What would you do with DD in the week before c-section?

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So my daughter is at nursery at school and my c section is currently booked for the week after half term. We are in a dilemma about what to do with her in that half term week with covid in mind.

We need to avoid at all costs my husband getting Covid (obviously I don't want to get it either but they'll still deliver baby even if I have it) as it would mean him not being able to be there for the birth. We therefore have 2 options really for half term:

1. lock down as a family for the week. this means it would be really rather boring for daughter but would avoid the risk of getting covid.

2. send daughter to holiday camp for a couple of days (some of her friends will be going too) so she can have fun while I get some needed rest before the c-section.

What would you do??

Outdoor play dates - park, national trust, forest?

Number 1 without a doubt. Unless you are not that bothered about your dh not being at the birth.

Lock down. Do outside activities only.
Have a camp in the living room - DH to sleep on the floor with her. Toast marshmallows on the BBQ.
Save some movies to watch.
Do cooking.
Get her a new toy/barbie/baby etc.

You don't really want any of you having covid before or after the birth.

@Porcupineintherough I can’t even bring myself to think about the possibility of DH not being there at the birth, I wouldn’t be able to do it without him. He absolutely has to be there.

@Mumdiva99 love these ideas, thank you

@DownWhichOfLate yeah I’m thinking along these lines too, thank you

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We were in this situation last year and we isolated as a family for a week before my section date so that DH could be there and also so my DD could be looked after by my CEV DM. I’d have loved the rest but it was more important for everyone to stay safe and well

Lockdown!!! Will be fabulous family memories of the last week of the 3 of you ☺️

Can husband wear an FPP2 all week? Or holiday camp for 3 days, isolate for two days?

Thank you @Minibea. How far did you take the isolation ie did you leave the house at all in that week? My daughter will be staying with the grandparents when I go in so I’m thinking they’d need to isolate too?

Good idea @WakeUpLockie I actually have quite fond memories of lockdown 1 where we made loads of memories as our own little unit. (My daughter was 2 at the first lockdown so there was no home schooling or anything)

Thanks @Footnote DH works from home full time so isolating won’t be too hard, other than keeping a 4 year old entertained!

Going against the grain here but I would make the most of DCs last week before family life is toppled by a baby, and would be doing as much as possible such as trips out.
That said, I'm of the mindset that you can't really fully avoid covid, and you could lock down as a family but still catch it food shopping/delivery people/anywhere.

Good luck :)

If she is at holiday club then she is just as likely to bring something into the house.

Personally I would be doing a couple of socially distanced trips to outside places as a 3 while you can (even if it’s a trip to a safari park or something!)

Well we were in lockdown when I did it so although nursery was open, not a lot else was so we didn’t have masses of options for days out etc. I was also suffering quite badly with SPD and there was a lot of snow on the ground still so walks/national trust kind of outings weren’t really on the cards either. I think it is one of those things where only you can decide on the level of risks you are prepared to take. For us, I couldn’t face going in alone after a traumatic birth with DD so it was imperative that neither DH or I tested positive (not sure whether things have changed but when DS was born, while I would still have had my section as planned regardless of whether I had covid, if I was positive then DH wouldn’t be allowed in). Also because my DM had been shielding they had been v clear that they wouldn’t have DD if we hadn’t all isolated so total isolation was the only scenario that really worked for us.

Thank you @popppi you’re right in that we could catch covid anywhere. And yes it feels so weird thinking it’ll be our last week as a 3, although DH will still be working so it’ll just be DD and me but maybe that’s a chance to have some quality time together?

@Sirzy Good point on the holiday club, think it’s pretty clear from everyone that’s not a good idea. Good idea for the zoo tho!

@Minibea That’s basically how the rules are now in that if I end up covid positive they’ll still deliver the baby but DH wouldn’t be allowed there. It’s so difficult to decide the level of risk we’re willing to take 😬

I’m in a similar situation and think we’re going to isolate. Baby due before half term though so think we’ll have to take dc out of nursery a week or two before my due date. Baby could then be late which could mean lots of missed nursery. It’s a difficult one! In your situation with the date booked I’d def be isolating for that week.

Neither.

Keep DD home and spend special time with her. You will miss it so much when the baby arrives. Go out as much as you want, park, playground, cycling, zoo, outdoor cafes. Even visits to swimming pool, supermarket and library would be fine, I think. And spend as much time as you like cuddling up together at home.

Oh gosh yes @Junemoon658 that's a tricky situation for you. Good luck in your decision making too!

Thank you @adaptiveness I think I've got my head in the sand a bit about what life is going to be like with 2 kids. Or rather I have no idea because DD is 4 and she's all I've ever known! That's a good idea doing lots of activities with her, making it special mummy/daughter time. Thank you

Lock down as a family obviously

Thanks @MissMaple82 that seems to be the general consensus!