How close to you live to your family

[RevolvingPivot]

Ie siblings / kids / parents / in-laws

DM&DF - 5 hour drive (within UK)
DMIL and DSIL - 12 hour drive (within UK)
DB - 16 hour drive (Europe)

I have never understood people who aren't willing to move away from where they were born/ their family - we moved for work because it made sense.

Within 5 to10 miles of everyone.

@Letsleepingcats

DMI 2.2 miles DM 2.9 miles Sister 1.9 miles Brother 7 miles

I don't drive so don't go to them often. Only see them if they come to me.

Unless you have mobility problems why can't you just walk, cycle or run to see them? That's like half an hour away at most?

I have autism and bad anxiety. I don't go out much.

Ds - 7 hours drive
Dsis - - 5 hours drive
Db - 3 hours
Parents - 4 hours drive
Db - Another country
D bil - 1 hr
Dsil - 1 1/2 hr drive

We’re all spread our across the length and breadth of the country

DB 250 miles, same country
MIL 1300 miles, different country
My parents sadly passed away but I never lived closer than 100 miles after I left to go to university
3 kids still at home with me and DH

Most of my friends live hours away from their family - and they are friends from uni or later, I'm not in touch with anyone from school

I moved two hours away from my family who all live close to each other. Makes it easy to visit though as I can see them all in one trip!

Parents 11miles
Brother 6miles
In laws 400 miles

In laws 150 miles. Sister about 200 miles. Parents are dead.

I moved to follow my heart. Subbsequent moves have been for work. Over 40 years later we are still together.

Your life sounds very limiting and lonely @RevolvingPivot. I hope you are getting help for your anxiety. Anxiety sucks

My 4 DKs are roughly 40 miles away from us,all in different directions. Oldest is wanting to move back to London, which will be about 70
Tradespeople coming to the house are shocked, aren't we close,yes,very. My next door neighbour,lives about 2 miles from where he was born,I can't imagine that. I couldn't have afforded to live where I was born/grew up,but ex H, job meant we had to move to London and live on the premises. Our move here,was retirement, downsizing,nearer the coast,but do childcare for youngest,2 disabled sons one I am cater for,so needed to be around an hour by road.

My parents and brothers - 43 miles, about an hour and half driving (gotta cross London) or by train.

PILs - 107 miles, about a 2 hour drive, in the opposite direction.

BIL and SIL - 42 miles, different part of London, but we have a very easy train to theirs which is about an hour.

I don't want to be any closer than we are, we picked where we live to be in the middle of both sets of family, with easy access to London for work, but not so close to anyone that they can drop in without planning.

Mum - 70 miles
Sibling - 200 miles
DH's sibling - 70 miles (different direction!)

No other relatives.

We don't see any of them very often. Although we now live closer than we did. Until last year we were at least 4 hours from all of them.

And DD is at university 2 hours away.

@RampantIvy

In laws 150 miles. Sister about 200 miles. Parents are dead.

I moved to follow my heart. Subbsequent moves have been for work. Over 40 years later we are still together.

Your life sounds very limiting and lonely @RevolvingPivot. I hope you are getting help for your anxiety. Anxiety sucks

Hi thank you. Just Sertraline. Been on different medication 12 years.

We all live in the same city. We are professionals but plenty of good jobs in our city and the surrounding area. I understand that some people in professional jobs may have to move away but if you live in a big city already then surely it wouldn't be unusual to live close to each other.

DHs half sister lives in Scotland, we are Southern England but his mum moved her there when she was 3. Other than that majority of our extended family live nearby too.

Even if a job was offering double the salary I wouldn't move away from my family, it means more to us that earning more (easy to say I guess if you have a decent job so I understand that's not always the case). We spend lots of time together, I know only poor, working class, common people are supposed to like their family according to MN but imagine if that was only a myth

I have a feeling both DSs will move away because their specific career choices will mean they may need to, well DS1 will likely travel to do his job at times but his main base is likely to be London so not far from us anyway. They are very close to my parents and siblings.

My parents and brother live 11 doors away. Was very thankful for this over covid as a single parent I would have been very isolated.

I don't have any other family in my side but Dds dad lives 40 miles away and her other grandparents 200 miles a way.

One sister, a good 5 hour drive away
Other sister, a 7 hour flight away
Brother, an hour and a half’s drive away.

Parents and in-laws all long gone now. ILs lived a 20 minute drive away (except for the 13 years when we were an 8 hour flight away), parents were an hour and a half away.

My folks never had any family very close by, either.

Parents and sister and extended family in Asia
SILs in Israel
DH grandpa, aunts and uncles in Europe
MIL and youngest SIL 2.5 miles away.

Mum - 3 doors away, her dad and two brothers next door. Have a lot of extended family in same village
Bro - 1 mile
Dad and inlaws - other side of same town
SIL - 40min flight away

parents 10mins.
Db 1- 4mins
Db2- 7mins
Db 3- 40mins
In laws - 2hrs

Both my family and my in-laws are several hours away so we only get to see them every few months. I wish we were close to them all. It breaks my heart being so far from my parents who are now elderly. I wish I could help them.

4000 miles. It is what it is. Been hard in the pandemic.

Parents - 20 miles
MIL - 5 miles
DD (university) - 200 miles
DSis - 10,000+ miles away!

We always lived fairly close to parents and could get to their houses in fifteen - twenty five minutes by car depending on traffic. My one child, now 42, lives ten minutes away by car. It was just how things worked out, we didn't plan it that way but liked where we live (I still do), and I particularly liked being not far from railway station as I worked in town. It was handy for child care from grandparents and my in laws did school pick ups regularly, a couple of times a week.

310 miles from my parents
250 miles from my sister
230 miles from my brother

Dd1 170miles uni
Dd2 130miles uni opp direction
DM 748 miles
DB 5063 miles
DS 170 miles same city as DD1
Ds2 158 miles.