How to tactfully leave a family WhatsApp group

[frustrateddotcodotuk]

DH has a family WhatsApp group with parents and siblings. I am the only 'non-blood' in there and was added during covid to help communicate. 6 people in total.

There are a lot of frustrating and sometimes hurtful things that his family do. There has been lots of frustrating anti-vax sprouted by a sister for example, and currently the whole lot of them are pissed with us for not socialising with them while one is covid positive, and there has been a lot of WhatsApp drama about it. DH always agrees with me, but is very much 'keep the peace', and as it his family I want to respect it. (Although it drives me crazy as I am very straight talking).

WRT to the whatsapp group I can see 3 options

1. (my preferred option) I tell them I am leaving because I don't want to be in the group anymore (could add more detail about why?) -- DH says no as will cause upset and drama

2. (what I am currently doing) put group on silent and ignore. -- DH not happy as very obvious I am silent as only 6 of us

3. (my least favourite option) continue to pander and pretend it doesn't make me want to scratch my eyes out 'Awww cute pic of you cuddling your sis while you are covid positive and she's pregnant and unvaccinated!! CUTE!!!!!!'

We don't see them that often despite living nearby. But I am part of this WhatsApp group that just causes constant frustrating and upset.

Is their a fourth option?

I just left the group. Nobody has asked why I left.

Are they conspiracy theory types? Could you tell them that you have heard “from someone in the know” that “the government” is spying on WhatsApp messages?

I mute my in-laws group, look occasionally and comment if relevant. They are nice people but I'm not interested in looking at 15 photos a day.
My DH cant say anything as he left all my family WhatsApp groups 😂
I don't mind and don't care if anyone else does so it's all fine.
Either keep it on mute or leave without explanation. If your main contact is over WhatsApp you won't have to listen to them give out!

I'd carry on with option 2 for a while... then have a glass of wine one night and just delete yourself without saying anything

I find these people who continue to live life as normal when knowingly covid positive complete selfish A holes!!!! If you have any other illness you'd keep your distance surely!?....

@frustrateddotcodotuk haha I would think yes until I read that one of us is pregnant 🤣 so wrong chat! But you'd have more fun in ours, we only take the piss out of each other 😄

Fuck that, just leave.

If it's important at all, DH can pass on the message.
Claim your having a SM cull.
Life is too short for this shit.

Is DH the only married son? Ie are they assuming that women need to do the communicating? In which case, fuck em

Hmmmm
I think muting it and sending the odd " Oh lovely" and "🤣🤣🤣" is fairly painless and would mean a lot to your husband

Will catch up on important stuff from dh but leave you all to family chat in the meanwhile. Lots of love OP. Leave and tell dh you have no interest in what is being said about you leaving.. if anything is.

They will just return to life as usual... u are free.