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Is this a thing for valentines now???

298 replies

DailyMailHater · 14/02/2022 15:53

Now I will start this by saying when we were dating / engaged my husband and I did do gifts / cards for Valentine’s Day but since we have been married we don’t and our wedding anniversary is the day we tend to mark.

Well this morning, my social media is full of pictures from people I know and the valentines presents they have bought for their children, the kids seemed to be getting multiple gifts…chocs, flowers, pjs, clothes, toys, sweets…One had all the gifts for her child on the sofa like it was a birthday, with a caption “can’t wait for (child’s name) to see this in the morning so they know how much I love them”
it never even occurred to me to purchase valentines items for my children I didn’t realise this was a thing if it had been one person I wouldn’t of thought much of it but seems to be the majority around here….I think it is madness.

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Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 14/02/2022 15:56

A school run dm just told me they are taking their primary school dc out for a V day meal later!!
Confused

iloverock · 14/02/2022 15:56

Bloody ridiculous.

But I've just split up with bf so I'm feeling very bloody grumpy about the whole thing

Valhalla17 · 14/02/2022 15:56

Its absolutely ridiculous OP! Shock

People seem quite happy to chuck money away these days...

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nancybotwinbloom · 14/02/2022 15:56

I got my Dd a card, a two pack hot chocolate stirrer thing and a pack of chocolate hearts.

She knows it's from me and she made me a card in school.

Harmless fun. Not over the top.

TeenPlusCat · 14/02/2022 15:56

I'm with you, but it is mostly harmless (until they go into school, tell everyone else, who then go home and say 'don't you love me?' etc)

ShirleyPhallus · 14/02/2022 15:57

I think it’s the company you keep OP. This isn’t “a thing”

Valhalla17 · 14/02/2022 15:58

Honestly it's pathetic and largely done for pics on "social media"

Florencenotflo · 14/02/2022 16:01

Yeah I think more people have jumped on this, this year. A friend of mine put pictures on Instagram this morning. Red helium balloons all over the ceiling, heart shaped breakfast items, her girls wearing pink/red valentines pyjamas, roses everywhere.

DH and I always get each other a card, but neither of us really know why. Every year we sort of say we won't bother next year. I always get DH a rude one anyway so it can't be displayed 🤣

Billybagpuss · 14/02/2022 16:01

@ShirleyPhallus

I think it’s the company you keep OP. This isn’t “a thing”
I think it’s beginning to be a thing. I had a student this morning whose dps had given her a big I love you badge and was then picked on at school and was feeling crap.

It’s the beginning of the end of traditional valentines awkwardly waiting for the postman. I guess it’s a way for parents to protect their kids from disappointment and the industry to cash in on a new revenue stream

HerbErtlinger · 14/02/2022 16:01

I bought my kids a chocolate heart each from poundland. Not a big deal and certainly not piles of gifts, just something fun to break up the day

Fl0w3ry · 14/02/2022 16:01

I don’t do SM at all so I don’t know if it’s a thing, but that sounds crazy. I give my children a packet of sweets, only because we tend to have a box of chocolates Valentine’s Day and I don’t want the kids to eat mine. But giving children even more gifts sounds completely over the top. There are a lot of crown chasers on SM though so I guess they are trying to all compete over who “loves their kids more”. It’s sad that people these days seem to equate love with money. The world is a crazy place since Facebook and instagram etc started.

Lovemydoggie · 14/02/2022 16:01

My children are adults now . I vaguely remember buying them chocolates one year from me ..I decided it was a silly idea and I ate them myself 😋

jollygreenpea · 14/02/2022 16:02

@Valhalla17

Its absolutely ridiculous OP! Shock

People seem quite happy to chuck money away these days...

And then moan they have no money.

Utter idiots

Wedonttalkaboutbruno1 · 14/02/2022 16:03

It’s a bit over the top!

Although my kids and I made red paper chain hearts this morning and they had one of my valentine’s chocolates each. It’s fun to find something to celebrate, but I’m not going to be buying them a valentine present!!

lollipoprainbow · 14/02/2022 16:04

I got my dd9 a gingerbread man with heart buttons from Waitrose. I don't usually do anything but happened to see it on Friday, I certainly don't make a big deal of it!

fingersdoublecrossed · 14/02/2022 16:06

We have a 10 year old DD and she got a card and a little gift from us today. Otherwise, she'd be the only one in the house who didn't get anything and that feels a little bit sad to me. Valentine's is about all different types of love IMO. It's just a bit of fun.

SeekingBalance · 14/02/2022 16:08

I'm in my 30's and my mum use to make us a little card and leave a chocolate. I use to find it so cringe, but now I look back and think how lovely it was. Obviously, there was no socials back then so it was purely for our benefit. I don't do it for mine, but I will admit to having some heart bunting up lol

Auntieobem · 14/02/2022 16:08

No, its not a thing. People who do this are attention seeking idiots

Loopytiles · 14/02/2022 16:09

Ick!

Costacoffeeplease · 14/02/2022 16:10

Jeez how ridiculous. Valentine’s Day is supposed to be for romantic love is it not? Why do kids need to be involved at all?

Married 34 years and no cards, presents or meal out here, it’s all so commercial and crap

Waddlegoose · 14/02/2022 16:10

I brought some Jammie dodgers as they have love hearts on them as special treats but haven’t posted it on social media.

grapewine · 14/02/2022 16:12

It's a thing on social media like #blessed and #makingmemories is a thing on social media.

I'd mute it, personally.

RedCandyApple · 14/02/2022 16:13

It’s not a thing in this house! I find valentines stuff for kids really cringey as I associate Valentine’s Day with romantic love. Apparently it’s becoming a thing now though and people do buy them for their kids. I read a post on another site yesterday where people’s exes were buying them valentines gifts “from the kids” now that is odd!

T00Ts · 14/02/2022 16:13

Oh live and let live. Don’t waste your energies feeling pissed off about someone doing something with their kids that is ultimately going to cause no harm at all.

I can’t understand the threads trying to whip up hatred towards a few people who enjoy doing harmless things like this.

GirlInACountrySong · 14/02/2022 16:14

its weird

and a bit worrying