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Who should sleep on the camp bed?

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hyta · 10/12/2021 16:44

Booked to go away with my grown up son (24) on a city break. DH didn’t want to come. So booked s twin room at a nice hotel. My treat.

Now a week before, DH decides he wants to come. So emails hotel to get an extra bed put in the room as by this point the hotel rooms are £400 a night to book.

We turn up and it’s a crappy camp bed and uncomfortable.

Who should sleep in it? DH because he joined last? or DS as he’s the ‘child’?

DH will end up paying for DS’ dinner I assume.

OP posts:
NeedsCharging · 10/12/2021 18:41

Would you crawl into bed or share a room with your dad though if you were a 24 yr old female though ?

I have shared a room with my dad many times as an adult. We shared a tent too due to our hobby. Never needed to share a bed but if needed I would have. Dad passed away this year so we were never faced with it.
The OP isn't sharing a bed with her son she is sharing a room.

liveforsummer · 10/12/2021 18:44

I'd share a room with my dad no problem yes, not a bed however neither of these scenarios are relevant to the OP

StormyTeacups · 10/12/2021 18:45

They're not sharing a bed, just a room.

In our family (and yes, my husband and his brothers have all travelled and stayed in rooms with their mother) the dh would offer, and the son would insist. All content.

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Classicblunder · 10/12/2021 19:12

@flapjackfairy

Would you crawl into bed or share a room with your dad though if you were a 24 yr old female though ? I agree mother and son is ok but somehow the other way around seems weird. Rightly or wrongly. In fact I have just been away with both my daughters and all shared a room but I wouldn't do it with my adult son.
I have shared a room with my dad loads of times
Storminamu · 10/12/2021 19:27

DH. Basic respect to the older person. Especially if he's contributing financially and DS isn't.

yomommasmomma · 10/12/2021 19:32

@Storminamu

DH. Basic respect to the older person. Especially if he's contributing financially and DS isn't.
Exactly this. If DH is DS father than no way should he make his dad sleep on a camp bed.
RodneyIsDave · 10/12/2021 19:35

Why dd you book a twin room for you and adults DS? Imagine his snoring!

liveforsummer · 10/12/2021 19:36

@RodneyIsDave

Why dd you book a twin room for you and adults DS? Imagine his snoring!
How would you know of OP's Ds snores or if her dh doesn't therefore even if he did she's used to it? Another odd comment
5zeds · 10/12/2021 19:41

Ds would sleep on the camp bed as he wouldn’t sleep in a comfortable bed while his dad slept in a camp bed.

Clymene · 10/12/2021 19:59

Nope, not understanding the respect thing.

Storminamu · 10/12/2021 20:05

I had a friend and her 15 year old to stay. On picking them up from the station, the 15 year old announced that he'd be sitting in the passenger seat and started to do so. I informed him that adults sit in the passenger seat. He spent the whole stay demanding to sit there. He was very disrespectful to his mum in other ways too, and it ruined the holiday. Adults first.

TabithaTiger · 10/12/2021 20:07

I'm going to a gig with 22 year old DS in June and we're sharing a hotel room, I didn't even consider some people would find that odd! We're going to be in the room for one night, why would we pay double? He's my son!

MyComputerGetsSadWithoutMe · 10/12/2021 20:21

I don't think it's odd, if they were cuddled up in bed together maybe 😅

JustLyra · 10/12/2021 22:00

@flapjackfairy

Would you crawl into bed or share a room with your dad though if you were a 24 yr old female though ? I agree mother and son is ok but somehow the other way around seems weird. Rightly or wrongly. In fact I have just been away with both my daughters and all shared a room but I wouldn't do it with my adult son.
Why equate “crawling into bed” with sharing a room. The two are totally different things.

I wouldn’t share a bed with my MIL, my SIL or a random friend of a friend on a hen do, but I have shared a room with all of them.

It’s so bizarre that people have such a weird train of through about parents and adult children.

Ds1 (22) have shared a room several times on trips away. MIL and DH are sharing this weekend while they’re away for a funeral.
Not everyone a) is made of money or b) sees a space to sleep as somewhere that can’t be shared with a relative

Skiptheheartsandflowers · 10/12/2021 22:14

@Storminamu

I had a friend and her 15 year old to stay. On picking them up from the station, the 15 year old announced that he'd be sitting in the passenger seat and started to do so. I informed him that adults sit in the passenger seat. He spent the whole stay demanding to sit there. He was very disrespectful to his mum in other ways too, and it ruined the holiday. Adults first.
The son is an adult though

Agree about teen in car though. Just rude and your car, your rules

flapjackfairy · 10/12/2021 22:32

@JustLyra
I was responding to people saying they still get into bed with their mum for a cuddle not specifically to the op situation. Sorry that wasnt clear.
I was trying to make the point that I would share with my daughters but not adult son or with my mother but not my father( either room or bed ).
I dont know why I feel differently about it and I am not saying it is wrong just musing aloud about whether the scenarios were different based on sexes of people involved.

Stompythedinosaur · 10/12/2021 23:02

I think it depends a bit on your dh's age and health and also on who is paying.

I don't think your dh is entitled to a proper bed, but if he will struggle with the camp bed then it would be kind of the younger adult to offer to switch.

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