Worried about my next driving lesson help

[Richtea2]

The day of the lesson I was very excited and I had requested a woman.
I actually didn't feel nervous because I thought they just going through DSSSM.
It was 2 hrs and I did wonder what I would be doing.

I got a phone call and heard a man's voice was like oh no had asked for woman. But thought it will be okay.
I got in the car and he didn't seem that bad this instructor but it did seem awkward. I tried to make conversation and he didn't like that I had looked at you tube. But I had to know what I would be expecting.
We got to the place and it was an area I knew because I use to live there. It wasn't the area I wouldn't of liked to go too. But just went with it.
He did have me go straight to drivers side. I knew I would go through DSSSM and then POM. Then he telling me to start the car and then I think nerves just hit me. Then I was off and I wasn't too great at all. I just couldn't do the steering wheel. The brake and gas. I was holding steering wheel tight and really didn't actually feel I would of had a problem and he was helping me steer but I must of gripped it so hard. They tell you put your hands on quarter to 3. I knew this instructor wasn't happy with me and I wasn't great. It's my first lesson totally clueless. The lesson ended and he asked how I feel the lesson. I knew I was bad with steering wheel, brake.
As he was driving me home I was again trying to make conversation with him and asking what book I should get which I forgot now the one he said.
It was awkward and when we pulled up. I said about another lesson and he said maybe we will hour session to ease you into driving lessons. I am happy with just 1 hour.
Can anyone give me tips on steering wheel?
I already payed for 10 session which are 2hrs a lesson. I am also going to see how this instructor is Monday if still the same may request for a woman instructor.

Any advice?

I hope you get on better Richtea2, learning to drive is nerve-racking but eventually you'll learn to relax more and you may well be better with a woman. You're bound to make small mistakes so don't beat yourself up about it as the instructor has dual controls. 'Forget the mistake - learn the lesson' is a mantra which may help.

There's a book called, The Girl's Guide to Losing Your L-Plates by Maria McCarthy which you may find helpful. Don't focus on your test just yet - concentrate on each procedure as you are taught and it will eventually fall into place.

It will take time - learning very quickly with just a few lessons is for many of us a thing of the past. I learned in my mid-50s so if I can learn so can you. You're probably a good deal younger than me so are in a better position than I was.

@Duxiejhrhrvjz

I had an instructor that I just didn’t gel with. He sighed at me and made me feel like I was bad at driving. I got anxiety every evening before a lesson even though I rarely get anxious. I thought it was just me. My husband learned to drive the following year and did a few lessons with the same instructor. He told him to his face what he didn’t like about lessons and that he was thinking of changing instructors if they couldn’t gel. My husband moved to a new instructor and said that it was a much better experience.

Thanks for sharing your experience and your husband's.

@prettyteapotsplease

I hope you get on better Richtea2, learning to drive is nerve-racking but eventually you'll learn to relax more and you may well be better with a woman. You're bound to make small mistakes so don't beat yourself up about it as the instructor has dual controls. 'Forget the mistake - learn the lesson' is a mantra which may help.

There's a book called, The Girl's Guide to Losing Your L-Plates by Maria McCarthy which you may find helpful. Don't focus on your test just yet - concentrate on each procedure as you are taught and it will eventually fall into place.

It will take time - learning very quickly with just a few lessons is for many of us a thing of the past. I learned in my mid-50s so if I can learn so can you. You're probably a good deal younger than me so are in a better position than I was.

Thank you so much for your advice.

@brainhurts

Hope your lesson goes well . Try to focus on what she is teaching you and don't compare to the you tube videos you have watched , you are and individual and may not be at the standard of the videos at the moment.

She showed me a totally different way than what I seen on you tube.

I'm glad your lesson went well. , I personally think you had seen you tube and thought that was the only way to do it . Unfortunately watching something and putting into practice are two very different things . It's different in real life when you are looking for other road users , watching your speed , changing gear , brakes, accelerometer, poisoning yourself correct correct on the road ect .There is a lot that all has to be done at the same time.
I hope you get on a lot better with your new instructor and are able to get your license.
Good luck

@brainhurts

I'm glad your lesson went well. , I personally think you had seen you tube and thought that was the only way to do it . Unfortunately watching something and putting into practice are two very different things . It's different in real life when you are looking for other road users , watching your speed , changing gear , brakes, accelerometer, poisoning yourself correct correct on the road ect .There is a lot that all has to be done at the same time. I hope you get on a lot better with your new instructor and are able to get your license. Good luck

Once I get the hang of this steering I am sure I be okay. Never thought it be an issue when I started. She has given some tips and homework. Thank you.