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Emails ignored, is this bullying?

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LakesandSnow · 21/02/2022 10:14

I work in an organisation of approx 200 people. My emails are often completely ignored by people men even when I have directly asked them (rather than, say, copying them in on something). Part of my job involves raising funds for the company, the people ignoring my emails could positively impact on this at no cost to themselves. (And arguably would benefit from it).
The big boss (female) who I report directly into has previously agreed it is really rude but not really done anything about it except make supportive noises.
I'm utterly fed up. I do a good job but I feel invisible, thwarted and really down.

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EthicalNonMahogany · 22/02/2022 12:56

Yes @ABitBesotted this thread has haunted me because I keep thinking how do people do their jobs if this is the sort of assumptions they are making...

ShowMeTheSugar · 22/02/2022 13:07

I read it as though it's something like sharing on LinkedIn, inviting prospective clients/existing ones to open days or sessions or sharing newsletters.

Something that isn't fundamental to the company (explaining why the senior manager isn't too bothered), isn't part of anyone's role (explaining why it's the bottom of the staffs priority list) but important to the OP.

Ajl46 · 22/02/2022 14:20

You might need to be a bit more direct and spell out exactly what you want the audience to do and by when.

Kite22 · 22/02/2022 18:34

Thing is, unless OP comes back with more information, then we are all speculating anyway.
(Apart from the fact that OP has misunderstood the word 'bullying')

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 22/02/2022 18:57

@FrippEnos

ChiefWiggumsBoy You need a sentence in each email that basically says if you don’t come back to me by X date/time, then I will make the decision for you.

Just going to point out that this won't work if its some else's time, personnel usage or budget that the OP is trying to take.

I mean, that’s what’s happening at the moment though, her manager is aware no one is replying but won’t offer her support
Lunaballoon · 22/02/2022 19:12

My boss frequently does this but I wouldn’t regard it as bullying, rather him being scatterbrained, disorganised and always prioritising communications with people higher up in the organisation.
If I need an urgent response in order to progress with my work, I just call him, which is more time consuming and definitely less preferable to having a clear response in writing.

Appletreechocolatecake · 22/02/2022 19:33

I get this all the time. There are three people I can think of at the top of my organisation who I need to ask to do things in order to progress tasks on a fairly regular basis. One just point blank ignores everything though I know that if I were more senior she would answer in a flash. I gave up asking for her help on something eventually and the task was never done. I don’t know how she can not feel embarrassed just ignoring my emails and follow ups - I’m very busy too but always manage to reply to requests. The other two generally take about a month to reply saying they will do the thing I’ve asked them to do then don’t and I have to follow up again. One of them I’ve been asking for the same thing since bloody September.

I’m sure they all consider themselves to be terribly productive successful people but as far as I’m concerned they are fucking useless, obstructive and an impediment to progress.

Appletreechocolatecake · 22/02/2022 19:36

And just to add, what I’m asking each of them to do is part of their role, and very much part of mine. It stops me being able to carry out core business activities. I can’t complain because they are all extremely senior.

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 22/02/2022 20:13

Pick the phone up, much more effective than email

Rainallnight · 22/02/2022 20:19

OP, you need to bear in mind that quote that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

The emails are not working. Try something else.

TheOccupier · 22/02/2022 20:33

It's not bullying, they're just crap. Do any of these people have PAs you could befriend who could give them a nudge to reply?

BookFiend4Life · 22/02/2022 21:04

I would respond on the chain

"Just following up, the deadline for this action is x.

Thanks!"

And cc his boss

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