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Who should sleep on the camp bed?

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hyta · 10/12/2021 16:44

Booked to go away with my grown up son (24) on a city break. DH didn’t want to come. So booked s twin room at a nice hotel. My treat.

Now a week before, DH decides he wants to come. So emails hotel to get an extra bed put in the room as by this point the hotel rooms are £400 a night to book.

We turn up and it’s a crappy camp bed and uncomfortable.

Who should sleep in it? DH because he joined last? or DS as he’s the ‘child’?

DH will end up paying for DS’ dinner I assume.

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JustLyra · 10/12/2021 17:52

Your DH.

Although I know my DS would insist on having it.

I find it ridiculously sad that people think a parent and adult child sharing a room is odd or weird. What a fucked up mindset to have. It’s a hotel room with twin beds ffs, hardly a sharing a sex swing and dungeon.

Ellen888 · 10/12/2021 18:00

I call BS on this thread.

  1. Here we have a mother and son staying in the same room. I can't imagine any 24 y.o wanting to go away with his mother and stay in the same room unless it was a train-spotting trip. (Or they have some weird family dynamic going on Shock )
  1. Hotels don't put extra beds into rooms at the drop of a hat, not even camp beds. If it's a designated twin room then it stays that way - the exception being adding a cot. Hotels have a set maximum occupancy and if they exceed that they fail the fire regulations.
  1. Somehow amongst all this debacle the OP has been able to log-on to MN and post messages.

I just can't take it seriously

liveforsummer · 10/12/2021 18:05

@Ellen888

I call BS on this thread.
  1. Here we have a mother and son staying in the same room. I can't imagine any 24 y.o wanting to go away with his mother and stay in the same room unless it was a train-spotting trip. (Or they have some weird family dynamic going on Shock )
  1. Hotels don't put extra beds into rooms at the drop of a hat, not even camp beds. If it's a designated twin room then it stays that way - the exception being adding a cot. Hotels have a set maximum occupancy and if they exceed that they fail the fire regulations.
  1. Somehow amongst all this debacle the OP has been able to log-on to MN and post messages.

I just can't take it seriously

1 - This is a totally normal thing to do in a happy and close family

2 - many hotels will happily add and extra bed and charge therefore make a bit of extra money for next to nothing. I do it a lot as a single parent with 2 dc when most rooms are for 2 or 4

3- I'm logged in on the app and it's taken me approx 29 seconds to post this

Classicblunder · 10/12/2021 18:10

I hate how snide Mumsnet can be about sons who are close to their mums - no way would anyone have any issue with a 24 year old daughter going away with her mum and sharing a room.

liveforsummer · 10/12/2021 18:11

@Classicblunder

I hate how snide Mumsnet can be about sons who are close to their mums - no way would anyone have any issue with a 24 year old daughter going away with her mum and sharing a room.
I don't know anyone personally who would have an issue with a male child either. Some really odd opinions on here
NeedsCharging · 10/12/2021 18:13

So don't take it seriously Ellen hide the thread like a normal person would.

Lou98 · 10/12/2021 18:16

Personally I'm about the same age as your son and I would offer to sleep in the camp bed.

Even though it should technically be your husband, I would find it strange sharing a room with my dad while my mum slept in a camp bed somewhere. I'm also younger and slept in worse places than a camp bed in the floor, I wouldn't expect my parents in their 40's to feel okay the next day after sleeping in a crappy camp bed.

If your son isn't happy about that though then yes it should really be your husband

NeedsCharging · 10/12/2021 18:16

Hotels don't put extra beds into rooms at the drop of a hat, not even camp beds

Ex hotel receptionist here. We had a designated storage room for z beds on each floor. We did this all of the time for families, stag/hen dos and elderly coach trips. We also charged more than was morally right!

Flyinggeese1234 · 10/12/2021 18:16

It’s clearly a wind up!

liveforsummer · 10/12/2021 18:18

Wind up? It's a totally normal situation. This thread is bizarre

HolidayTime2021 · 10/12/2021 18:20

@Flyinggeese1234

It’s clearly a wind up!
Are you the father of Ellen88 ?
Ellen888 · 10/12/2021 18:20

@Flyinggeese1234

It’s clearly a wind up!
Yup - exactly !
Sally872 · 10/12/2021 18:23

DS. I would never allow my mum or dad to sleep in a camp bed while I slept in an actual bed. Ds should volunteer and dh be grateful rather than dh expecting it though.

Loveinacoldishclimate · 10/12/2021 18:24

Everyday is a school day on here! There are actually people who find it odd to share a room with their mum as adults? I’d happily share a bed and I’d give mine a cuddle too. So there 😝

Clymene · 10/12/2021 18:25

@Sally872

DS. I would never allow my mum or dad to sleep in a camp bed while I slept in an actual bed. Ds should volunteer and dh be grateful rather than dh expecting it though.
Why? Confused

It's not going to kill him and might make him be a bit more organised in future.

Ellen888 · 10/12/2021 18:27

@NeedsCharging

Hotels don't put extra beds into rooms at the drop of a hat, not even camp beds

Ex hotel receptionist here. We had a designated storage room for z beds on each floor. We did this all of the time for families, stag/hen dos and elderly coach trips. We also charged more than was morally right!

Whaaat? You had elderly folks coming for stag/hen nights and sleeping on z beds and then you ripped them off? Some pretty racy grannies about it seems Shock I must have had a sheltered life.

I wonder what the Fire Inspector thought of all this?

NeedsCharging · 10/12/2021 18:28

I went out last week in my home town so stayed at my mums.
Drunk 44 yo me came in at 1am and despite 2 guest rooms I crawled in to my mums bed just as I used to when I was 18 and drunkenly told her about my night. It was lovely and my mum laughed stroked my hair and got me a big glass of water.

purplecorkheart · 10/12/2021 18:29

Dh should offer as he was the one who joined in late. However I would expect ds to offer. I could not imagine letting my parents sleep on a camp bed while I slept in a proper bed in the same room tbh.

I would go down to reception though in an hour or so. If they have free rooms they are unlikely to sell them at that stage so they may be happy to take a reasonable amount of money rather than leaving it empty and getting nothing for it

Sally872 · 10/12/2021 18:30

@clymene just a respect thing. Although when my young cousin stood up to give me a seat (she was about 14 and I was about 25) I felt about 100!!

liveforsummer · 10/12/2021 18:32

Last time we had a family get together we all stayed in quite a posh hotel. My sister who is a single parent couldn't afford separate rooms and her student DS's couldn't afford any rooms. They shared a family room happily dsis 47, ds1 23 ds218. Absolutely normal situation as was me sharing with my 2 DD's in a double room with a camp bed

flapjackfairy · 10/12/2021 18:37

Would you crawl into bed or share a room with your dad though if you were a 24 yr old female though ?
I agree mother and son is ok but somehow the other way around seems weird. Rightly or wrongly.
In fact I have just been away with both my daughters and all shared a room but I wouldn't do it with my adult son.