What do you do with the wee?!

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Toilet training my 2 year old. He's fairly good, but I'm struggling a bit when we are out and about. I keep a potty in the boot of the car, but I'm wondering what to do with the wee when he's used it.

I want to buy a travel potty, where the lid seals the wee inside until you get home. My husband says just chuck it in a hedge/down a drain. This is fine if we're out somewhere like a wood, where no one will notice, but not so fine on the school run, where we park and walk in housing estates etc.

Husband says just take a large Tupperware box to tip the wee into for these occasions. I think a proper travel potty would really help.

What does everyone else do?

We had a incontinence jug that had a bag that attached to the end which could be tied (and was leakproof) and put into a bin. With a large handle so I didn't have to get too close! Then I could just spray the jug/catcher with antibac. Also used a few travel potty bags which are effectively a sanitary towel in a bag. Did cloth nappies with the DC so felt a had a bit of leeway when out and about

Never taken a potty ro walk to shops etc. Always kept a normal one in boot of car. If they had a wee. I'd find a drain or Bush.

Then travel pottys are bulky. I wouldn't carry that as well as changing bag etc.

If in a wooded area. Pee in a Bush right out the way.

We had one of those travel pottys that you put a bag in and also folds down / opens out as a toilet seat. It was a godsend and even past potty training stage we kept it a little while for emergency wees at the side of the road (my DD would absolutely refuse go behind a bush 😂).
I preferred that kind over the ones that you close up as 1. They're very bulky and 2. I didn't like the idea of them doing a poo on a long trip and then having to open it again to do another wee... Better to just tie it up and put in a bin straightaway.

Pottette. Brilliant invention. Used for traffic jams, emergency wees. Way past toddler years.

In the car discreetly. You’d be surprised how many adults have a “solution” in the car for emergency wees. It happens to all of us at some stage, no loo around.

We had a potette. You line it with a nappy and then just bag that up as normal. we only had to use it a handful of times but it was worth the world.

Potettes are great, fold small and have disposable liners. I've eyed it up once or twice myself in traffic jams on the motorway!

@Santaisstilleatingmincepies

Not sure why anyone would teach a ds to wee sitting down!!

So that you don't get pee on the floor surrounding your toilet?!

It is quite depressing how many use plastic bags and disposable pads when potty training… typical ‘I’ll be environmentally friendly when it suits me better’ mentality. Awful.

I have 5 DC, occasionally took a potty out and tipped it away after, but generally favoured the “pee behind a bush” technique.

Ds's don't always have downward pointing bits so chancing it misses a potty!! Unless you /point it down. So might as well teach pointing it down a loo?!
Ime of 8 ds's!!

I never lugged a potty around... just no. If they couldn't last until the toilet (or a bush, or a drain) then they weren't ready anyway.

You do the same thing dog owners do.

Honestly forget the potette. More pointless plastic. More plastic bags. Totally unnecessary

Toddlers can do wild wees. It's no different to a dog peeing in the bush.

Obviously not poos but in that instance; you deal with it three same way you deal with a shitty nappy

You kind of need a clear schedule for a couple of weeks. Put puppy pads down in the car. Take several pairs of pants at all times

I wouldn't buy more plastic, just tip it into the gutter/drain etc. I agree if they do a just in case wee before going out but they frequently can't hold it then they're not ready.

Mine have gone in bushes/over grates etc if absolutely caught short.

@wishingitwasspring

Completely agree and ive just done potty training 2 years ago

@MustBeDueSomeBetterFeet

Get a Potette. It folds up small with dedicated pad bags to catch and hold the wee.

Have used these for four children. Never fails on day trips.

@alienalan

You do the same thing dog owners do.

Put your child on a leash and teach them to squat/cock their leg on an available patch of grass?

Never used a potty or took anything out with us. Both children trained straight on a toilet without potty in the house. When they couldn't hold for short trip, we didn't take them out until they could. Fortunately this was just first week of training which was planned when we had school holiday. After that, we stopped where there was a toilet or, worst case, in a bush

Potette with the bags when necessary and as a loo seat when possible. A friend has a small bottle in her car for emergency wee stops for her boys.

We've never taken a potty out either. If we are somewhere without a loo and it's early days or the loo is really far away then we find a bush or tree (which I do as well, as I have a bladder condition).

I've had 2 kids that will not go on demand, so taking them to the loo before we leave just doesn't work but it's a lesson that you have to wait, all part of the learning. Changes of clothes happen!

We had one of these and called him Gaston after Ben & Holly.

www.johnlewis.com/my-carry-potty-travel-potty-ladybug/p5521677

I miss Gaston.

People making arbitrary rules about when they think "readiness" is ("They're not READY until they can wait 15 minutes/wait half an hour/pull their tights up by themselves/wipe their own bum/locate the nearest toilet via signage/whatever"), and insisting that anyone who doesn't wait that long is WRONG, are extremely irritating.

I'll give an analogy. I live in a place where we tend to meet lots of parents from all over the world. I was a bit struck by the fact that some mums from one particular part of the world tended to spoonfeed their children pureed food and give them bottles (rather than shifting to a cup) until what I considered to be a really advanced age.

When they saw my older baby drinking from a cup and feeding herself stuff, they were shocked. "But.... she'll drop things?" "Aren't you worried about spills?"

I don't mean that they were cynically chuckling "To hell with my child's development, I'd rather have an easy life and save myself from wiping the floor, bwahahah!"

I mean that these mothers took spills and drops and needing-help-with-certain-foods, as a sign that the child was NOT READY for self-feeding or cup-drinking, and seemed to feel that this was somehow not developmentally appropriate yet.

Of course, it made things easier for themless mess, less clearing up. On the other hand, they had to try and accustom stubborn older toddlers to feeding themselves and take their precious bottles away at some point, and it was often a big battle by then-just like the battles I've seen when parents try to toilet train some preschoolers, some of whom start withholding poo and getting constipated because they are very very used to nappies by this point.

Or, to give a counter example, I did not have the time or energy to take my children to swimming lessons when they were very little---we have no car and are not located near a pool. So we waited till they were about 7 and then did a crash course and they learned very quickly. But that doesn't mean that "Children aren't READY to learn to swim until they are about 7 and can do it in a few weeks!" It is fine and actually a wonderful thing to start toddler swimming lessons and do it gradually from an early age, if you have the time and motivation to do that.

Just thought I'd come back to say I've adopted the kitchen roll in a normal potty method and it has worked a treat. Thanks for the tip, I don't know why I didn't thin on of it before.

I waited until mine just got it within about three weeks so never traipse around with potty.

That did mean waiting until they were about three.

Green tea, the expert say potty train shouldn't be long and drawn out and done when child understands it easily.
I've known a two year old do it but she was advanced and understanding.
My dds both three.

Why push something at two that's going to take months when if you just wait, it will take about three weeks?

It's like my piano teacher friend. She said some dp push their dc in with toddlers who unless they do have special musical talent will simply take years to plod and learn everything they could do in weeks if the parents waited until they are 6 or 7. She said it's child care mostly.

People are weird about their kids needing to hold their wee. Holding in urine (or faeces) for a long time, so you can find a toilet is a skill that most kids can’t learn overnight. It’s like asking you do suddenly play the oboe. I toilet trained one of mine during the first lockdown where there were no public toilets open. I used my travel potty often, and preferred it in some cases to the grim public toilets that were available.

For pouring it away, I think “would I let my dog wee here?”. If I would, I pour it away.

The worst this is that those sealed potties are too easy to forget to empty 😂