How do you get used to neighbour noise??

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After an expensive divorce I could only afford to buy a mid terrace. I thought the sound insulation would be OK as it’s quite a large 3 bed house in a lovely area & these houses rarely come on the market (so people live in them a long time).

Well of course now I know the sound insulation is crap. 1 side I don’t hear a peep but the other side is horrific. Currently trying to work from home & all I can hear is the female neighbour screaming at her 2 kids, the kids constantly running up and down the stairs, what sounds like a ball being smashed against the wall & just general noise. My stomach is a knot of anxiety waiting for the next loud noise. The constant door slamming is horrendous too.

How can anyone ever get used to this? I have background music on but I used to be able to sit in my old house with no music or TV on and enjoy the quiet. Can’t do this now.

I know millions of people live in terraces so do they all get used to hearing other people and their noise?

Right now I’m not sure how much I can take after listening to the door slamming for the umpteenth time & rattling my whole house.

I live in a mid terrace like most people in London and yes, sound insulation is an issue so you are really reliant on people being considerate. I have a brilliant neighbour in one side and an ok neighbour on the other. I think like everything in life it’s a matter of degree. I can put up with some noise but there is a limit.

[quote OrangeCrunch]@GrimDamnFanjo, that's.......disturbing [/quote]
It is indeed!
As I can hear so clearly I am monitoring the situation...

Don’t approach them about the noise. It’s highly unlikely that they will change their behaviour, especially where children are involved. You will just escalate the situation. It’s really unfortunate but you you need to learn to accept it or move. Otherwise be prepared for years of stress and anxiety.

I have a similar problem. I have found that if you play "white noise" through a speaker it can help. I think it works by tricking your mind to hear the white noise and then you don't hear the neighbours. I found "white noise" on YouTube. You can buy white noise machines too but I haven't tried that.

juliefs Thankyou for the white noise suggestion, I will certainly try that, I’ve seen one on Amazon reasonably priced.

The door slamming has been really bad today, it’s actually causing me some anxiety. I’ll be trying to work and then all of a sudden BANG and my house shakes. Do you think they’re just oblivious to the noise? How can they not hear it?

I live mid terrace, moved from a detached. I was worried about noise. I have lucked out - one side is a middle aged couple with no kids, I occasionally hear the husband speaking as our bathrooms adjoin. The other side is a young couple with a toddler. I never hear them in the morning and only occasionally hear them in the evening (toddler crying, a bit of tv noise). The houses seem pretty solid and I am also conscious of the noise we make.

I had the same, but in a flat. Upstairs people shaking the ceiling with impact noises, thundering up and down the stairs, got aggressive about a note (that wasn’t even about their noise, and was friendly) white noise did nothing, living on edge, nerves were wrecked. Sold the shithole and am so thankful every day to be rid of it.

I feel your pain. I’m in a semi with parrot, yapping dogs, screaming grandkids and slamming doors

I did get soundproofing with stud walls, egg box sponge thing and soundproof boards which does help a lot but doesn’t stop everything. It doesn’t stop noise going up and down floors

It also doesn’t help the issue when the only windows they open are the 2 next to my house not the 6 not next to my house

White noise really is the answer