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Osteopath climbed on top of me

56 replies

LukeSkywalkerNooooooooo · 18/02/2022 14:11

This has been playing on my mind.

I’d never been to an osteopath before so maybe this is totally normal. Feel free to tell me if it is.

Osteopath was working on my body and then without warning he got on top of me (I was lying on my back) and he rolled me back and forth. He was literally on top of me like we were having sex.

Is this a thing?!

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Hshuznw · 18/02/2022 15:08

Yes it’s normal. I’ve always had a female osteopath though so never crossed my mind that she’s being inappropriate.

JMAngel1 · 18/02/2022 15:09

Yes, I’ve had similar - they do use their body weight and the rocking is to loosen the joint before it’s cracked I think. I don’t have a bad word to say about osteopaths as they stopped me from having to wear a spine brace and needing spinal surgery - my man is a bloody lifesaver.

BabycakesMatlala · 18/02/2022 15:23

Whether or not it's a normal manoeuvre, any professional should be doing a damn sight better in obtaining consent to every separate step and explaining why they'd be doing it. He's an idiot to put himself in a position where his actions make someone feel invaded or uncomfortable, and of course it's completely unfair on you to end up feeling that way. It should be absolutely part of his job to explain and get consent at each stage.

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oakleaffy · 18/02/2022 15:31

@Sexnotgender

He should definitely have warned you/sought permission!
Absolutely!! Even when having a massage from an aromatherapist she or he ALWAYS asked if I was comfortable with being touched on back, front ..and they were most respectful.

Even a Sports massage therapist {Female} working on one leg was most respectful and warned what she was going to do .
Sounds like he wasn't the most professional of therapists.. Eek.
I'd have said ''What the hell are you doing!!
BUT when I was younger, I am certain a GP {Male} was grossly unprofessional with me.. But I was too timid to say anything at the time.

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/02/2022 15:33

But they always explain and get my permission and do it in a professional way.

This. Every time.

Christmas1988 · 18/02/2022 15:43

My chiropractor moves me in all sorts of mad ways, not sure an osteopath is the same but it wouldn’t worry me.

Universe1969 · 18/02/2022 15:53

I have been to an osteo loads and he frequently puts his weight on me to help with a procedure. However not like you have described at all. It sounds a bit weird tbh

Bullandbush · 18/02/2022 16:07

Did you have your knees up @LukeSkywalkerNooooooooo?
If so it’s a recognised manoeuvre but he should have explained it first.

I’ve used osteopaths for over 30 years and they’re usually very careful to explain what they’re doing.

PennyDeFuckwit · 18/02/2022 16:29

I think many an osteopath has laid across me or got uncomfortably close whilst working - but they've always explained first.

I did just have a minor flashback of when I had the most excruciating bout of sacroiliitis and a chiropractor had been working on me face down. I was unable to get onto an all-fours position and get up due to the pain, so he kindly offered to help by grasping my hips and lifting me towards him. For a split second it was uncomfortably like he was taking me from behind, I couldn't look him in the eye when I finally stood up. Blush

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 18/02/2022 16:34

@Hshuznw

Yes it’s normal. I’ve always had a female osteopath though so never crossed my mind that she’s being inappropriate.
You've had a female osteopath sit astride you ,face to face? Really?
MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 18/02/2022 16:34

Doesn't sound right OP.

DetailMouse · 18/02/2022 16:59

My osteopath does get very up close and personal and he does use his body weight for some of the manipulations. He's very careful to tell me what he's about to do and to ask permission to touch more intimate parts though.

He's never been on top of me while I'm lying on my back.

Laiste · 18/02/2022 17:50

This is no help to the thread so ... sorry - but i have to say - i'm reading this with my mouth hanging open!

I had No Idea all this went on!

School day every day here.

RollerGirl7 · 18/02/2022 18:30

Yes. I've experienced this. No warning but it did work

RollerGirl7 · 18/02/2022 18:38

Mine didnt sit on me, rather just rolled on me. Immediate relief from the pain thoigh

CovidCurious · 18/02/2022 19:10

I wouldn't be surprised if it is a normal move, but I would expect a warning for something like that. Mind you, the last physio I saw gave me no warning of anything. When he wanted me to shuffle down the couch and hang my legs over the end he didn't bother asking me to do so, he just grabbed my ankle and pulled me down the couch!

Hshuznw · 18/02/2022 23:12

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor Not sure what you’re so surprised at? That it’s ok (but not really) for a man to do it but absolutely not a woman? Don’t understand your comment…

HelloDulling · 18/02/2022 23:18

My female osteo, who I have seen dozens of times, often rolls me onto my side, then puts all her weight on me and appears to jump up and down. It’s bloody painful, but not weird. She’s never straddled me, though, and always asks before she undoes my bra.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 19/02/2022 00:19

[quote Hshuznw]@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor Not sure what you’re so surprised at? That it’s ok (but not really) for a man to do it but absolutely not a woman? Don’t understand your comment…[/quote]
I just can't imagine an osteopath male or female sitting astride a patient !

MrsSkylerWhite · 19/02/2022 00:22

Big, fat NO.

Tallisimo · 19/02/2022 00:26

My osteopath explained everything she was doing, with each move and always asked if this was ok with me.
Your osteopath should have done the same, particularly given the rather intimate nature of the manipulation!.
Is he part of a larger clinic ? I would try and speak so someone about your experience. Def complain.

TheresSomebodyAtTheDoorNeil · 19/02/2022 00:28

Did he not explain what he was doing before he did it?

My ((female)) osteopath has performed similar sounding moves but she wouldn't just jump on and do it. I was a bit taken aback when her words turned into actions the first time tho. Grin

Shuffleuplove · 19/02/2022 00:36

Are his initials M.R.S.? I saw someone years ago not in the U.K., although he was British, and he purported to be an osteopath and he pulled some pretty weird positions on me, despite an obvious hernia. I also noticed a vibrator on the shelf in his room, and felt he was incredibly over familiar.

He aas later arrested for sexual assault, again abroad and was last heard of, trying to work back in U.K.

RubyRedNails · 19/02/2022 00:53

I've been married to an osteopath for a very long time. I've needed his professional services occasionally over the years and even I find some of the manipulations and positions embarrassing! He's asleep now, but I can consult him in the morning about your concerns. Even if it's a legitimate treatment it should have been explained to you and consent sought.

bluebell34567 · 19/02/2022 01:28

My least favourite position is when the osteo puts his hand under my back and throws himself on top of me to dislodge my thoracic vertebrae. I'm usually holding my shoulders at that point. Second least favourite is having him put his arms around from behind and yank me like a ragdoll because the first movement hadn't worked.

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