I am estranged from a family member who drinks too much. She goes on benders. I used to live really close to her, cleaning her home after a bender, driving her to rehab. She used to say she wanted to stop, but clearly didn't.
About two years ago I said "no more" and moved away, now I live about an hour away.
Anyway I recently joined an Al Anon group with the hopes that it would be some understanding company. Also looking for support in telling other family members not to give me dramatic updates around Alkie McGee.
Long story short, I find Al Anon creepy. I've told them I don't think I have a disease because I gave assistance to someone with an addiction. I actually find that concept quite weird and victim-blaming. Evidently that is not acceptable to say. The fact that I drove a family member to get medical assistance means I am diseased and I must admit that. Also it works if you work it ad infinitum. I've just had dogma quoted at me.
Also the meetings are boring, handwringing stories about people's alkie relatives. I'm like, 'Anyone have any hobbies?'
Just heard so many people extolling Al Anon. Anyone else find it weird or do I just have a dud group?