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Inconsiderate NDNs re noise/light

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Gonnagetgoing · 14/02/2022 15:01

I live in a street where there are mostly families with kids or retired or single people.

NDN's have rented out their house to two women - at a guess in 40s/50s.

They have so far had 2 really loud parties, lots of singing, very loud music and 1 with no notice whatsoever and the other was one meant to end at 5pm but carried on until early hours of next day.

My bedroom is flush to theirs and I could easily move but I like the aspect (garden). I wouldn't mind considering moving bedroom (I have one other double bedroom and a box room) for good or even temporarily but it's the lack of notice I don't like.

I've also been told by neighbours that they've installed a sauna in one room for sex parties?! which I don't care about but they now seem to have loads of friends to come and stay in their 'party house'.

They also have lights - like fairy lights with bigger bulbs but they seem to be right across the garden that looks up into my bedroom. I already have blackout curtains.

Yes I would use earplugs etc had I known about this, yes I could use an eye mask.

My question is - should I put up with this? Previous renters with a 1 year old and 6 year old made hardly any noise and the owners had 3 kids and you barely heard a sound!

I don't see why I should have to move bedroom just because NDNs are inconsiderate. They have told me since re the noise and I think lights to tell them when they're on but I feel like a real party pooper doing this. I don't want to come across as a fun sponge.

So what would you do?

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harbourlane · 14/02/2022 19:35

How on earth do you think you would have the power to get them evicted?!

Even if they were doing something seriously wrong and there was a genuine basis for eviction, it can still take about a year.

FawnFrenchieMum · 14/02/2022 19:35

This can’t be real?

Interested that you live in a street of families, retired or single people?! That covers most people! Guess couples must all live somewhere else Grin

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Gonnagetgoing · 14/02/2022 19:35

@SeaMeat

Not nice for you OP, it's not the fact that it's only two parties, but that it's unexpected, you never know when to brace yourself.

Maybe keep up a dialogue with them and mitigate by moving your house around and try to find quiet spots, at least you'll feel more in control.

@SealMeat yes it’s the unexpectedness of it!

I’ll keep up a dialogue and I’ll also see if I have party wall stuff etc. Thanks Smile

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Pontypandytaxpayer · 14/02/2022 19:37

Nope, I own my house and it's detached but it doesn't matter because I haven't thrown a party for about 10 years.

I just think the attitude that renters are inferior and that you have power over them is unpleasant.

Have a nice evening Smile

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Gonnagetgoing · 14/02/2022 19:38

@FawnFrenchieMum

This can’t be real?

Interested that you live in a street of families, retired or single people?! That covers most people! Guess couples must all live somewhere else Grin

@FawnFrenchieMum - you don’t get it do you??!! The vast majority of people in the street or not near me they don’t have wild parties. Or we never hear them. Or they’re not near me…

Maybe I live in some twilight zone where it’s peaceful and every other MNer lives with noise 24/7.

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Gonnagetgoing · 14/02/2022 19:39

@Pontypandytaxpayer

Nope, I own my house and it's detached but it doesn't matter because I haven't thrown a party for about 10 years.

I just think the attitude that renters are inferior and that you have power over them is unpleasant.

Have a nice evening Smile

@Pontypandytaxpayer I do not think renters are inferior. Far from it.

But if you rent you should be considerate to neighbours.

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Puffalicious · 14/02/2022 19:41

OP you're getting a hard time because you've been a little superior in your attitude to renters, I think.

Noise is grating. It's definitely the done thing to inform neighbours about parties. Perhaps say this to them via a note/ text?

harbourlane · 14/02/2022 19:41

You clearly do think renters are inferior or you wouldn't have said you'd get them evicted if you wanted to.

FawnFrenchieMum · 14/02/2022 19:43

@Gonnagetgoing so you can be noisy and inconsiderate as long as you own your own house? It’s nothing to do with renting.

We moved a few years ago because we had awful noisy neighbours, way worse then this. They owned their house.

SmolCat · 14/02/2022 19:53

I was ready to write with advice and sympathy about how coping with change to routine and environment can be difficult for some people to adjust to.

But honestly you’re coming across as so very unpleasant that now I just hope they have a brilliantly fun and incredibly loud sauna sex party from midnight til 5am.

winterchills · 14/02/2022 19:54

If you really wanted to be a bitch You would get them evicted? What for having two parties 🤣 what makes you think you can do that. Like the landlord is going to evict them and loose rent because ur moaning that they have had two parties.

Yes I would probably be a bit sad that it had gone from a nice family house to now a "party house" but honestly it could be so so much worse!

historygeek · 14/02/2022 20:36

I want to know more about this sex sauna?!

Travis1 · 14/02/2022 21:07

You sound like a bit of a cunt tbh. Maybe the neighbours have realised this and that’s why they give no fucks about annoying you. ‘Get them evicted’ Fucksake 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄

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Gonnagetgoing · 14/02/2022 21:15

@historygeek

I want to know more about this sex sauna?!
@historygeek - I want to know too! Lol

It probably isn’t a sex sauna but let’s say I’ve heard some strange noises… Grin

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MissMaple82 · 14/02/2022 21:18

You're moaning about two parties in December and January and some fairy lights! Get a grip!

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Gonnagetgoing · 14/02/2022 21:20

@Puffalicious

OP you're getting a hard time because you've been a little superior in your attitude to renters, I think.

Noise is grating. It's definitely the done thing to inform neighbours about parties. Perhaps say this to them via a note/ text?

@Puffalicious - if they were considerate neighbours I would be kinder about how I spoke about them. But i don’t see or hear from them at all.

I mean maybe it is because I’m a bitch, cunt etc as I simply want a bit of peace and quiet occasionally. Like I said before there’s been no notice.

I just find it strange how they’re obviously not aware of noise. The house will be sold in 2 years anyway though and I doubt they’d be able to afford it.

One of the women the other day said hi to me as I was leaving the house when she’s barely bothered to say a word otherwise, I said hi back though.

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Gonnagetgoing · 14/02/2022 21:22

@MissMaple82

You're moaning about two parties in December and January and some fairy lights! Get a grip!
@MissMaple82 see I know why I shouldn’t post here. I don’t want two fucking parties every month do you get me??

Don’t tell me to get a grip when I live next to inconsiderate bitches.

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MoonlightFancy · 14/02/2022 21:25

Maybe you should consider moving to a detached house, rather than looking down your nose as the inconsiderate American bitch renters next door who throw infrequent parties and have lights in their garden?

Eycaluptus · 14/02/2022 21:26

also they're renters so if I really wanted to be a bitch I'd get them evicted.

If I did want then evicted trust me I'd be a real bitch and find some way to get them evicted.

But I own and they don't.

You sound like an absolute knob! Haha as if you think you have any control over getting someone evicted! Deluded!

Flexitarian · 14/02/2022 21:27

Sometimes parties just accidentally happen. You invite a few friends over for drinks and a bit of food and BAM it’s 3:30am and everyone’s falling into taxis after a good old dance.

The key to this is cordial neighbourly relations. How are you the rest of the time?

MissMaple82 · 14/02/2022 21:30

The only sympathy I have is for your poor neighbours, you sound like an absolute neighbour from hell.!!!

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Gonnagetgoing · 14/02/2022 21:34

I’m going to ignore the MN idiots who seem to think yeah pile on. I had this the other week and had to get a thread deleted.

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christingle2 · 14/02/2022 21:35

The thing is, you can’t actually get them evicted. They have housing rights so the eviction process isn’t speedy, you’d probably be looking at 6 months for bailiffs to arrive

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Gonnagetgoing · 14/02/2022 21:35

@Flexitarian

Sometimes parties just accidentally happen. You invite a few friends over for drinks and a bit of food and BAM it’s 3:30am and everyone’s falling into taxis after a good old dance.

The key to this is cordial neighbourly relations. How are you the rest of the time?

@Flexitarian - see that’s the thing I rarely see them! Maybe I should pop over with cake Cake and ask to go in their sauna Wink
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christingle2 · 14/02/2022 21:36

Also can’t lie but 2 parties over the festive period/the month after they move in is not excessive. 2 major events there.

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