Wedding gift - cash - how much?

[HowMuchToGive]

Name change as girlfriend will see this.

We are going to a wedding next weekend, all day guest in a fancy wedding venue.
The groom is a friend of my girlfriend’s, they have known each other about 10 years or so. I haven’t met the couple yet.
We are travelling to wedding and staying overnight.
Bride and groom already live together and have asked for a contribution to their honeymoon as a gift.

So with that in mind, how much do you think is an appropriate amount?

£50

£50

I’d probably give £100 if they hadn’t asked for contributions to a honeymoon but since they have, they’d get £50.

I HATE being asked for cash to fund a trip they can’t afford.

£50

£50 I think maybe £100 if she was really close to him. I got married recently and £50 was about average that people kindly gave us.

Whatever u can afford. We had some guests who gave £10, £20,£40 & £100

I think £50 too but girlfriend worries it doesn’t look enough.

They can’t be that close if you haven’t met the groom. So £50.

I would say £100 if they were closer.

@HowMuchToGive

I think £50 too but girlfriend worries it doesn’t look enough.

Do you share finances? If not she can give more.

Where are you? If they are a good friend of your GF and are in Britain, I’d say £75ish (maybe £100). If you are in Ireland, €200 is the going rate for a couple at a wedding.

Give what you can afford. I got married last year and most gave £50 but some also £20 £30. Never bothered me I wouldn't of cared if they come with nothing but that's just me 😬

No we don’t share finances and already agreed she will give more. How much do you think we should contribute each?

Does it look stingy if I don’t contribute to the gift at all and she writes it just from her? I’m thinking along the lines of - I’ve never met these people, have only been invited as a plus one, I’m having to spend money on an outfit and staying overnight so not too keen on paying for their honeymoon but girlfriend thinks it looks bad.
Happy to be told I’m in the wrong if I am.

Give a bottle of bubbly, worth about £25

Whatever u can afford. We had some guests who gave £10, £20,£40 & £100

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It is about what you can afford. IF you don't know them and are going as a +1, I wold expect the gift to come from your gf though, not you.

Give a bottle of bubbly, worth about £25

Please don't do this. Many, many people don't even like champagne, and those that do, don't need to stockpile a couple of dozen bottles. It is such a waste of money. Either give cash, or don't give anything. Don't give the message that you know better than the couple getting married what they themselves would like.

I think £50-100 is about right and whatever you can afford with in this.

I wouldn't expect my husband to contribute to gift if it were my friend getting married and I would pay for hotel and travel. Depends on your financial circumstances.

• Give a bottle of bubbly, worth about £25

Please don't do this. Many, many people don't even like champagne, and those that do, don't need to stockpile a couple of dozen bottles. It is such a waste of money. Either give cash, or don't give anything. Don't give the message that you know better than the couple getting married what they themselves would like.*

Don’t be so dramatic - stockpile of a couple of dozen bottles :-) A lot of people like champagne and if they don’t and get the odd bottle, they can take it to a barbecue or party. I don’t care what ‘message’ it gives. I think it’s bloody rude asking people to pay for your holiday.

£50 and then you could add bottle of champagne if you want it to look more.

Champagne is nice thing to have in stock for visitors so pretty sure it wouldn't go to waste.

@Eggshausted

Give a bottle of bubbly, worth about £25

But they’ve asked for cash

I’d give £50

@HowMuchToGive

Does it look stingy if I don’t contribute to the gift at all and she writes it just from her? I’m thinking along the lines of - I’ve never met these people, have only been invited as a plus one, I’m having to spend money on an outfit and staying overnight so not too keen on paying for their honeymoon but girlfriend thinks it looks bad. Happy to be told I’m in the wrong if I am.

Yes it’s cheap as fuck stingy

It’s a fancy wedding and you as a guest are going to be costing minimum £100 + VAT for your plate and then there is booze on top.

Kick in £50.
£100 as a couple is totally standard.

If it’s such a hardship to attend I don’t know why you agreed to accept their hospitality…

If you're both going as all day guests then £50 each I'd say is the acceptable rate if you can afford it. If evening only guests half that.

All day and a plus +1? I’d definitely gift £100

Your girlfriend contributes £50 and you contribute a bottle of Moet.

£50 between you. I don't think you should worry about giving more, the couple know you'll be covering hotel and travel costs etc. £50 is a good amount (25 each).
Don't give a bottle.
We received several and had nowhere to store them and don't often drink champagne. We gave them all away and could have done without the extra baggage leaving the wedding venue.