Is this a thing for valentines now???

[DailyMailHater]

Now I will start this by saying when we were dating / engaged my husband and I did do gifts / cards for Valentine’s Day but since we have been married we don’t and our wedding anniversary is the day we tend to mark.

Well this morning, my social media is full of pictures from people I know and the valentines presents they have bought for their children, the kids seemed to be getting multiple gifts…chocs, flowers, pjs, clothes, toys, sweets…One had all the gifts for her child on the sofa like it was a birthday, with a caption “can’t wait for (child’s name) to see this in the morning so they know how much I love them”
it never even occurred to me to purchase valentines items for my children I didn’t realise this was a thing if it had been one person I wouldn’t of thought much of it but seems to be the majority around here….I think it is madness.

Teen son been having a bit of a rough time lately so got him some sweets and a little dinosaur that said you are roarsome. He appreciated the gesture although probably didn't tell his friends.

@T00Ts Well said!

@rosegoldwatcher

Married for 31 years and happy. No cards, flowers, chocs or meals out here. I did pat him on the hand and say, "Happy Valentines Day' at stupid o'clock this morning whilst drinking the cup-of-tea-in-bed that he has made every day since we moved in together in 1984. That's love.

Cute

Queeniepies

Don’t you meant ‘matching’ family PJs?

I wonder if sales were slowing for Valentines, hence the invention of Galentines?

Either can fuck off out of my bank account

In the US they now have this thing called Galentines. [vomit]

Cross posts with cats!

My kids are getting fishfingers & chips and an early night so DH and I can enjoy a child-free dinner later on

I cut out two hearts from pink paper I found in the craft drawer and wrote their names on them then sat them on the dining table so they would find them in the morning.

Not on social media so it was something just for them.

DH got a proper card and present.

@Dentistlakes

It’s strange and really rather creepy.

It's only creepy if you actually think it's indicative of their wish for a sexual relationship with their child. In which call SS

I got my daughter a lush bath bomb. Just a little thing to show I appreciate her. Valentines is a load of rubbish but she seems to like making us cards on valentines so it's nice to give something back

@T00Ts

Oh live and let live. Don’t waste your energies feeling pissed off about someone doing something with their kids that is ultimately going to cause no harm at all.

I can’t understand the threads trying to whip up hatred towards a few people who enjoy doing harmless things like this.

Whilst I do agree people should do what they want, those who have fallen prey to the big commercialisation exercise become part of the expectation being created - the more children who DO get presents, chocolates etc the more likely those who DON'T will feel left out, pester or guilt trip their parents etc etc.
"Causing no harm at all" is not so easy when it leads to soem feeling left out, others in turn pressured into spending money unnecessarily, Like Halloween. Like Easter. (Like Christmas) It's all about money-making and sales opportunities.

We got DD a card and I made her a little beaded ladybird necklace (was going to do
It anyway, now was as good a time as any) and that was it. I haven't posted it on social media. I just thought it was cute and it made her smile so that was nice.

Over consumption.

DH and I exchange cards, and we also get one for DD. We don't usually do gifts, but DH bought me some flowers and DD bought me chocolate orange on Saturday, and told me she loved me 🥰

I couldn't wish for more and I've no intention of turning Valentines Day into yet another commercial event.

It's embarrassing that grown adults even believe in things being a thing now.

Make your own choices. It is like saying have cake on your birthday is a thing just because many people do it. It doesn't make it a thing !

Anyone else think #blessed and #making memories is a bit pathetic?

@rosegoldwatcher
Married for 31 years and happy.
No cards, flowers, chocs or meals out here.
I did pat him on the hand and say, "Happy Valentines Day' at stupid o'clock this morning whilst drinking the cup-of-tea-in-bed that he has made every day since we moved in together in 1984. That's love.
No, that's your love. It isn't not love if I don't get a cup of tea every morning and it isn't not love if I get a card and flowers every morning. No one gets to decide what is an acceptable demonstration of love except the people in the relationship. We got cards and small presents, they'll have silly poems in, I'll keep them forever if we don't divorce (cos you do never know), the kids are eating valentines ginger biscuits. That's our love. Just as good as everyone else's.

I guess each to their own and it’s up to individuals how they acknowledge the day, I’m sure the kids will love it.

I think a little token gift or card would of been enough, husband gives our girls a card (has done this for years) we don’t go out our way for the day as we’re all busy, we do try clear time for family movie or games night instead
That works for us

@PeeAche

You lot are just plain miserable.

This morning I woke everyone up at 5am by playing "my heart will go on" on full volume. Heart shaped pancakes all round.

I sent both of mine to school today clutching a bow and arrow and wearing only nappies.

Tonight it's chocolate fondue for dinner while we talk about our feelings.

You all really need to get into the Christmas spirit.

Outstanding although I'm disappointed that you've not organised clouds for people to sleep on while cherubim gambol around them.

I’ve always bought my children a chocolate heart and a card and I’m not on any social media so it’s certainly not for that.

One of DDs classmates has been taken to Paris for 2 nights!

@SleepingStandingUp - Yes, of course you are right, that's love for me. I wouldn't assume to define it for anyone else.

Presume not assume!

I think its batshit crazy personally. I can't subscribe to this have one day a year to really show someone how special they are. Nope, you can do that throughout the year at any time, whether its in the form of a gift like flowers, little post note, saying it to them etc.

I don't know, I bought my DDs a pink valentine's cupcake each this morning and some flowers for all of us. Didn't post on social media though! I remember my dad bringing us home flowers on valentine's day when we were children and we were so excited, I think a little treat to mark the day is harmless.

That said, I think getting DC lots of presents for Valentine's day or splashing pictures all over social media is a bit weird. But equally many people will think I'm weird for including my DDs in Valentine's day so to each their own!