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Posting for traffic - outside this guys apartment what would you do

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 03/01/2022 21:14

Right so my friend (kinda with benefits) hasn't been returning my calls/texts for about 4-5 days now
Probably lost interest I know
He was paid today and has borrowed some cash off me I really
Need back - he's in his apartment. Car is outside - pressed the buzzer
Blantently ignoring me
Really need the cash this week -
What would you do???

We're usually on dead good terms and always help each other out but this is weird

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 03/01/2022 21:15

For context known him about 15 years Fwb about 6 months

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Butchyrestingface · 03/01/2022 21:16

Has he borrowed money from you before and repaid?

At a guess, I'd say you're not getting it back so will need to make other arrangements.

Notimeforaname · 03/01/2022 21:17

He doesn't have your money yet or isn't giving it back. Was it a huge amount?

Liz1tummypain · 03/01/2022 21:17

I don't think there's anything you can do. Well maybe write him a letter and post it through his letter box and say you'd like some response ASAP. Good luck

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 03/01/2022 21:17

Yes he's borrowed from me and vice versa always all ok
Usually messages daily so bit odd but knew he was busy over
The holidays

All so weird

Your right -
Gonna need a plan b just annoyed with him and

Maybe he's found a new
Fwb

Fine - can live with that shame as it was good but no point loosing sleep over is it?

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SheilaWilcox · 03/01/2022 21:17

Did he only start borrow ng money from you after you started sleeping with you?

Munchkinpumpkin · 03/01/2022 21:18

Not much option really.. go home, write it off and block him?

Notimeforaname · 03/01/2022 21:18

How was he when you last spoke ? All normal? Do you know what the money was needed for?could give clues..

AnyFucker · 03/01/2022 21:18

Walk away and never contact him again

Stop lending money you cannot afford to lose

Notimeforaname · 03/01/2022 21:19

I'd probably stand there with my finger on the buzzer to annoy the shit out of him if I really needed the money back tonight.

Theunamedcat · 03/01/2022 21:20

Do not accept him back again now you know he is a cunt a real person would have apologised or answered the door

Pinkchicken85 · 03/01/2022 21:20

He’s blatantly spent it all over Christmas, you’re not seeing that cash anytime soon

twominutesmore · 03/01/2022 21:21

Yes I'd be standing with my finger on the buzzer and shouting through the letterbox too. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of mentioning the fwb arrangement but I'd want my money back and to let him know I was disgusted that he had ignored me after a 15 year friendship.

Mummadeze · 03/01/2022 21:22

He has no right to take your money. I would also bug him until I got it back.

MadMadMadamMim · 03/01/2022 21:25

I'm with @AnyFucker.

I'd walk away and block the twat. You're not getting the money back so I'd cut all contact with him. He's blown your 15 year friendship out the water for cash. Hope it was worth it for him.

DartmoorChef · 03/01/2022 21:30

Today is a Bank Holiday, maybe he gets paid tomorrow, rude to ignore you though.

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 03/01/2022 21:31

We've lent each other money a bit over the years we always pay each other back

It was £250 so a fair amount -
He's self employed and some customers didn't pay up before Christmas so I did it to be nice
But he has a part time job as a top up he promised me he'd transfer
It to me like he always had but has started ghosting me so all really weird

He's read my snap chats but not replied all very odd
My best mate thinks
He's recruited a new
Fwb -
Maybe so that's ok but just feel let down after years of friendship

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gamerchick · 03/01/2022 21:36

He can't afford to pay you back so hes ignoring you OP. That's all. Don't think too deeply about it.

Either way it's time to stop the fwb as you're obviously in deeper than intended.

MrsKellySeveride · 03/01/2022 21:53

Am I with the only bank who doesn't process payment on a bank holiday? My first thought was - "how has he been paid today?"

Anyway, I'm sorry that you're being ghosted - that hurts more than the money!

Even if he does eventually pay you back, he can't be trusted with money or your heart in the future.

Wheredidthequietgo · 03/01/2022 21:55

He's got a new girlfriend?

AnxiousHeffalump · 03/01/2022 22:05

I was thinking he must have a different FWB over right now.

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 03/01/2022 22:16

@AnxiousHeffalump

I was thinking he must have a different FWB over right now.
That's a possibility However we're all part of a big friendship group and if he's said that he's met someone I'd have been ok with that and respected him more for his honesty.

I'd forgotten today was a bank holiday but regardless of this he's ghosted me for 5 days I feel a bit let down to be honest - it'll be interesting to see what happens it's very out of character

My best friend said maybe he's ill?
But it takes 2 mins to type a text doesn't it?

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Treecreature · 03/01/2022 22:24

He might not be home? Gone for a walk? At the pub or similar? But yes, a text only takes a minute.

GreenTeaPingPong · 03/01/2022 22:29

Have you texted him to say, oi mate, any chance of that 250 quid back?

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 03/01/2022 22:34

Of course you can't stand their with your finger on the buzzer until he answers. How many of you would tell her to call the police if she'd posted to say she owed him money but didn't have it and he was stood outside her flat with his finger on the buzzer ffs?

OP could anyone else in the friendship group message him for you to see if it's just you he's ignoring? Could there be something more going on?