Getting "married" at home. If you were my neighbours, WWYT?

[PeeAche]

DH and I tied the knot in private during the 'Rona. We could only invite 6 people, so... we didn't.

This summer, we're having the "wedding" in our back garden. (We have lots of land).

We moved here during Covid too so we don't know many of our neighbours well. Parking is an issue on our road, (narrow country lane) but I've managed to sweet talk the parish council to let all my guests park in the carpark / field of our local village green (7 minute walk).

We have a celebrant booked to do our vows at 3pm. Then it's hot pork rolls, a 3 piece acoustic band and finally a 1950s Rockabilly band. Live music will finish at 9.45 and other music at 11. Then it's "carriages" and everyone is gone. Around 100 people are expected.

No bar so no events licence.

We're having cake, speeches, evening buffet too. But the main thing is the noise...

I plan on popping around to see all the neighbours with about 3 months notice. Thought I would invite them for the evening too.

We've not done anything like this before. If you were my neighbour would you be angry? Complain? Call the police? Try to make it stop?

The wedding is in the middle of a 4 day bank holiday weekend.

It's about 8 houses that I intend to notify
That's not many. You can afford to have a nice chat with each rather than just putting a note through the door (although a note with written details will be good, or else it will be in one ear and out the other!)
What a great way to get to know your neighbours.

I think it sounds lovely. I wouldn't mind if I was your neighbour. You are giving people advanced warning and it doesn't sound like it is a common occurrence.

Depends at what time the party finishes and how your guests behave as they're leaving 🤷🏻‍♀️

A chat on the doorstep, and a proper invitation nearer the time (about six weeks out) rather than a half hearted ‘join us for a drink if you want’ would be better.

Reassurances it’s a one off (if that’s the case) would also be helpful. I know you won’t get married every warm day in the summer but people who like noisy outdoor parties generally seem to like them quite regularly. Reassure them you’re not ‘those’ neighbours.

Sounds great to me, especially if you invite them to come and join in. However I do think a three month warning to too much and may create a bit of drama. 3/4 weeks is surely ample?

Advance notice, cars in a car park, music off at 11, bank Holiday weekend - I don't think you could try much harder to be accommodating.

Good point about the guests leaving. Will they be quiet and safe going along the lane to the village green?

Sounds great! Also very similar to what we are planning to do so please could you update us how it goes??
And congratulations!

Our neighbours did this. They invited us all to join them for a glass of fizz outside after they got back from the wedding which was nice, before going indoors for the wedding breakfast. They then invited the neighbours they knew really well to the evening do. They had music indoors early evening then a silent disco outside later on which avoided most noise issues. I don't think anyone was bothered by it and we were happy for the newly married couple after the misery of all the covid lockdowns.

In this situation I would definitely invite my neighbours to have a glass of fizz with me at the very least!

I’m very noise sensitive and I think this sounds beautiful and fun!!

Definitely either invite your neighbour, and let them know the plan! Afterwards, say thank you with flowers / wine

Congratulations op!

Sounds lovely and with a fixed end time and parking sorted all you need now is a bit of sunshine. Have a lovely to wedding ❤️ day.

I'd expect an invite but if it was all over by 11 I wouldn't be annoyed either way.

Our neighbours did this (though didn't invite us to the evening - that's a nice touch)

I won't lie it was annoying as it was much closer to our house than we realised. We also had a young baby at the time.

That said, it was one day / night so nothing really in the grand scheme of things. Also nothing compared to the neighbour who set fire to our garden lol.

It sounds lovely.
I think CMOT's post on P1 would be far too much.
I would just go and either put a note through the door or knock on the door a couple of weeks before.
(If you do get to chat to them, some neighbours might suggest anyone who isn't able to walk too far can park on their drives).
A general "You are all welcome to join us for the live music from.... insert time" doesn't put anyone under any pressure to come, but sounds friendly and welcoming if they wanted to, but I don't think anyone would expect an invitation.
You sound very considerate and the day sounds lovely. Fingers crossed for the weather.

Nope, wouldn't mind a bit, in fact, I'd be there trying to encourage you to continue the party.

Our neighbours let us all know about their daughters wedding, it went on for three nights, I loved it! It was so loud but fantastic, they had fireworks too and I stood out with another neighbour to watch.

After what's gone on, it was lovely to hear people enjoying themselves

@Branleuse

it would be fine with me. Plenty of notice and not an all-nighter. If theyre invited too, then even better.

^ This

I'd appoint someone to be in charge of managing neighbour issues during the day - not that there are likely to be any, but just so that anything that crops up can be resolved quickly without you being involved. Then give neighbours that person's number (or give that person your phone for the day). Worst is likely to be someone being blocked in by bad parking.

All sounds lovely though!

Neighbours of ours did this - except they had 2 marquees erected as well as portaloos - and warned us a few weeks in advance. It all seemed to go well and we weren't aware of much noise.

It wouldnt bother me if i was your neighbour,i would love to hear a live band!

It sounds fab! Would you invite me please?

Can I come please? This sounds much better than any weddding I've ever been to.

A once off event with notice wouldn’t bother me at all.