Different wants on babies..

[womanacrossthestreet]

Hi - if you were married with two children (both fathered by your husband) and he categorically wants no more children.

But you absolutely undoubtedly wanted another. Would that be a dealbreaker?

Marriage moderately happy. Not absolutely fantastical, but also not awful.

It would be a dealbreaker for me if (for example) a woman wanted a baby and her partner categorically did not ever want a child, because obviously you have really different ideas on your future.

But not when you already have two kids together with the man.

Could you look further into the way you think of your marriage? You describe it as sort of ‘not great but not awful’ which doesn’t sound like you’re 100% happy? I may have misread that though but is it possible there is another issue bothering you which you’re sort of latching onto this third child idea?

@Lightswitch123

Could you have "an accident "

Jesus… ^

No I wouldn’t split up my family for another baby (that might never happen anyway!)

What do you think a third child will bring you that the first two can't.
To consider breaking up a decent marriage over it you must have pretty compelling reasons other than that you "want" it.
It's worth digging deep and really thinking about why you want this so badly. You have two children and that sounds like plenty to me.
Would it be worth getting some counselling to explore this and try to make peace with it?

@BitcherOfBlakiven

Would I break my existing DCs family up because I wanted to meet someone else, bring a man they don’t know into their lives because I wanted another baby?

No.

This.