCanEatBrestaurant · 28/02/2022 20:18

Because he's autistic and routine changed again with going back to school. We're currently taking turns to count up to 1000, then we'll probably count up to all the local bus numbers, then talk about what comes after or before several numbers before we count to 1000 again.

BobHadBitchTits · 28/02/2022 20:21

Last night my 5 year old got out of bed to tell me he wasn't tucked in.

He was tucked in until he got out of bloody bed!

VladmirsPoutine · 28/02/2022 20:21

My 3yo niece occasionally says she can't go to bed because her teddies are all sleeping in there and she doesn't want to disturb them by getting in. A very empathetic young woman you see!

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meow1989 · 28/02/2022 20:22

@allyoucaneatbrestaurant

That sounds very hard going Flowers

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CoralDaffodil · 28/02/2022 20:23

We’re flexible on bedtime when we aren’t at work in the morning! And he likes to stay up until we are both home from work. (This works for now, but we will get stricter as school approaches)

Doublechins · 28/02/2022 20:23

My 3 year old was in and out of bed so many times I eventually gave in and he's in my bed snoring away. I think back to nursery after half term has unsettled him a bit.

This means that I'm now stuck with him lying on top of me so my 7 year old is still watching YouTube instead of sleeping though. Can't win 'em all...

SickAndTiredAgain · 28/02/2022 20:26

DD (2.5) just came out of her bedroom wearing 7 socks on one foot and saying it’s stopping her sleeping 🙄

Fluffycloudland77 · 28/02/2022 20:27

Because your not allowed to smack them anymore Wink

It took me years to realise my grandma tucked me in with sheets and blankets while she had a duvet becuase a tightly tucked blanket cant be escaped easily. You have to want it more than the blanket does in that situation Grin

AllYouCanEatBrestaurant · 28/02/2022 20:30

[quote meow1989]@facelikeaslappedass I don't normally but he was so sad I thought a quick snuggle downstairs might reset/ put some distance between sadness and bedtime. I've no idea why he thought of it poor love.

On a more silly note
Historically he also:
Can't close his eyes
he didn't have his sun and moon clock so he had to stay up all night
he didn't have his "babies" (teddies)
[/quote]
Even children get that God awful time, when you want to sleep or on the edge of sleep, and you suddenly relive old embarrassments, upsets and other brain worms that get your mind whirring. He probably has a sense of guilt around it but might not be able to understand the emotion. Maybe suggest you both choose a special for next year, and it'll be super special as you chose it together. It might lay the guilt or upset to rest and 'make it better'.

He sounds like an utter sweetie.

Junobug · 28/02/2022 20:33

My 3 year old now starts off in my bed as his bed is just too long for him. He is only a little boy and doesn't need a long bed, so he should sleep with mummy and daddy can have the long bed as he is the tallest.

Which is great logic other than my bed is long and wide and he definitely is too small for that.

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meow1989 · 28/02/2022 20:35

That's a nice idea, I'll mention it to him. He is an absolute babe, certainly a sensitive little soul. I am a little worried (no pun intended) that he will end up with anxiety like me, so we do talk about feelings a fair amount.

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meow1989 · 28/02/2022 20:35

@SickAndTiredAgain

DD (2.5) just came out of her bedroom wearing 7 socks on one foot and saying it’s stopping her sleeping 🙄
I did a very attractive little snort at this Grin
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meow1989 · 28/02/2022 20:37

@Junobug

My 3 year old now starts off in my bed as his bed is just too long for him. He is only a little boy and doesn't need a long bed, so he should sleep with mummy and daddy can have the long bed as he is the tallest.

Which is great logic other than my bed is long and wide and he definitely is too small for that.

Oh this reminds me of a meltdown a few weeks ago - he was beside himself because he is getting taller as he gets older and would he be too long for his bed one day. I reassured him it was unlikely that he would end up quite that long but if he did I promise I'd buy a bigger bed.

He then started crying because it would mean his wardrobe wouldn't fit in his room any more Grin

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RonRonRonWeasley · 28/02/2022 21:02

My 5 year old got out of bed to tell me one of his toe nails was too long and it needed urgently clipping Grin

SpikeDearheart · 28/02/2022 21:12

Not tonight but recently: "because you can't do it but you didn't do it!!!"

Yep, work that one out Hmm

SummerRain41287 · 28/02/2022 21:19

These are all so sweet. Made me smile. My DC usually fights me every single night but she's been up since 4:30am and been at nursery all day. Fell asleep within 10 minutes. 1-0 to me Wink