In celebration of our lovely grown up kids

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It was my DS Birthday yesterday and he was back from Uni. We had a simple dinner of oven chips and steak then went to the pub. Downing pints, drinking shots (him and his sis, not me), laughs, jokes, secrets shared, stories told, memories remembered, photos taken, decamped back to the house, drunken unhealthy snacks, fart jokes (and farting), tickling the cats, general chatter until late.

Just watching him and his sis walking arm in arm together on the way home gave me and DH such a glow. How lovely to be able to share our lives with these smashing humans, and how comforting to know they love each other and will be there for each other for life.

We've had our share of ups and sometimes deep downs, but just sometimes it's bloody wonderful to step back and appreciate the spoils of 20+ years of parenting. Long may it last.

Not sure why I'm posting other than to share the joy and encourage others to share their positive stories of their lovely, kind , funny, creative, caring, slightly bonkers kids. And maybe to give hope to those struggling through the hard, sometimes relentless teenage years - it does get better and its so worth it,

Ps. I know this is Mumsnet and know how it can turn dark and snarky very quickly, so please note that this is intended to be a nice , warm fuzzy post , so please don't lambast me for being smug, complacent, privileged or any shit like that. It's just a simple celebration of our lovely kids.

lovely post
mine are in there 20's and I love seeing them together. dd is severely disabled and the bond she has with her brother and his gf(who is her sister now lol) is lovely to see.

Awww beautiful post and sounds like beautiful kids ❤️ Absolutely right to celebrate them!
Hope mine grow up to be as close and lovely xx

Lovely post, and not smug at all.

I have similar, and quite often get a “phew” feeling when I see them being Proper Adults and everyone getting on so well.

Mine aren't grown up quite but teens - my 16 year old DD said "bye bye, love you bro!" to her 14 year old brother as he left to catch his bus this morning, and he called "bye!" then mumbled grumpily "love you too sis" before he closed the door

DD complained to me that he only geumbled it and I had to point out that its more than most teenaged brothers would do

Its not their usual morning ritual or anything so it was sweet.

Dealing with their stressed out slightly tantuming brother doing homeschooling in quarantine now though. He's a bit overwhelmed by sums involving squared two digit numbers, division and brackets even though he can do sums with any two of those things, just not all 3... I just told him to have a break.

❤❤ this is so lovely. I don't have that relationship with my siblings. I sure hope my children do though

How lovely OP! I love this.

Mine are 20, one at uni …. they miss each other a lot and I love seeing them back together again. The one at home, who is usually a girl of few words, said to her sister “I feel complete when you are back” 🥰

My baby was 30 last week, she is wonderful, clever, creative, funny, caring and warm, she is a mummy and is bringing up a wonderful beautiful little boy. Her dh is a great guy and I love him very much - we have a lot of fun as a family, my dgs adores grandad, so much naughty behaviour We all go out together a lot, enjoy each others company, raucous behaviour (Xmas is a riot) So happy and blessed (puke! ) to have them.

Oh and btw, fart jokes never go out of fashion, they filter down the generations, my dgs likes to make a fart noise if I bend over.

That’s a lovely post OP

What a lovely post . I’m a long way from having an adult DC but I’m looking forward to seeing what my tiny boy is like as an adult.

My mum sometimes gets a bit misty eyed at mine and my sister’s relationship as adults too .

How lovely OP.

Can I ask did they ever fight when they were younger or have they always been quite close?
My DD and DS ( 1yr age difference) are at each other's throats constantly and I'd so like to think they can become close when they're older.

My ds had his birthday yesterday also!! We went for a meal as older ds is a chef so he cooked for us! Took a pic with his first legal pint! He has had Covid twice and a real rubbish time lately!! A real man now!!
Though he will still be a teen at heart like the rest ime!

@Pleaseuniverseplease they have always got on pretty well but I do know of siblings who fought and are now besties so there is hope I think.

Really chuffed that others are feeling the warm glow this morning . Thankyou for sharing your tales of loveliness.

I'm off to a funeral this morning of a lovely woman the same age as me. It's even more important to embrace the now on days like these.

Sorry, will stop getting sentimental now.

Love this! I have a DD 23 and DS 17 and they have such a lovely relationship. It makes me so happy. I am not close to my DB - we get on ok but not close.

DD is actually moving home next weekend for 6 months so we are all looking forward to having her here for a while.

Christmas was much as you describe your evening. Lots of laughter.

DS was telling me yesterday that his Sister is the first person he thinks to message when he has a problem or when he has some good news to share. It just made my heart sing.

What a lovely makes-you-feel-warm-inside first post of the day to read 🥰.

My two are teens and truly are fabulous . They light up my world every day. They are 13 and 15 and the best of friends (one DD and one DS). I don't have that closeness to my siblings, we weren't brought up to be a close family. DH and I have worked so hard at growing a close-knit team and I can only hope that once they reach adulthood they will still share that closeness that your family have.

Thanks OP; the sun is shining here, the sky is blue and you've given me a happy glow inside to start the day off

I remember when we asked Mum if it was OK for us three sisters to go away together for a weekend when Big Sis was over from NZ to see her, and she said "Oh I've waited 50 years for you to be friends!".

I love my two, 28 and 31, turning into such lovely people.

We’re in a very tricky teenage stage and your post has given me a bit of hope for the future, thank you

This is wonderful. I don’t have a mum who would think any of those lovely things about me now. But I am going to be the mum that is teary eyed at my daughters’ relationship because I already am. I live in hope of them having a long lasting and loving relationship that will keep them going throughout their adult life.
Especially as they are coparented and sometimes it feels like the only consistency they have is each other.
I cannot wait for the older years.

So sorry to read your update about your friend.

You are right, days like these are a poignant reminder to embrace each happy day

@UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme I remember those days when the maths had gone way past my ability to help. The khan academy was good though , maybe that could help?

@thebabessavedme fart jokes and poo stories never get old. And they can be repeated. Scatalogical humour is our fave 😂

Sorry to derail the thread but those of you with grown up children who get along, specifically boy/girl dynamic - can I ask if they got along as children or did they fight?

I have a DS(8) and a DD(5) - DD worships DS but he hardly tolerates her, I would love them to be close as adults but doesn't seem likely.

I love grown up children. Like a friend you’ve known all your life.

Mine has just come in and told me I’m a cool mum as l was listening to Meatloaf and snivelling a bit.

So we both had a listen, singing at the tops of our voices!

We are lucky with ours too. Blended family, 1 mine, 2 DH's and 1 together. They socialise together with their partners, come on holidays with us, family parties etc etc. It's lovely to see them get on so well considering DH and I got together when they were 11, 8, and 5. I'm also lucky with my sister and brother in law. No friction in our family and its lovely.