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Anyone else feeling sad and despairing today?

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Stumpedasatree · 13/12/2021 13:59

DC's primary school Christmas production has been cancelled due to Covid today. They'll be absolutely gutted as they worked so hard for it and had a lead role. I was so looking forward to seeing it as this is the last one in Y6.

That, and general gloom and doom are making me tearful. There seems to be no end to the current Covid misery.

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Iputthetrampintrampoline · 13/12/2021 14:36

There is no respite from it all is there? You turn on the TV why bother,you cannot pick up a newspaper or even scroll through facebook,it is relentless.Thank goodness for mumsnet, I wish you all peace,me included going forward,Lets hope tomorrow is a better day xx

Thegreencup · 13/12/2021 14:38

I must be the only one who isn't bothered TBH.

The kids school didn't organise anything cos of Covid. So there is nothing to cancel. I'm expecting the school to close on Friday rather than next Wednesday. But DH and I can manage that between us and I've been expecting it all term TBH.

Maybe that's why I'm not bothered? I didn't plan or organise too much anyway? I have a funeral this week. We wanna go to see Spiderman at the weekend but I've not booked it yet. We will be seeing family on boxing day regardless of what restrictions might come in. So nothing too major.

Purplepancakes · 13/12/2021 14:39

Yup

Covid positive yesterday, feeling rough

Single mum and life is hard this time of year anyway

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Stumpedasatree · 13/12/2021 14:40

@Englishgirl9 yes the school are planning on sending a video of the performance, but it is just not the same for them or for us as being there and watching.

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SloeFox · 13/12/2021 14:40

Me too. I am feeling really low.

I have a DS who has immune issues and I am worried about covid. i said to another mother on the school run (in response to her asking me if I thought the school will close) that in some ways I hoped it would as i was worried. Her response was quite belligerant and (paraphrasing) amounted to I should keep my non normal, child at home if he is vulnerable and let other kids have a normal life and go forth in sunshine.

TBH i have seen slightly nicer variations of that online (including on MN) and it just almost finished me off. My child struggles in so many ways (ASD, ADHD, congitive issues due to medical negligience at birth, tourettes). I'd love for him to have a normal childhood. Like her child who is school captain and sporty as all fuck.

i GET her response was because of stress and everyone is under pressure, but already through covid I feel like my kid is collateral damage in so many ways.

1concernedmummy · 13/12/2021 14:40

Very down and depressed. Supposed to be WFH, but have spent lots of time doing jobs around the house in anticipation of nursery closing/ having to isolate toddler and then ourselves when she catches Covid. My skiving will be obvious but I am so down I just don't care. I feel like I never really caught up from that first lockdown without childcare. We have no family support and I am disabled, so without nursery life is unrelenting.

pcofmushu · 13/12/2021 14:45

Absolutely. Things feel really gloomy at the moment and seem to be getting worse. I want light at the end of the tunnel, I'm sick of not knowing when we can look forward to things like holidays again.
Hugs, OP 💕

EmmyLake · 13/12/2021 14:45

Yep, DD's Christmas play is no longer allowing parents to watch, and I was really excited to see her. At least it's being videoed so it's better than nothing. School trip to the panto has also been cancelled and she's really upset about that, she keeps saying she thought this year at school would be different (she's only 7 so has not yet known a 'normal' school year). So yeah I'm feeling a bit fed up that once again I have a disappointed girl to console. So depressing when the kids start to look forward to things again and then they get cancelled last minute.

Elodeastar · 13/12/2021 14:46

I'm sorry that has happened, though I am also quite surprised that the school invested such a lot of time and energy into something given the current situation (even a few months back nothing was certain). If your child is Y6 and likes performing then hopefully there WILL be other opportunities to look forward to, little consolation just now but maybe some hope too.

MrsBerthaRochester · 13/12/2021 14:51

Sorry you feel this way op. I would not be happy with the school,kids need to be kids and not living in fear of an illness that doesnt affect them.
I feel far cheerier this xmas than last as Im simply not taking any further notice of covid.
I refuse to bow to the lies, scaremongering and save the nhs crap for one minute longer. Im having xmas the way I want.
I have just booked 3 xmas lunches out with friends this week(as predicting hospitality to be closed here in Scotland asap) so I will enjoy it while I can.
Its only kids and I again for xmas but if pubs are still open at nye I will be in them.
One life and its time to live it.

lololololollll · 13/12/2021 14:51

Stay drunk like me, I'm finding it all fine 🤪

Nidan2Sandan · 13/12/2021 14:52

I had my booster, and feel absolutely shit 2 days later and wishing I didnt get it.

It feels like the fun police are out to cancel anything worth looking forward to, or enjoying.

This is a never ending circle, everytime we turn a corner we get pushed back behind it.

Vaccines were our way out, until they weren't. Boosters are now the "way out" until they wont be.

What's the point??

ilovesooty · 13/12/2021 14:56

@SloeFox, that's awful. I'm sorry you had to hear that.

DillDanding · 13/12/2021 14:58

I feel sorry for those affected by events being cancelled. I’m also concerned that boosters are seemingly hard to come by. I’ve had mine last week but my dh and teen/early 20s kids haven’t yet.

Other than that, it’s business as usual.

Snuggledupforwinter · 13/12/2021 15:05

I'm definitely feeling like impending doom re xmas - there's probably only going to be 6 of us round the table this year. We have 2 family members who are on end of life/palliative care and 1 is unlikely to still be around by Xmas. So damn hard when you can see it coming but can't do anything about it. It feels like such a big adjustment to lose anyone this time of year.
The tree is up but I cant be arsed to finish buying or wrapping the Xmas presents as my heart just isnt in it Sad i need to kick myself up the bum, focus on what we do have and boost my vitamin D levels!

Bortles · 13/12/2021 15:08

Yep. 15 days on from a positive covid test. Feel like humanity is awful, everything wet and grey. Not at all Christmassy as too mild.

Taswama · 13/12/2021 15:12

I'm trying to count my blessings that my DC are no longer at primary so nothing to be cancelled.

But I was considering starting a thread titled - "any tips on how to cope better with wfh this time?" . I feel such a failure for finding it really hard when everyone else (at my work) seems to love it.

WineGetsMeThroughIt · 13/12/2021 15:17

Yes, I'm quite disappointed and down about the whole covid passports and potential removal of my body my choice.

My work was willing to pay for a £1000 training course, but when I called to enquire about it and asked what the policy was with covid and class cancelations the receptionist told me they're requiring all students to be triple jabbed from the new year.

I just want to cry. I have extreme anxiety over the covid vaccine and it's potential side effects (not all vaccines!!) and have not had one, and currently no plans to have one, let alone 3 - and potentially 4 by the time the course rolls around in the spring. I'm gutted.

Also please no snide remarks about not getting the vaccine or being 'anti-vax'. I can't take it today 😒

vixeyann · 13/12/2021 15:22

Yes hard week last with work, school and now a grandparent being moved to palliative care. Winter doesn't help with this merry go round we are all on and even stopping looking at the news doesn't help when everything else becomes impacted. Wish I had an answer.

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 13/12/2021 15:29

I think we thought last year, that we could cope with it, because we needed to pull together and there was hope for 2021. Well, there was hope until fairly recently and now it’s just relentless.

The weather is gloomy, I can’t bear to watch any news, the smallest of plans are in disarray. This isn’t living; it’s existing and it doesn’t feel as though there’s the end in sight we thought there would be when the vaccine first rolled out.

kwiksavenofrillsusername · 13/12/2021 15:35

It’s really hit me lately too. Weirdly, when it was beginning of covid and full lockdown, no schools etc, I coped pretty well with it. But it’s the back and forth I find really tough and the uncertainty around it all. I just want to be able to make plans and have things to look forward to. Every time something nice comes along it feels like it gets snatched away.

I know I don’t have it nearly as badly as other people but it’s hard. I can’t even get into the festive mood right now!

SloeFox · 13/12/2021 15:36

[quote ilovesooty]@SloeFox, that's awful. I'm sorry you had to hear that.[/quote]
Thanks. I am not taking it personally ( well maybe just a bit). Everyone is under stress and none of this is sequins and cream cake for anyone. But it is tying in with a general feelings of anxiety about DS, not just about covid but because he is in a mainstream school and the gap between him and his peers is just widening.

EllieSattler · 13/12/2021 15:40

I'm feeling that way.
I was ill last week (not covid) and have so much work and home admin to catch up on, but instead I'm home schooling my oldest as their entire year (primary, KS1) is closed. She is out of sorts and needy from the change, I'm miles behind on everything and still tired from illness.

CheshireChat · 13/12/2021 15:41

The weather here is definitely not helping, it's just so drab and horrible and everyone had nightmares last night so we're tired and grumpy to top it off.

And the bloody landlord is dragging his feet about fixing stuff as well Hmm.

Thegreencup · 13/12/2021 15:41

@WineGetsMeThroughIt

Yes, I'm quite disappointed and down about the whole covid passports and potential removal of my body my choice.

My work was willing to pay for a £1000 training course, but when I called to enquire about it and asked what the policy was with covid and class cancelations the receptionist told me they're requiring all students to be triple jabbed from the new year.

I just want to cry. I have extreme anxiety over the covid vaccine and it's potential side effects (not all vaccines!!) and have not had one, and currently no plans to have one, let alone 3 - and potentially 4 by the time the course rolls around in the spring. I'm gutted.

Also please no snide remarks about not getting the vaccine or being 'anti-vax'. I can't take it today 😒

This is really shit.

I really object to the Covid passports. I've gone along with and can see the point in so many measures, but not them.

I know someone who can't have the vaccine because of possible allergies (they are allergic to eggs and lots of other vaccines). Surely it is discrimination to prevent them from going out through no fault of their own.