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Accidently bought my son more things

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Xmasballsup21 · 23/12/2021 21:21

I try my best to treat my children the same. But ds who's 14 seem to have more fun stuff then dd whos 11. Ds is very vocal with telling me what he wants so it was Easy to do . Whilst dd finds it harder to know what she wants.

Ds has laptop. Skate board new music keyboard with stand and chair. Then he has few pairs of jeans. A few novelty type things for his room. Few other bits which I can't remember.

Dd Has a laptop. Then make upset. Art case. Hair dryer mirror hooded blanket. I have bought her alot of clothes not name brands but it come to alot. But I just feel guilty because her brother has more fun stuff then she does .

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WisestIsShe · 23/12/2021 21:24

Think of it this way, your children are individuals and you've bought them each what they will enjoy. DD might have a different idea of "fun stuff" than you and DS have. Definitely no reason to feel guilty .

SantasGotABigOne · 23/12/2021 21:25

Everything you've bought her, she obviously finds fun.

Lockdownbear · 23/12/2021 21:25

Give her some money for later.
Or keep something back of his.

Alternatively you've still got time to get her something fun too.

WakeUpLockie · 23/12/2021 21:29

Sounds pretty equal. They’re different people with different interests. Doubt they’ll be counting their presents!

HacerSonarSusPasos · 23/12/2021 21:30

Good lord, that's a lot of presents!

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Xmasballsup21 · 23/12/2021 21:31

@Lockdownbear

Give her some money for later. Or keep something back of his.

Alternatively you've still got time to get her something fun too.

I wish I did have time. Still would not know what to get her .

With holding something back of his . I was thinking I could possibly give him the keyboard stuff without her knowing. He already has a keyboard just it will only run of battery that's why I got him a new one. But its possible she would just think he's on his old keyboard.

With money she still have 60.00 from last Xmas and her birthday from the summer she just never knows what to buy

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Xmasballsup21 · 23/12/2021 21:33

@HacerSonarSusPasos

Good lord, that's a lot of presents!
I thought it was kind of average. Its only me who buys. No other family members buy for them.
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ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 23/12/2021 21:43

Are you really wealthy?Shock

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Xmasballsup21 · 23/12/2021 21:48

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

Are you really wealthy?Shock
No Shock
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CatNamedEaster · 23/12/2021 21:50

I wouldn't ask him to pretend the keyboard is the old one. All it takes is one argument between them and he could throw that back at her.

What about keeping the chair and stand back? Surely the old one has a chair and stand already? Could the new ones go back to the shop, or be given in a few weeks so they are seen as bits of essential furniture rather than part of a gift?

Or some of the jeans? Does there have to be more than one pair being given?

Mittenmob · 23/12/2021 21:52
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Tinsellittis · 23/12/2021 21:52

@HacerSonarSusPasos

Good lord, that's a lot of presents!
Oh do behave Hmm
AllKnowingGerbil · 23/12/2021 21:52

I wouldn't worry about it, sounds like she is getting some great stuff.

Sounds similar to my level of present giving, but hey, everyone is different.

Lockdownbear · 23/12/2021 21:55

Keep the keyboard for birthday.

elQuintoConyo · 23/12/2021 21:55

Fuck me! Shock

Anyway.... Does your dd want 'fun' stuff? What is fun stuff for her? Would she compare gifts to her brother? I can't say I noticed any of my sister's gifts.

Lovely snuggly blanket?
New furnishing for her room?
Cool boots?

Thatsplentyjack · 23/12/2021 21:56

OP your kids are individually and you've obviously bought them what they will both like. You grab a few daft things from the shops tomorrow if you have time?

Lacedwithgrace · 23/12/2021 21:58

I'm sure they won't notice. Could you keep some of his clothes back and give them to him seperately? It sounds like they both have plenty to play with

leccybill · 23/12/2021 21:59

We've bought my DD 11 the games Exploding Kittens and 'Beat That' for fun stuff.
Pictionary Air is a good one too.
She's getting a laptop, trainers, a few outfits, mirror, make-up and tickets to I'm a Celeb Jungle Challenge.

Comedycook · 23/12/2021 22:01

Sounds absolutely loads for both!

seven201 · 23/12/2021 22:01

Woweee that's a lot of expensive presents! Perhaps save some of his for a birthday if you think it's not even.

junebirthdaygirl · 23/12/2021 22:13

Can you keep back the jeans except one new pair then just give them to him in next few weeks as necessary new clothes rather than presents.
And yes it is a lot of presents so doubt there will be any complaints

Whoknowsweknows · 23/12/2021 22:16

Good grief. I really wouldn’t worry about being fair.
That’s more than enough.
They should both feel extremely, extremely lucky.

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Xmasballsup21 · 23/12/2021 22:19

@junebirthdaygirl

Can you keep back the jeans except one new pair then just give them to him in next few weeks as necessary new clothes rather than presents. And yes it is a lot of presents so doubt there will be any complaints
Hes in need of clothes. It's not clothes I'm worried about. It's the fun type stuff. But then now I think about it a bit more she would not even like the fun stuff he has. And even if I said what fun thing would you like she could not tell me . Maybe I'm just over thinking.
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EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 23/12/2021 22:23

I wouldn't worry about it. I definitely wouldn't he keeping stuff back from your son now just because your dd hasn't asked for any fun stuff.

My 10 year old hasn't asked for any fun stuff except Minecraft for the ps4. Mainly hoodies but he wants what he wants so

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Xmasballsup21 · 23/12/2021 23:07

@EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall

I wouldn't worry about it. I definitely wouldn't he keeping stuff back from your son now just because your dd hasn't asked for any fun stuff.

My 10 year old hasn't asked for any fun stuff except Minecraft for the ps4. Mainly hoodies but he wants what he wants so

Your probably right. I was really on top of things. Knew where I was at ect . Then I was ill with covid for a couple of weeks which really knocked me . And made me feel like I was running out of time. So logically it's probably OK and have just over worried.
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