New Neighbour outburst - AIBU

[noodiedoodie]

hello. Newish neighbour opposite parked his car opposite our driveway which makes it really hard to get our car in or out during the week before xmas. He came over to collect a parcel a few days later and said he would move it but the battery was flat. 5 weeks later and its still there. He came over tonight to collect another parcel. I answered the door, gave him the parcel, but was abrupt and asked him when he would move the car. He said he couldn't and I closed the door. 3 mins later he returned and gave me a mouthful of f-ing and blinding abuse at top volume about how he wasn't going to be spoken like that etc. I closed the door. Since then he's put a note through our door to my OH giving all sorts of reasons why the car hasn't been moved and saying my behaviour is inexcusable - RUDE AND WITHOUT PEOPLE SKILLS OR WHAT (unquote). He wants my OH to pop over for a drink to talk things over and build bridges.

AIBU to want nothing more to do with him and to prefer my OH to do the same?

You cannot tell him where to park I'm afraid.

Just because something is legally OK, given the NDN knows it makes it more difficult to get off OPs driveway, he should look to move it.

If he was.unaware then it's a different thing.

We all have to live together. Why anyone would deliberately do something that upset another neighbour, particularly one that they rely on to take parcels in, is beyond me.

Exactly kerberos. It's not about legal entitlement - is this how some people are living now? - He acknowledged the difficulty, said he'd move it and is now failing to do that. There is a better option where he can park and not obstruct OP.

He may not have to move his car legally, but it makes sense not to cause inconvenience to your neighbours if you don’t have to, especially if you want them to do you favours like taking in your parcels. I would make it perfectly clear to him that good neighbourly relations cut both ways and you won’t be accepting parcels for him if he can’t do a simple thing like moving his car a few meters. As for him approaching your DH for a ‘penis summit’ I would just tell my husband to ignore him. All parcels should be refused in the meantime.

@Kerberos

Just because something is legally OK, given the NDN knows it makes it more difficult to get off OPs driveway, he should look to move it.

If he was.unaware then it's a different thing.

We all have to live together. Why anyone would deliberately do something that upset another neighbour, particularly one that they rely on to take parcels in, is beyond me.

THIS

He said he would move it, didn't, and has now got arsey when reminded/pulled up on not doing what he said.
He's in the wrong, regardless of whether the car is legally parked or not.

Send a note to his mum/wife/daughter saying he was rude and shouted in your face and would they like to discuss it.

Well for a start I would stop taking in parcels

Then I would look at the car is it taxed/mot? If not i would report

We've got an oddly angled drive with 3 spaces, and someone parking opposite is an absolute pain in the arse. There's a fairly decent stretch of road for parking further down but nope, that bit opposite our drive must have a powerful magnet underneath it or something because it's where every chuffing car ends up........ and yes I'm looking at you, twat NDN who leaves his drive free for his mid life crisis motorbike and yes you do look like a teleubby on it.

He sounds unpleasant.

If it is a public road and unrestricted parking he can park where he likes though. You could have been pleasant / reasonable instead of abrupt.