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Wedding gift - cash - how much?

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HowMuchToGive · 24/02/2022 14:31

Name change as girlfriend will see this.

We are going to a wedding next weekend, all day guest in a fancy wedding venue.
The groom is a friend of my girlfriend’s, they have known each other about 10 years or so. I haven’t met the couple yet.
We are travelling to wedding and staying overnight.
Bride and groom already live together and have asked for a contribution to their honeymoon as a gift.

So with that in mind, how much do you think is an appropriate amount?

OP posts:
HollowTalk · 24/02/2022 19:54

But in the olden days, people bought a toaster so that the couple didn't have to buy a toaster and can spend the money on a honeymoon. Nowadays they have the toaster so why does it matter if they spend their money on a honeymoon?

peboh · 24/02/2022 19:55

As a standard monetary gift dh and I tend to give £100. More if they're really close friends or family.

RealRaymondReddington · 24/02/2022 19:56

I think £50 is more than generous enough. I would go £30, weddings are so expensive to attend.

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PeacefulPrune · 24/02/2022 19:57

She gives £40, you give £10 but together from both of you.

Asdf12345 · 24/02/2022 19:58

Last similar wedding we went to we gave £250 cash.

Totalwasteofpaper · 24/02/2022 20:00

@Asdf12345

Last similar wedding we went to we gave £250 cash.
Yes us too.

I think £100 as a couple is a minimum acceptable amount

RealRaymondReddington · 24/02/2022 20:01

I should say, I'd spend up to £50 on a gift, but I find asking for cash contributions rude after all the costs associated with attendance.

Riverlee · 24/02/2022 20:03

£50 between you.

Kite22 · 25/02/2022 00:04

Don't forget that the demograph on MN is very skewed towards the wealthier end of society.

We had some guests who gave £10, £20,£40 & £100

This was my close relative's experience (last person to have got married that I know well enough to have that conversation with, in terms of how much I ought to give for a gift going to someone else's wedding). The couple are young professionals, 5 and 8 years out of University, with most of their friends being similar if that is helpful to judge.
Other than to your own child or possible niece, nephew , Grandchild or Godchild, I don't think it is typical for any couple to give such large amounts as mentioned here, for most of society.

DuggeeHugPlease · 25/02/2022 00:25

I got married 10 years ago so may be a bit out of touch but we were given on average £50 per couple - some less and some more.

For close friends or family I would give more but in this situation £50 sounds ok - decide between you who funds it but definitely write both your names on the card if you've been invited as a couple.

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