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Handhold - on postnatal ward and struggling

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ActonBell · 08/12/2021 18:56

Baby is one day old. I had a long labour and emergency C-section in the end. Baby has had a few issues with infection markers and breathing. He’s with me but we’re being kept in at least 3 days for treatment and observation.

I’m at a great hospital- the staff are really helpful and not too overwhelmed. I’m in a 4 bed bay and two people left today but I guess it may fill up again later.

So, the experience could be a lot worse. But my husband can only visit for a couple of hours a day because of covid. I miss my son at home. I’m struggling with breastfeeding, I’m in a lot of pain from the op and hormones are kicking in making me teary. It’s hot and I’m struggling to get any sleep night or day. I’m so sad that my little one has a cannula in and had to have an X-ray today.

How do I get through the next few days on my own? I have snacks, water, and a few programmes downloaded on my phone. I have a reasonably comfortable bed and I can ask the staff for help, so like I say it could be worse. I just feel incredibly overwhelmed at the minute especially at night.

I feel like I could just about cope if I was focusing just on my recovery or on baby but trying to do both by myself seems just impossible.

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ActonBell · 09/12/2021 19:12

Oh @ILookHorrible - that sounds awful. Luckily the staff are really nice here and are happy to hold/watch him if I need the loo as it takes me a while to stagger out of bed and back again.
I walked to X-ray with him yesterday which I think actually did me good and then they got a porter to bring me back in a chair.
Had a shower today so that’s something and I have no dressings/cannulas any more - just bruises. His cannula can come out tomorrow if the results are good. He has literally fed all day - I had forgotten how intense it is.
I’m teary again but I think that’s just the way it is at the moment.

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Flamingolingo · 09/12/2021 19:27

It’s really really awful when birth doesn’t go smoothly. You’re tired, in pain, and having to care for a new little life. I’ve been there (nasty forceps delivery and baby in neonatal after a 47 hour Labour). I was climbing the walls by the time they let me out, and it took quite a long time mentally and physically to recover. Be kind to yourself Flowers

RomComPhooey · 09/12/2021 20:13

Glad to hear you had a better night and that your baby has perked up. Well done on better pain relief too.

I offer up Edwin (Ed for short) for an established but slightly less frequently given name. I wanted it for DS2 but DH would only agree to Edward, so we moved on.

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ActonBell · 11/12/2021 12:32

The night after I posted was awful as I tried to do it without any formula top ups and we hadn’t figured out feeding fully yet.
But… we’re home now. Exhausted but home. He’s doing very minimal top ups and the feeding is slowly improving, fingers crossed.
My first is being extremely sweet with him.

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BringMeTea · 11/12/2021 12:51

Glad you are both home now. Be kind to yourself. Flowers
Dominic or Francis?

TulipsGarden · 11/12/2021 12:57

That sounds incredibly hard OP. I had an ELCS pre-Covid with a healthy baby and that was bad enough, I hated the post-natal ward, especially at night.

What pain relief do you have? If you're just on paracetamol and ibuprofen and you're in a lot of pain, ask for more. I had Oramorph and it was fantastic. Do not miss a dose (of whatever you take) - the pain when you do is crippling.

Ask for formula if you want to. It won't ruin breastfeeding, it's not bad for your baby, and it will give you and your nipples a rest.

TulipsGarden · 11/12/2021 12:57

Should have read the whole thread! Oops. So glad you're home and doing ok.

ElinorOliphant · 13/12/2021 00:07

Names…

James
Barnaby
Joseph
Peter
William (Bill/Billy)

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