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DP's wrapped presents have been under the tree...

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Boxbox2 · 21/12/2021 11:14

...since yesterday evening, and he hasn't noticed them yet Xmas Smile
Anyone interested in a game of whose OH is oblivious for the longest?

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Aroundtheworldin80moves · 21/12/2021 11:17

My DH is usually oblivious to such things. Unless I hide presents in places he doesn't normally go. Then he stumbles across them. (Like the back of the airing cupboard, top of kitchen cabinets, the attic etc).

I can however leave them unwrapped in the middle if a room and he won't notice them.

Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 21/12/2021 11:20

I dyed my hair one Saturday in October.. Just left it to dry and didn't look at it tbh. Dh was home all day...
Washed and dried it Sunday and it was green.
Dh said he hadn't noticed...

InTheNightWeWillWish · 21/12/2021 11:24

I’ve bought DH a little pack of fudge. I’ve left it unwrapped in the key/poo bag/face mask box with the label facing up. The box is on my desk which is currently acting as a storage for Christmas presents. It’s been there for a few days, he’s gone over to my desk to wrap presents, he’s taken his keys/face mask and poo bags out of the box and he’s still oblivious.

TheChosenTwo · 21/12/2021 11:27

They could be under there for a month and my dh wouldn’t notice, he never looks! I wrap everything that goes under the tree (he wraps like he doesn’t possess fingers) but he’s never once noticed because he doesn’t go looking.

FeralMeryl · 21/12/2021 11:31

My wedding ring felt a bit tight so I stopped wearing it. Dh didn't notice for months (maybe even over a year).
He also hasn't noticed (or hasn't commented) that I've lost around 2 1/2 stone this year, but that's gradual.

steppemum · 21/12/2021 11:32

glad that my dh isn't the only oblivious one.

I have lost 2 stone this year. Everyone I knwo has noticed, but not dh.
Before anyone says anything he still fancies me etc he just hasn't noticed I'm 2 stone lighter!

Hemingwayscatz · 21/12/2021 11:33

We have a Stalin candle from the communist museum in Prague and we have a bit of a joke between us about moving Stalin around the house to see how long it takes the other one to find Stalin. I placed him next to a very religious Christmas card DH received from a colleague on the shelf near the back door, he hasn’t spotted it yet.

Hemingwayscatz · 21/12/2021 11:35

Just want to add that we are not fans of the dictator hence why I placed him beside Mary.

VolcanicProtectorMan · 21/12/2021 11:49

My husband let me walk round Tesco with a giant soup drip down my chin. He got a telling off!!

Mumdiva99 · 21/12/2021 11:52

I changed a photo on the wall to a new one with 3 kids in their Christmas jumpers instead of a baby photo. We only have 3 things up in the lounge....he never noticed at all....I had to point it out!

FixTheBone · 21/12/2021 11:59

As a bloke, I can tell you that he probably has noticed.

He just doesn't see the point in rising to all the weird games and non verbal communication stuff that women in general seem to enjoy.

My wife and I have these conversations all the time, she'll do something (like putting the presents under the tree early), then comment that I've not said anything, despite saying anything being largely irrelevant till christmas day.....

What's he supposed to say - 'there's some presents under the tree' ? It's obvious who put them there, it's superfluous to say or do anything about it at all.....

Alarmset · 21/12/2021 12:01

Late DH would have noticed, but he wouldn't have cared enough to mention it. Does your DP normally get very excited about Christmas presents?

steppemum · 21/12/2021 12:06

FixTheBone

you sound charming.

He just doesn't see the point in rising to all the weird games and non verbal communication stuff that women in general seem to enjoy.

most of the examples on here are not weird games or non verbal communication. They are just changes which the man hasn't noticed. How is that playing games?
The presents are under the tree. What is weird or game like about that?

You sound pretty dismissive of women in general to be honest

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 21/12/2021 12:11

It does sound a bit of a non-story. What's he supposed to say? 'Oh look, the presents are under the tree. I wonder who put them there and who they are for?'???

monotonousmum · 21/12/2021 12:12

I put presents under the tree yday too. He's not noticed, but I didn't expect him to.

I once put a blind up (previously nothing on the window). Bemused that he hadn't noticed 3 days later I stood him in the room and asked if anything looked different. Still nothing. Told him I'd put a blind up. He said: hasn't it always been there

diddl · 21/12/2021 12:16

"He said: hasn't it always been there"

GrinGrinGrinGrinGrinGrin

Fabulous!

Comefromaway · 21/12/2021 12:17

Why have you put them under the tree this early?

I'd be annoyed if dh did that as I'd be able to see the size/shape of my presents before Christmas day

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Boxbox2 · 21/12/2021 12:17

Maybe I should have prefaced it with the fact the tree is his favourite thing about Christmas; he got very excited putting it up. Not excited enough to notice or commemt upon. the two big parcels now under it though Wink

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Comefromaway · 21/12/2021 12:19

Maybe he thinks they are dummy boxes for decoration.

WildStallyn · 21/12/2021 12:22

I dont know if DH has noticed his. He probably wouldn't say anything.

I know exactly when mine went under!

Amazingly, the DC (8 and 6) haven't noticed theirs, which went under a week ago. Only a few smaller bits so far but I'd have thought the footballs would be pretty obvious!

gingertomfromnextdoor · 21/12/2021 12:30

I cut 10cm off my hair this morning. DP and DS still not noticed

FixTheBone · 21/12/2021 13:05

@steppemum

FixTheBone

you sound charming.

He just doesn't see the point in rising to all the weird games and non verbal communication stuff that women in general seem to enjoy.

most of the examples on here are not weird games or non verbal communication. They are just changes which the man hasn't noticed. How is that playing games?
The presents are under the tree. What is weird or game like about that?

You sound pretty dismissive of women in general to be honest

I've re-read my post, and it does sound a bit dismissive, but I didn't mean it to....

I've been married for almost 15 years, and still have the same conversations with MrsFixTheBone....

'I've been dropping hints for weeks'

'Well, why not just say'

Those kind of non verbal communication things, I think most men I know just don't 'get' it just bypasses them completely. Same way I'm expected to notice a new sweater or marginal difference to a haircut when I'm not that bothered about what I wear or how my hair looks myself......

steppemum · 21/12/2021 16:06

FixTheBone

credit to you for coming back and admitting it wasn't a great comment.

I do agree that dropping hints to someone who doesn't take them is a waste of time. After 15 years, Mrs Fix should probably have worked that out.
My dh doesn't get hints, I have learnt to just say it straight.

HelloDulling · 21/12/2021 16:09

How do you know he hasn’t noticed?

LusciousLondoner · 21/12/2021 16:11

My DH didn't notice that we had a new dishwasher for two weeks, despite him usually being the one to use it! When he did notice he asked me when did it arrive and wouldn't believe it was two weeks ago