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In celebration of our lovely grown up kids

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catwomando · 21/01/2022 08:23

It was my DS Birthday yesterday and he was back from Uni. We had a simple dinner of oven chips and steak then went to the pub. Downing pints, drinking shots (him and his sis, not me), laughs, jokes, secrets shared, stories told, memories remembered, photos taken, decamped back to the house, drunken unhealthy snacks, fart jokes (and farting), tickling the cats, general chatter until late.

Just watching him and his sis walking arm in arm together on the way home gave me and DH such a glow. How lovely to be able to share our lives with these smashing humans, and how comforting to know they love each other and will be there for each other for life.

We've had our share of ups and sometimes deep downs, but just sometimes it's bloody wonderful to step back and appreciate the spoils of 20+ years of parenting. Long may it last.

Not sure why I'm posting other than to share the joy and encourage others to share their positive stories of their lovely, kind , funny, creative, caring, slightly bonkers kids. And maybe to give hope to those struggling through the hard, sometimes relentless teenage years - it does get better and its so worth it,

Ps. I know this is Mumsnet and know how it can turn dark and snarky very quickly, so please note that this is intended to be a nice , warm fuzzy post , so please don't lambast me for being smug, complacent, privileged or any shit like that. It's just a simple celebration of our lovely kids.

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Mojoj · 21/01/2022 11:36

Lovely post. Your kids sound fab. I'm also enjoying watching my eldest son strike out into the world. He's had more than his share of drama and tragedy in his young life and I couldn't be more proud of him, getting on with it. For all the parents toiling through the teenage years, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there.

Holly60 · 21/01/2022 11:40

This is so lovely. My two (DS and Dd) also have a wonderful adult relationship. Both gorgeous people

Giggorata · 21/01/2022 12:03

Delightful joyous post 😀

I know what you mean, when I look at mine 💖 They are so wonderful, so much themselves and I'm grateful to share their lives.

Also, they couldn't be in the same room together when they were tweens, teens and in the twenties were a bit wary of each other, too. But now they have get togethers and are consciously enjoying their sibling-ness.

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UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme · 21/01/2022 12:08

catwomando oh thank you! He can actually do it, its more about calming down and approaching the problem in stages with DC3... He gets overwhelmed easily (I wonder sometimes about ADD or ASD but then i think it's actually normal... Don't remember the older ones getting as worked up though). He's only 10 so I can just about help but sometimes he needs to step back and breathe and then look at the problem afresh!

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catwomando · 21/01/2022 17:30

I've just got back after a very emotional funeral , saying goodbye to an old friend. This has really fed my soul.

Thankyou everyone for sharing

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35andThriving · 22/01/2022 22:29

What a lovely post! Can't imagine my mum celebrating me like this!

cheapskatemum · 22/01/2022 22:45

DSs all in their 20s. DS2 has SLD & ASD, saw him yesterday & he seems happy, made happy noises to see me & we did 2 things together we both like: walked to a greasy spoon cafe & ate an all day breakfast each , then walked back to his residential care home. DS1, DS3 & DS4 all living & working hard in gainful employment in London. 2 have lovely girlfriends. All come home every now & again when skint to see Mumsie (their choice of moniker, not mine).

Eightisgreat · 22/01/2022 23:11

I had a rebellious teen and a runaway teen at times I really did despair.
They are now both amazing mothers who I am so proud of.
They sometimes work together and help each other out with lifts etc.
Nothing makes me happier than when they call me from the car together on an errand, or on the way to work just giving me an update on the latest news or a bit of family gossip or just a chat.
They are just bonkers, have such a lust for life, are both amazing and I love them.

IWasHotInTheNineties · 22/01/2022 23:16

I love my grown up children. They are my favourite people in the world.
We make each other laugh and we share stories.
I feel like every minute I am with them I am lucky and I love the wonderful humans they have become.

sandgrown · 22/01/2022 23:25

I have two children in their 40s who are really close . Baby number 3 is 21 years younger but it’s lovely to see how close he is to them now he is an adult.

DramaAlpaca · 22/01/2022 23:31

My three grown up sons are wonderful. I adore them and they adore me. The three of them have such a close bond too, it's lovely to see. We were all together over Christmas and it was such a special time.

KittyTail · 22/01/2022 23:36

This was lovely to read. Thank you for posting.

Nevernottrying · 22/01/2022 23:41

The surprise for me was just how much I would enjoy watching my daughter become a mummy , and how wonderful her and her husband are at parenting. It fills my heart and makes me so proud. I am lucky we have such a close relationship too .

balzamico · 23/01/2022 00:18

What an utterly lovely post. You've made me cry, my dd is downstairs singing Karaoke with her mates for her 17th birthday and Ds has retreated to bed, grumbling (bu v gently about the noise),
They fight a lot but also at 17 & 14 share so many jokes, humour and interests that I've no idea about- I love it and love them, it's a proper joy to watch,
I've loved this thread about slightly older kids as I've been here since they were tiny and inevitably more posters are still there in the thick of it.

mibbelucieachwell · 23/01/2022 00:30

I get you sister. Seeing your grown up children happy sure does give a lovely warm glow.

A friend lost her brother in law, aged 49 recently and we were talking about our grown up children. I was expressing concern about one of mine who's a struggling musician until my friend reminded me how lucky we are to have kids who've grown up without any major problems who we get to spend time with and enjoy.

StillMedusa · 23/01/2022 00:37

I have four.. aged between 24 and 29 (30 next week... HOW?!) and they are fab.
The teen years were tricky at times, and DS1 was horrendous ..you name it, he did it.. but he's now the loveliest man, and they all grew into adults which amaze me.
A doctor, a children's hospice nurse, a musician and a lad with autism and LDs who has held a job for 5 years and is probably the local supermarkets most popular employee ever... and they are so close as adults even tho two of them live a long way away.

And as another poster says, seeing my DD2 become a mother.. I am in awe of how brilliant she is, and how much joy she and her dh have in their baby...and how bloody brilliant it is being the Granny close by

I loved my little children, but the adult ones are brilliant, and it was worth all the hard times, the teen rows,being the late night taxi, the emergency drives to Uni when one or another was upset and needed us... all worth it!!!!

KurtWilde · 23/01/2022 01:06

My grown up children are my absolute best friends. I had my eldest 2 when I was quite young, I was still living with my parents, and I feel like we've grown up together. We laugh, we have fun, we cry, we support.

I remember how anxious I was when I had my first DD, I was so sure I was getting everything wrong and someone would come along and tell me she needed a better mum! Once I realised that as long as you're doing the best you possibly can, then everything got easier. By then I was pregnant with DS, and facing being a single mum of 2.

They're both early twenties now and have babies of their own (that's a weird one, watching your children become parents!) and they're often on the phone to me 'mum how did you do this.. how did you do that.. do you think it would be ok if..' and I love that they think I parented them so well that they ask my opinion on everything from nappy brands to weaning tips.

They're also very close, spend a lot of time at each other's houses just hanging out, and when they all come home en masse it's bloody brilliant.

I also have young DC still at home, and they're very close with their big sister and brother - and the big ones have a lot of time for them too.

I'm also going to mention my adult step children. They're quite a bit older than mine, and I was only with their dad for a few years but I'm honoured that they chose to remain part of my family when my relationship with him ended, and I still regard them as my extra children. They were teens when I met them, and they were just wonderful kids who accepted me and my DC graciously into their world, as we did them.

When we ALL get together, now that's a party.

Flatandhappy · 23/01/2022 07:01

What a lovely thread, I like hearing about happy families! 18yo DD has just got her HSC (like A levels) results and we went out to celebrate with her big brothers and the eldest's wife and baby. There are big gaps between my kids but they have always got on really well, I love seeing them together and we all have a laugh.

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catwomando · 23/01/2022 22:21

Ooh I just logged back in and saw new posts. How lovely they all are. I'm really looking forward to being a granny one day too

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