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What is so good about being female?

52 replies

reallybroody · 22/02/2022 19:27

In all honestly I'm sick of being female right now.

We have to go through periods, pregnancy (obviously if you want to), smear tests, mammograms.

We get paid less than men still, left behind for promotions as managers see women going off on maternity leave and childcare so don't feel they are as worthy.

We deal with unwanted advances from men, there's been so many murders of women walking home alone so that's another thing we can't do safely.

We deal with the housework, childcare, running of the household all whilst working.

Seriously what is so great about being female as I'm not seeing any positives anymore

(Side note: I've just been for an agonising smear test so feeling very angry at what we women have to deal with)

OP posts:
CoffeeCakeChill · 22/02/2022 19:29

Watching with interest...

But if i had to say something its dh doing the shit jobs like walking the dog at night because its more safe but i cba?? Scraping the barrell here...

Octopus37 · 22/02/2022 19:29

I think that generally we do better when it comes to have close friendships and we get to wear nice clothes. Otherwise, I totally agree with you

Changemaname1 · 22/02/2022 19:30

At this point I’m gonna say multiple orgasms n that’s about it

🤷🏻‍♀️

On a serious note though men by far get the better deal in life

CrimbleCrumble1 · 22/02/2022 19:32

We live longer than men.

AmberLynn1536 · 22/02/2022 19:33

Scrapping the barrel here but we live a few years longer, we can wear fake hair without getting laughed at, but that’s all I’ve got!!

Original poster
reallybroody · 22/02/2022 19:33

@CrimbleCrumble1

We live longer than men.
Only because we are smarter than men
OP posts:
ouch321 · 22/02/2022 19:34

As I commented on another thread once I can't understand why people say they want a baby girl when expecting.

Who'd wish being female on a newborn!!!

Original poster
reallybroody · 22/02/2022 19:34

I'm so glad I'm not alone in feeling like this.

Just got the proper rage tonight

OP posts:
Waxonwaxoff0 · 22/02/2022 19:35

I wouldn't want to be a man even though they have a better deal in many ways. After dealing with useless men my entire life I view most of them with contempt and think they're often quite pathetic.

waterlego · 22/02/2022 19:36

For me personally, it’s female friendships and solidarity. I don’t have loads of friends but the ones I do have are just brilliant. No one can beat them in terms of a) making me laugh and b) making me feel supported. Friendships I have had with men aren’t quite the same. Great in their own way, but just not the same.

And I often feel solidarity with female strangers in a way that I don’t with men.

Ionlydomassiveones · 22/02/2022 19:37

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JellybabyGina87 · 22/02/2022 19:39

The close bond with our children. I know dads have that too but I think there's something amazing about the love between a mother and child. We're emotionally strong. And we have a clitoris.

Beachsidesunset · 22/02/2022 19:42

We're highly unlikely to be called up for war.

Peterpiperpickedapepper · 22/02/2022 19:44

We get to carry our children, feed them from our bodies (if we wish) and live for longer. We also have multiple orgasms, are able to cover a multitude of sins with make up and hair dye, have a wider selection of fashion, generally an easier time in education and are able to find lost items, unlike men who are genetically programmed to “man scan”. I love being a woman and although I accept there are some harsh differences that aren’t positive overall I feel lucky.

Bananarice · 22/02/2022 19:45

Sometimes it feels like I'm allowed more sympathy, compared to dh. About pregnancy loss.

Women live longer (this is a neutral point).

radiocity · 22/02/2022 19:45

We get paid less than men still, left behind for promotions as managers see women going off on maternity leave and childcare so don't feel they are as worthy.

Speak for yourself OP! I'm not paid less than my male colleagues.

I love being a woman! I'd hate to be a man.

Isn't suicide higher amongst men than women? That should tell us something.

Janesmom · 22/02/2022 19:46

Much more choice around careers and flexible working (which, ironically, is why many people now claim women are paid less than men!).

I really welcome the flexibility to work part time and know many men who’d struggle to get approval for the same type of arrangement.

Oblomov22 · 22/02/2022 19:46

We multi task better, more caring.

I'd like to see a good description. On the trans threads I haven't seen a decent description.

okelydokelyneighbourino · 22/02/2022 19:47

@Changemaname1

At this point I’m gonna say multiple orgasms n that’s about it

🤷🏻‍♀️

On a serious note though men by far get the better deal in life

Never even had one.

I can't think of any reasons it's good other than friends.

purplehairlady · 22/02/2022 19:49

We tend to get more emotional support from friends & are allowed to express our emotions more

Less pressure "stereotypically" to provide for our families - SAHD sometimes excluded / looked down on

Generally recipient of nice gifts & flowers more than me

Lower expectations in terms of DIY

Often have better bond / easier one with children

More chances to pamper ourselves

Davros · 22/02/2022 19:50

@waterlego

For me personally, it’s female friendships and solidarity. I don’t have loads of friends but the ones I do have are just brilliant. No one can beat them in terms of a) making me laugh and b) making me feel supported. Friendships I have had with men aren’t quite the same. Great in their own way, but just not the same.

And I often feel solidarity with female strangers in a way that I don’t with men.

This totally. I love being a woman and I love my sister and female friendships
mudgetastic · 22/02/2022 19:52

Isn't it
Suicide rate higher in men
Suicide attempts equal

lljkk · 22/02/2022 19:53

I am female...
I guess blokes can have prostrate screening, finger up the rectum, recommended every 1-2 years from age 40+ (says Google)... I want to submit that smear tests & mammograms are equally voluntary.

My period isn't a stress to me (tbf, nowadays, more trouble when I was young).

I earn more than DH.
I'm as promoted as I want to be.
I feel appreciated by my colleagues & managers (of either sex).

I walk home safely.

The only person in this household who has been assaulted in public (or anywhere), in last 10 years, was teen DS. No, he wasn't drunk.

DH runs our household; he likes it. He's quite domestic. I'm a lazy slattern.

Blokes do actually have bloke specific-problems. I can't imagine wanting to be a bloke. Yick. Testicles are just... no.

CrimbleCrumble1 · 22/02/2022 19:56

I’d like to orgasm easily from intercourse but other than that I like everything about being a woman. I think I’d be a rubbish man.

DementedPanda · 22/02/2022 19:59

Friendships for one. I used to think bah why is it women who have to go through child birth etc, but the pregnancy experience and having your newborn placed on your chest is priceless (assuming you have an easy time) not too sure about the perimenopause... Still trying to find a positive in that.

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