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Birthday party invitation

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Catmum33 · 10/12/2021 20:09

Hi guys, my 6 ys old got a bday party invitation today and I'm not sure whether I'm being unreasonable.
So the party will be in 2 days' time. I am supposed to drop off my 6 years old in a busstop, where the birthday child's grandma is going to take the 6 years olds by public bus to a big town 40 minutes away, they go to McDonalds and then bowling.
I don't know her, maybe I have seen her at school, I wouldn't recognise her. I feel very uncomfortable about it. I don't know how she would manage a bunch of 6 years olds, who she's never seen before. I don't think I would like to leave my 6 years old child with a person I don't know, to take him to a place which I don't know , he would be 40 minutes away from me...
Would you let your child go, or would you not? Many thanks.

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Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 10/12/2021 20:11

No my 6 yo would not be going on a bus with some random granny!! And I am def not a precious dm!!

NatriumChloride · 10/12/2021 20:12

Can’t you just offer to take your kid directly to the venue?

Orangedaisy · 10/12/2021 20:12

I’d just go with them 🤷‍♀️

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Pinkchocolate · 10/12/2021 20:13

No chance but I would offer to meet them at the venues.

Aquamarine1029 · 10/12/2021 20:15

I would either be tagging along, taking my child to the party location myself, or my child wouldn't be going. There's no way I would send my 6 year old off with a stranger.

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Catmum33 · 10/12/2021 20:17

Thanks, so I'm not being unreasonable..☺️

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 10/12/2021 20:19

That’s bizarre- no id take my child to the venue myself

ForbiddentoForbid · 10/12/2021 20:21

I would say you'll already be in town and will meet them there and pick up your child from bowling.

Aquamarine1029 · 10/12/2021 20:22

I'm astounded the parents hosting the party think this plan is in any way reasonable. Their judgment is suspect.

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Catmum33 · 10/12/2021 20:23

Unfortunately, we already have another commitment with my other child at the same time, so I wouldn't be able to take my little one to the party. 🥺

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tootiredtospeak · 10/12/2021 20:27

I would say no I will meet her in the town hang around whilst she takes them bowling and for food. So do some shopping elsewhere then take your child home.

Thethreecs · 10/12/2021 20:30

Why is granny doing it all? Where are the parents? How many kids are going? A load of excited 6 year olds is mad. Unless granny is a young, energetic granny with help at the other end, it would be a no from me.

I use to come up against situations like this over the years and it always seemed to be swimming 🙄 I'd end up going along and doing most of the help myself.

purplemunkey · 10/12/2021 20:34

Nope. I wouldn’t be doing that. And you only got 2 days notice? I’d say that’s an easy get out, just say you already have plans.

Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 10/12/2021 20:34

Has Covid gone now?
Confused

purplemunkey · 10/12/2021 20:36

@Santahatesbraisedcabbage

Has Covid gone now? Confused
Oh give over.
Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 10/12/2021 20:39

No wonder it's still rife...

Aquamarine1029 · 10/12/2021 20:40

@Catmum33

Unfortunately, we already have another commitment with my other child at the same time, so I wouldn't be able to take my little one to the party. 🥺
That's what happens when invitations are sent out only 2 days in advance. Who does that? I'd miss the party and not think another thing of it.
KristinAmandaThomas · 10/12/2021 20:42

@Aquamarine1029

I'm astounded the parents hosting the party think this plan is in any way reasonable. Their judgment is suspect.
I wouldn’t think this at all. I’d think the family of the birthday child are trying really hard to accommodate/make it easy for the guests. The OP doesn’t say the birthday child isn’t in the care of the granny full time I.e there may be no parents involved in his care. And the granny of a young child could easily be in her 40s and be plenty capable of doing this.
OnlyFoolsnMothers · 10/12/2021 20:43

@Santahatesbraisedcabbage

No wonder it's still rife...
Yes that’s the worry this week…6 years olds having a party Hmm
Kitkat151 · 10/12/2021 20:44

@Catmum33

Unfortunately, we already have another commitment with my other child at the same time, so I wouldn't be able to take my little one to the party. 🥺
Just decline then...send the mum a message of apologies....no dramas
Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 10/12/2021 20:46

A bunch of unvaccinated dc on a bus.
Smashing idea...
Over 58.000 cases today if you care...

FabriqueBelgique · 10/12/2021 20:48

That would be a swift thanks but no thanks from me!

GreenClock · 10/12/2021 20:52

I think I’d decline this and I’d not be the only one. It is an odd arrangement.

I’d probably send a small gift into school with DD for the child on Monday though - I expect the party will be a damp squib and I’d feel sorry for her.

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Catmum33 · 10/12/2021 20:55

@GreenClock

I think I’d decline this and I’d not be the only one. It is an odd arrangement.

I’d probably send a small gift into school with DD for the child on Monday though - I expect the party will be a damp squib and I’d feel sorry for her.

That's actually a very good idea, thank you. I will probably invite them over for a playdate during the holiday as well.
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gamerchick · 10/12/2021 20:56

Nope wouldn't be happening.

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