New Neighbour outburst - AIBU

[noodiedoodie]

hello. Newish neighbour opposite parked his car opposite our driveway which makes it really hard to get our car in or out during the week before xmas. He came over to collect a parcel a few days later and said he would move it but the battery was flat. 5 weeks later and its still there. He came over tonight to collect another parcel. I answered the door, gave him the parcel, but was abrupt and asked him when he would move the car. He said he couldn't and I closed the door. 3 mins later he returned and gave me a mouthful of f-ing and blinding abuse at top volume about how he wasn't going to be spoken like that etc. I closed the door. Since then he's put a note through our door to my OH giving all sorts of reasons why the car hasn't been moved and saying my behaviour is inexcusable - RUDE AND WITHOUT PEOPLE SKILLS OR WHAT (unquote). He wants my OH to pop over for a drink to talk things over and build bridges.

AIBU to want nothing more to do with him and to prefer my OH to do the same?

Is it taxed and mot?

Absolutely not. He doesn't like the little woman of the house so he's going straight to the boss Of course he should have moved it - he nd others could probably just push it to a better spot if only just blocking and he should have done it before now. I don't think I'd have closed the door immediately first time but still nothing justifies his attack.

And no I would like an apology not a meeting of the penis mind where the little woman will inevitably be belittled for her inability to drive around his wanker car

Send any parcels back you are not the depo

What an absolute arse. First don’t take in any more of his parcels…
Your OH should tell him he’s on your side. Does he think “oh he’s a fella he’ll agree that his woman is hysterical”.
Ooooof he sounds like someone I want to shout at.

So he wants your husband to side with him against you? Is he fucking kidding?

Surely your husband sees this for what it is?

He has every right to park there and since you've managed all this time to get your car on/off your driveway, you've got no right to get funny about him not moving it.

He shouldn't have got hysterical about it but you shouldn't have got so snotty either.

As a PP says, he could have arranged to push it into a better location by now. Or for a mobile mechanic to come out & get it started.

I wouldn't engage with him, but definitely report it if it's not got tax or MOT.

Don't take anymore parcels in for him!!

He has every right to park there and since you've managed all this time to get your car on/off your driveway, you've got no right to get funny about him not moving it.

Howdy neighbour

While I agree the neighbour is an idiot and wanting to have a purely penis conversation is very revealing about what a total arse he is as long as he is parked legally he’s under no obligation to move his car.
Would be nice if he did (if he can and has somewhere to put it) but he doesn’t have to

Leave the note crumpled up on his door step. He doesn't deserve the time of day.

He sounds really stupid, thinking your OH can bring you into line or whatever, but on the other hand, it sounds like the place he’s parked is completely legal. Is it just difficult to get out or does it make it dangerous? If so you should contact the council for lines.

He prob thought he was just picking up a parcel and you were pretty rude to him. He does sound disorganised and a bit incompetent though.

So he wants a beery night with the man of the house in lieu of apologising to the woman of the house?

Check if the car is taxed & MOTed and report it if it’s not, and don’t take in any more bloody parcels.

@HeyGirlHeyBoy

He has every right to park there and since you've managed all this time to get your car on/off your driveway, you've got no right to get funny about him not moving it.

Howdy neighbour

Bonjour 🤣

It's true though. The OP might not like it but if his car is taxed and insured, she had no right to be snotty about it.

I wouldn't care about the car tbh but trying to resolve it with the "man of the house" would drive me nuts.

Put a note through his door asking him to send his mummy round so you can sort this out once and for all.

Our neighbours park in an inconvenient spot but we can still get access I don't say anything but it does annoy me.

In terms of AIBU you both seem to be overreacting tbh

Talk to your oh? Why? You were the one to broach it, he can talk to you. Check the tax status.

@Georgeskitchen

Don't take anymore parcels in for him!!

Or do, and then drop kick them from your front door through his car windscreen. Even better- get your DH to do it so neighbour is in no doubt about whose side your DH is on.

What has your oh said about this? He is clearly pissed off that a woman would even think about speaking to him like that. Under no circumstances take anymore packages in for him.

What is your DH's view of the note?

I am confused
I don't think there is any legal requirement to move car or for you to expect him to -surely? Is the road incredible narrow or does he have an unused drive?
& if you do not like him or his actions why take in his parcels just say no to the delivery guy?

You don't get to dictate where people park just because you have a drive.

agreed @PheasantsNest. But neither do men get to abuse and intimidate women just because they aren't friendly to them.

Don't accept any more parcels, refuse and let them be taken back. If he wants to make things more difficult for you by not moving his car, you make things more difficult for him. If he doesn't like it, well that's too bad isn't it.