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A Saturday CF thread. Annoyed I wasn’t more assertive!

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OhToBeinDeutschland · 19/02/2022 12:26

Interested to see how you would have handled this in the moment. I’m not a pushover at all and am happy to make a point (nicely!) if something isn’t right in a restaurant etc so am very annoyed at how I dealt with this last night, but in the moment I just wasn’t assertive enough.

We were away in a hotel for a couple of nights. Went down to reception and asked them to call us a taxi to a bar in town where we had a booking and we’re meeting friends. Waited a while and there was another couple waiting also. A taxi arrived and they went out thinking it was theirs. It wasn’t and someone else went out and got in. Eventually 3 taxis turned up so they went out and so did we. We’d been told the name of our cab company and only one of these cars was from that company. They approached this cab and gave their room number and we waited behind. The driver said no and asked us our room number. It was our cab. The man from the other couple said something about they’d been waiting longer (they had to be fair!) and it was annoying because they were going to the same place as us anyway. We immediately said oh get in with us then! They did, and the driver apologised saying he had to take the people from the room number he was given. They understood and came with us in the cab. No problem. The man of the couple sat in the front and said we’ll pay for the cab as we jumped in your taxi. We said oh we’ll buy you a drink. We laughed about not carrying cash any more and the taxi took card. They said no need to buy a drink. The taxi was just under £6 and he paid. We got to the bar and met our friends and they went to their friends. The barman came and asked for our drinks order. I said to my partner we’d better offer the other couple a drink. I motioned to them and the man came over and said yes please, a double gin and lemonade and a pint of moretti. Totalled £17! I just ordered them and took them to them. Why did I do that? What would you have actually done in the moment? I keep thinking I should have either just ordered a single gin, or laughed and said ‘wow that was an expensive cab journey!’ or something,

How would you really have reacted? Were they CF? Not a problem? Was I a pushover?

Great (very rare!) night out anyway and a bit of a story to tell the teens later when we see them. No biggie but interested in your thoughts!

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FelicityBeedle · 19/02/2022 12:28

You offered to buy them a drink, and they accepted. It was expensive but that’s hardly their fault

mamaes · 19/02/2022 12:28

You offered them a drink and they accepted? Unless I'm missing something I don't see what's cheeky about it

NoSquirrels · 19/02/2022 12:29

You offered to buy 2 people a drink each, and you did. The end.

RubyRedRoses · 19/02/2022 12:29

Hmmmmm I don't think they were in the wrong. They didn't ask for a drink. You insisted. Their drinks order wasn't unreasonable at all and I don't even drink! That's a normal round. Expensive, but drinking out is expensive

NuffSaidSam · 19/02/2022 12:30

You offered.

He said don't worry.

You offered again, motioning to them across a bar.

He came over (having been summoned by you) and said yes.

Who is a CF? You're a bit annoying, but I can't see anyone who is a CF!

CrystalCoco · 19/02/2022 12:31

Yip CF ordering a double! I probably would have ordered a single as I'm tight like that

Luredbyapomegranate · 19/02/2022 12:31

Yep, you offered, they took you up on it.

I wouldn’t have asked for a double personally, but it would have been rude for you to have commented (although in your shoes I might have just ordered a single and said nothing.)

Pegasussnail · 19/02/2022 12:31

They were very rude and cheeky

Luredbyapomegranate · 19/02/2022 12:32

@CrystalCoco

Yip CF ordering a double! I probably would have ordered a single as I'm tight like that

Ha SNAP

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OhToBeinDeutschland · 19/02/2022 12:32

Haha fair enough! I just wouldn’t dream of asking for a double anything if someone was offering me a drink to make up for a cab fare.

How am I annoying? 😂

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DropYourSword · 19/02/2022 12:32

I would never have offered to buy them a round of drinks as a way to repay a £6 taxi fare! You did them a favour by letting them into your taxi, they paid for it. Should have been left there.

Cakelover17 · 19/02/2022 12:33

They weren’t CF. They offered to pay for taxi, you offered a drink and they said no need! But you’d had a chat and been nice to each other so you bought them a round, even though they’d already said no thanks. Neither if you did anything wrong! It was obviously going to cost more than the £6 taxi so how are they suppose to guess the price cap?

NuffSaidSam · 19/02/2022 12:35

How am I annoying? 😂

You didn't take no for an answer on the drinks issue.

You then started a thread claiming they are CF for accepting the drink you insisted they have.

What did you want them to do? Pick two drinks that came to the exact amount of the cab fare?

DropYourSword · 19/02/2022 12:36

@OhToBeinDeutschland

Haha fair enough! I just wouldn’t dream of asking for a double anything if someone was offering me a drink to make up for a cab fare.

How am I annoying? 😂

I don't think you're actually annoying!

But it could have been annoying for the couple. Maybe this is their standard round, what they always choose to drink when they're out. And they just wanted their usual. It would have been irritating for them to have had to actively change their order out of social nicety, given they'd already declined!!

fullofpips · 19/02/2022 12:37

I would also be annoyed but would've bit my lip and done it anyway! I don't think their drinks order is over the top, but £17 for that is a bit excessive

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 19/02/2022 12:37

This is all your own making so I don’t think they were being CF.

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OhToBeinDeutschland · 19/02/2022 12:38

I don’t think they found me annoying at all. They got a cab which they otherwise would have waited longer for and missed out on more of the activity they’d booked than we all already did. They then got drinks. I really didn’t annoy them I promise

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tillytoodles1 · 19/02/2022 12:40

You did insist on buying them drinks, but if we'd have been them , we would have asked for two havesof lager or something cheaper. I certainly wouldn't have asked for a double gin.

shivermetimbers77 · 19/02/2022 12:40

I don’t think they were cheeky: drinks are just very expensive these days! I bought a round for four people the other day and it cost £32!!! I nearly fainted. Never going out again! 😁

RubyRedRoses · 19/02/2022 12:41

I think insisting on buying then a drink when they probably just wanted to be left alone and had already said no thank you and then getting annoyed that it was too expensive is quite annoying. I don't think YOU are annoying though. But that is annoying.

NuffSaidSam · 19/02/2022 12:41

@OhToBeinDeutschland

Well, no. They probably think you're a nice lady who bought them a drink.

They don't know you're slagging them off on the internet.

They might find that a bit annoying.

tillytoodles1 · 19/02/2022 12:41

Halves of!

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OhToBeinDeutschland · 19/02/2022 12:44

I did think about leaving it and not bothering to ask them but they were right there when we were ordering so I just did a ‘drink?’ motion and he came over with their order. Not an issue really. I always struggled to be more assertive when I was younger and have got better over the years so wondered if I should have reacted differently. Some of you having the same afterthought I had that I should have just ordered a single and not said anything. I do get what the pp said about them just wanting their normal drinks which is also fair enough. I think in their shoes I’d just have said it’s ok again when I motioned but you’re right, I did ask. Maybe that was my mistake

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alltheseasons · 19/02/2022 12:45

They wouldn't have got two drinks for the price of half a £6 cab fare, so I'm not sure why you offered that in the first place.

RubyRedRoses · 19/02/2022 12:46

Yes, I think people want their normal drink. I don't drink, but my gin loving bestie would rather not have a drink at all if you bought him a single g&t. So I don't think they set out to fleece you. They said no in the first place. Definitely not cheeky.

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