A Saturday CF thread. Annoyed I wasn’t more assertive!

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Interested to see how you would have handled this in the moment. I’m not a pushover at all and am happy to make a point (nicely!) if something isn’t right in a restaurant etc so am very annoyed at how I dealt with this last night, but in the moment I just wasn’t assertive enough.

We were away in a hotel for a couple of nights. Went down to reception and asked them to call us a taxi to a bar in town where we had a booking and we’re meeting friends. Waited a while and there was another couple waiting also. A taxi arrived and they went out thinking it was theirs. It wasn’t and someone else went out and got in. Eventually 3 taxis turned up so they went out and so did we. We’d been told the name of our cab company and only one of these cars was from that company. They approached this cab and gave their room number and we waited behind. The driver said no and asked us our room number. It was our cab. The man from the other couple said something about they’d been waiting longer (they had to be fair!) and it was annoying because they were going to the same place as us anyway. We immediately said oh get in with us then! They did, and the driver apologised saying he had to take the people from the room number he was given. They understood and came with us in the cab. No problem. The man of the couple sat in the front and said we’ll pay for the cab as we jumped in your taxi. We said oh we’ll buy you a drink. We laughed about not carrying cash any more and the taxi took card. They said no need to buy a drink. The taxi was just under £6 and he paid. We got to the bar and met our friends and they went to their friends. The barman came and asked for our drinks order. I said to my partner we’d better offer the other couple a drink. I motioned to them and the man came over and said yes please, a double gin and lemonade and a pint of moretti. Totalled £17! I just ordered them and took them to them. Why did I do that? What would you have actually done in the moment? I keep thinking I should have either just ordered a single gin, or laughed and said ‘wow that was an expensive cab journey!’ or something,

How would you really have reacted? Were they CF? Not a problem? Was I a pushover?

Great (very rare!) night out anyway and a bit of a story to tell the teens later when we see them. No biggie but interested in your thoughts!

I still think it's fine. It's their drink and what they wanted. They didn't want a single!

And really how much difference did it make - a few pounds ultimately.

I don’t know why you bought them a drink, when they said no worries.
The taxi cock-up wasn’t anyone’s fault. You’d done them a favour by letting them in your cab. They repaid that by paying for the cab. Job done. So why did you then offer a drink? Then when they said no need, buy them one anyway???

Then start a thread asking if they are cheeky fuckers. They are defo not cheeky fuckers.

I don't think there was much assertiveness to be had here. You'd already offered them a drink and they'd said no. You then insisted on buying them one, by asking them again. You could hardly say no you can't have those particular drinks, too expensive! The double drink is a bit cheeky but a pint of beer is ok..you've just picked somewhere too expensive to visit.

I don't know what you would have done to be more assertive. You offered them drinks twice and then when they order - tell them no? . You couldn't do anything except learn from the experience. I don't think they're CF.

For £6 quid I'd have left it as 2 drinks was always going to cost more (unless they drank soft drinks or half lagers which would be rare for a couple).

I wouldn’t have ordered a double if someone else was buying - but to be fair you offered, and it would be rare you’d get ANY two drinks for £6 in this day age

So no, I don’t think they weren’t fully out of order.

One just just chalk up to annoying I’d say. Write it off and move on

I don’t think they were fully out of order*

@alltheseasons

They wouldn't have got two drinks for the price of half a £6 cab fare, so I'm not sure why you offered that in the first place.

This. You offered to buy them a drink, and they (eventually) accepted. Non issue. Were they supposed to change what they would order, and order something they didn’t actually want, to accommodate the price difference between the drink price and the taxi fare, is that your complaint?

in the moment I just wasn’t assertive enough.

It would have been excruciating for you to have done anything other than buy the drinks they requested in these circumstances. I can’t imagine why you would actively wish to have ‘been assertive’, you’d have embarrassed yourself horribly!