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Am I just really boring 😂

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Cantgetgoing · 16/02/2022 21:46

I'm 28 and I feel like lots of people in their early-mid 20s are just obsessed with insta, tiktok and Snapchat. They spend hours trying to gain validation from others but seem to not be nice to each other in real life. I feel old before my time because I just can't be bothered with any of that shit. Like influences for example, good for them but who cares really? Am I just boring

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Suzyinthesummertime · 17/02/2022 04:45

Nope just sensible

lololololollll · 17/02/2022 05:47

Probably yeah

KatherineJaneway · 17/02/2022 05:53

Who knows but your sneering at people who like sm is unattractive.

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Cantgetgoing · 17/02/2022 07:08

I'm not sneering at anyone I want people to be happy... But social media is definitely not helping that I see loads of my (gorgeous) friends saying they aren't pretty enough, thin enough etc and it bothers me.

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skippy67 · 17/02/2022 07:20

Well, from what you've written, I can't say if you're boring or not. You do come across as sneering though.

NeverTouchWarmPants · 17/02/2022 07:30

I don't think you're sneering. It's just not for you.

itsgettingweird · 17/02/2022 07:33

No not boring - realistic.

Better to live your life through your actions rather than try and emulate someone else's.

As you can tell I'm not in the slightest bit interested in SM either - I'm in my 40's now but I never have been!

dontgobaconmyheart · 17/02/2022 07:43

I don't think it needs to be framed in that way, as though you might be morally or intellectually superior to younger people who use social media, because you've not been sucked in. Ultimately people aren't homogenous, their reasons for using it and what they do on it and why won't all be the same, nor will the time they spend on it or how they treat others in real life, or what they get out of it. I think it's natural that people some several years younger than you might be into something you ultimately aren't.

We all seek validation in different ways (and there's nothing wrong with that) an online forum is no different to engaging on another platform.

It doesn't make you boring that you aren't wanting to use social media, any more than it doesn't mean anything about those who do. I don't think it is worth analysing and is better to accept people do different things in life, are motivated by different things, and have very varied needs and wants that don't dictate whether they are actually a nice person in their private life. If social media isn't for you don't worry about it and find something else that is.

tanktopsruleok · 17/02/2022 07:54

She says, trying to validate her opinion on a social platform

Grantingmum · 17/02/2022 07:56

No you're not. Lots of people hide behind their phone in real life. It's odd.
Honestly? The coolest people I know who have the most exciting lives don't use social media

EmmaH2022 · 17/02/2022 07:56

Social media isn’t your thing. That doesn’t mean you’re boring.

NerrSnerr · 17/02/2022 07:59

It sounds sneery because you know you're obviously not boring for not wanting to gain validation or not be nice to others.

What do you want from the thread? People to tell you you're great or to bash people who are probably really insecure?

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Cantgetgoing · 17/02/2022 08:00

@tanktopsruleok

She says, trying to validate her opinion on a social platform

Fair point

I guess the thing I'm thinking of is say going out on a night out, spending hours and hours taking selfies for insta etc and not being able to enjoy the night out. And people who are never happy with what they have because their feed is full of influencers on holiday every 2 mins

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Cantgetgoing · 17/02/2022 08:03

@NerrSnerr

It sounds sneery because you know you're obviously not boring for not wanting to gain validation or not be nice to others.

What do you want from the thread? People to tell you you're great or to bash people who are probably really insecure?

I've read the initial post back and I guess it did come across a bit sneery which genuinely wasn't my intention. I was being a bit flippant because I genuinely DO worry that I'm a bit strange for not being into all of it. I often do feel quite left out when people are talking about the latest influencer or latest beauty product on insta. So although I was being a bit glib it is something that bothers me.

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Suzi888 · 17/02/2022 08:06

@Cantgetgoing

I'm not sneering at anyone

I want people to be happy... But social media is definitely not helping that

I see loads of my (gorgeous) friends saying they aren't pretty enough, thin enough etc and it bothers me.

I don’t think you sounded ‘sneers’ at all, aside from the obvious irony posting here lol. YANBU social media has a lot to answer for.

Chestofdraws · 17/02/2022 08:07

This comes across a bit “I’m so much better than them”. But you are also seeking validation by posting this. So not different really and maybe more needy,

TyrannosaurusRegina · 17/02/2022 08:13

I don't think you sound sneery at all. Just a bit wtf at boring people who live their lives via SM.

Fedupbuyer · 17/02/2022 08:25

I’m the same,I don’t have any social media apart from mn which I only found out about when I was looking for advice.

ShowOfHands · 17/02/2022 08:32

It's the laughing faces and "any of that shit" and claiming all these people aren't nice to each other irl that sets a slightly off tone. If you're genuinely concerned that people are unhappily living a vicarious life through social media, talk about that. Dressing it up as "Am I boring 😂" when you know very well that you aren't, is disingenuous. There's nothing inherently wrong with social media in the same way that there's nothing wrong with eschewing it.

Maybe it's a confidence thing though or worrying that you haven't found friends like you? And it's okay when people talk about things you aren't interested in whether that's a beauty product, books, film, culture etc. Being a mature and good friend means you learn how to show an interest outside of your own sphere of interests. If they never talk about things you are interested it, maybe you are mixing with the wrong people.

You are judging and making generalisations. There will be dozens of things you don't like throughout life that appear wildly popular with your peers. Accepting difference comes with maturity, as does feeling comfortable in your own skin. Ironically, you're doing the very thing you're criticising ie on social media right now comparing yourself to your peers. We all do it. We just tell ourselves different stories about how and why we're doing it.

IsItTooHotInHere · 17/02/2022 08:41

No, not boring at all - mature is the word. My 7 year old GD looks at TikTok. It's just a lot of stupid people doing stupid things. Pointless.

IsItTooHotInHere · 17/02/2022 08:45

I was in an indoor play centre with my GC the other day, and watched a young mum who was posing and pouting for ages, taking endless selfies. Pathetic. Doing all that instead of playing with, (or at least watching) her kid. My son, on the other hand (40) was charging about getting involved with playing "Dobby" or "Tag" with his kids.

Grantingmum · 17/02/2022 08:55

....I think if you're hanging around with people who spend their 20s talking about the latest influencer rather than having fun, you might want to find new people to hang out with.

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Cantgetgoing · 17/02/2022 09:04

@Grantingmum

....I think if you're hanging around with people who spend their 20s talking about the latest influencer rather than having fun, you might want to find new people to hang out with.

Its hard to avoid! I've found that it happens in my postgraduate cohort, work, some friends.

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SartresSoul · 17/02/2022 09:08

Nope. Same age as you and I’ve never used TikTok, have no desire to. Used Snapchat briefly about 5 years ago but didn’t really get it so dropped it. Don’t use any SM at all now, deleted my Instagram about 18 months ago and never looked back. Comparison is the thief of joy.

CrackerGal · 17/02/2022 09:20

No not boring, you are wise beyond your years imo!
I'm older than you but did the whole social media thing for 10 years before I grew out of it.
I agree with you. It's bad for your mental health to seek validation from sm.

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