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Posting for traffic - outside this guys apartment what would you do

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 03/01/2022 21:14

Right so my friend (kinda with benefits) hasn't been returning my calls/texts for about 4-5 days now
Probably lost interest I know
He was paid today and has borrowed some cash off me I really
Need back - he's in his apartment. Car is outside - pressed the buzzer
Blantently ignoring me
Really need the cash this week -
What would you do???

We're usually on dead good terms and always help each other out but this is weird

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MolkosTeenageAngst · 03/01/2022 22:53

Have you got any mutual friends who could try contacting him to see if he’s just busy or if he’s purposefully ignoring you?

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 03/01/2022 23:14

@sparepantsandtoothbrush
@MolkosTeenageAngst

Yes I'm going to leave it tonight I've messaged him again his car was outside and his light was on in his flat and so I know he was there gonna see what happens tomorrow

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LakieLady · 04/01/2022 08:17

He hasn't got the money and he's too embarrassed to tell you (possibly had the money and spent it on other things, which is even more embarrassing to fess up to).

Which is pretty shit of him, really. I'd write it (and him!) off. At least then it'll be a pleasant surprise if you do get it back.

PicaK · 04/01/2022 09:09

Similar happened to me - tho it was £80 and not a friend before.
I pushed the door and went in. Found the lounge table covered in nearly 50 empty cans of lager and then (thinking he was dead) him comatose on a dirty mattress upstairs.
Not pleasant.

flapjackfairy · 04/01/2022 09:13

He could have collapsed or even died! If this is out of character that would concern me more than assuming he was ignoring me.

Fatgalslim · 04/01/2022 09:18

@flapjackfairy

He could have collapsed or even died! If this is out of character that would concern me more than assuming he was ignoring me.
Yeah, that's pretty unlikely
OldTinHat · 04/01/2022 09:24

Hopefully you have your money now. I have a FWB that I lent money to who pays like clockwork on the 1st. We're not FWB anymore but he still repays. As does DS1 for something he needed my address to buy in installments. I also have five direct debits that come out on the 1st.

No activity in my account until this morning when everything pinged in and out from 1st Jan.

The delay will no doubt be because of the New Year bank holiday.

rubyglitter · 04/01/2022 09:32

You say you’ve both lent each other money over years, but is it mainly him borrowing money? Does he usually pay on time? It’s the New Year so I doubt that he has been paid due to the bank holiday. Never lend money you can’t afford to lose.

twominutesmore · 04/01/2022 15:53

Have you got your money or a response yet op?

Santaisstilleatingmincepies · 04/01/2022 15:56

Message him publicly and ask for your cash before end of the week.
You need to dump his arse if he won't answer or pay it back.

Whitefire · 04/01/2022 16:24

@flapjackfairy

He could have collapsed or even died! If this is out of character that would concern me more than assuming he was ignoring me.
A little off the scale but there is a highly infectious virus doing the rounds, there is a fairly good chance he is ill.
TowandaForever · 04/01/2022 16:45

If you have messages about the loan you could take him to small claims or at least threaten to?

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 04/01/2022 22:38

@rubyglitter

You say you’ve both lent each other money over years, but is it mainly him borrowing money? Does he usually pay on time? It’s the New Year so I doubt that he has been paid due to the bank holiday. Never lend money you can’t afford to lose.
Probably 50/50 all very odd
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CaMePlaitPas · 04/01/2022 22:41

Maybe he's got covid

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 04/01/2022 22:42

@twominutesmore

Have you got your money or a response yet op?
No I've not heard anything from him all day and I've messaged him and he's not opened my wattsapps either but I can see at various points during the day that he has been online and so I have come to the conclusion that he doesn't have my money, he's more than likely recruited a new Fwb (which is fine I just need him to be honest with me) as we have Snapchat we've got from "besties" to best friends so he's been snapping someone more than he snaps me which is unusual for us we usually message daily afew times I just feel hurt (Fwb aside) that he thinks it's ok to treat me like this after being mates for 15 years

I don't want to fall out with him about the money - life is too short but he's seriously taking the Piss isn't he?

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feelsobadfeltsogood · 04/01/2022 22:44

@CaMePlaitPas

Maybe he's got covid
There's a chance I suppose but then why not message me and tell me that? He had Covid last year and I did some shopping first him and I doorstep dropped it and he said how much was it and he transferred the cash straight away so very strange
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feelsobadfeltsogood · 04/01/2022 22:45

@TowandaForever

If you have messages about the loan you could take him to small claims or at least threaten to?
I'd try to avoid that ideally but yea good point but will that cost me or would costs be passed to him?
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feelsobadfeltsogood · 10/01/2022 13:08

@twominutesmore

So still not heard from him or had any money back

Feel like giving up just sad after 15 years he has so little respect ✊

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Trilley · 24/01/2022 18:07

I'd suggest sending a formal pre-action letter threatening to sue in the small claims court.

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