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9 month old waking every 30-45 mins

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 20:01

Looking for some insight or advice ... my 9 month old has just recently starting waking every 30-45 minutes during the night, she sits up gets upset and then sometimes stands up in her crib. Prior to this she was great, often sleeping 11 hours with no intervention from me or my partner. This has come from no where, why is this happening ?

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DownWhichOfLate · 01/12/2021 20:34

Teething? Recently learnt to stand? Does she settle back down quickly?

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 22:03

Don’t think it’s teething, she has been standing for about 3 weeks. Sometimes it’s a case of giving her a dummy or something but sometimes like just now, she needs help calming down and it can be some time before she goes back to sleep. She is absolutely shattered, you can see she is upset to be awake if that makes sense ?

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Santaischeckinglists · 01/12/2021 22:04

Sleeping bag? Less able to stand up!! Is she cold?

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 22:08

She’s in a sleeping bag, doesn’t seem to stop her. Not cold, just checked, she’s a nice temp

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 22:08

This is about her 4th time waking since putting her to sleep, she’s currently standing In bed crying

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WTF475878237NC · 01/12/2021 22:10

Separation anxiety kicks in around 9 months. Any changes to her daytime life?

Santaischeckinglists · 01/12/2021 22:13

Does she initially go down awake?

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 22:15

Her day time naps are a mess, we used to have them pretty regular, but then she dropped her 3rd nap, and now her wake times have been different every morning for a week and then getting the naps in has got progressively worse. Some times she just won’t go to sleep, even if she looks so tired. I’m completely out of the loop with where she is right now and I just can’t catch up :(

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 22:17

Yeah awake ish, drowsy but never asleep. She’s been consistently great going to sleep for ages and staying asleep

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northernlola · 01/12/2021 22:18

Oh god. I feel your pain. I don't have any advice as such but given she has been such a good sleeper before, and could go 11 hours without needing you, it will just be a phase and she will get back to sleeping well! If you don't think there's an environmental cause like being too cold, it's probably just developmental like others have said. Hope you get some sleep soon!

Santaischeckinglists · 01/12/2021 22:21

When you go in to her don't talk. Maybe a shh ssh. Place her lying down and leave the room. Leave her a minute and go in if necessary.. Same routine. Leave 2 mins. Same routine and 3 mins. Listen to her cries. Are they the same as at the start? Never lift her out. Hug and place back down but not right out /away from the cot.
One of my dc had never been alone or in the dark (hospital most of his 10 months).. Had him sleeping through on the third night.

ballyboy · 01/12/2021 22:38

I'd also look at day time naps. At her ages I'd say 1 hour around 9ish and 2 hrs around 1pm and look at having her asleep by 6:30/6:45 then pushing to 7pm once sleep has improved

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 22:50

I actually don’t know how to get her back to sleep, tried the going in resetting her, shush leave etc, cry’s are getting worse, nothing wrong with her though. If this is developmental i just don’t know how I’m ever actually going to be able to get her to sleep because she is fighting it so much

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Shimmylikejoanholloway · 01/12/2021 22:53

It was naps for us. Hysterical overtiredness which resulted in exactly this.
Is she in her own room?

Shimmylikejoanholloway · 01/12/2021 22:55

Also, is she definitely not hungry? We had an instance of this too and had to up food before bed. It was around the time he started standing, a couple of weeks after, so he was getting more mobile. I tried a bottle in the night and it worked and then tried more food before bed the next night and we were good again. Ignore if you’re breastfeeding as I’m sure you’ve tried that to comfort back to sleep! It’s rough OP you have my utter sympathy

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 22:58

@Shimmylikejoanholloway I don’t think she is hungry but we are trying a bottle now, see if that gets her to fall asleep. I’ll try upping her food intake in the day/evening an

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 22:59

@Shimmylikejoanholloway and yeah the naps are just awful right now so she is 100% over tired but I just don’t know how to break the cycle because I just can’t get her to sleep in the day and if I do, it’s only ever for her morning nap

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Skysblue · 01/12/2021 23:00

My child did this. Every 45 minutes for the first yr or so. Can’t remember when he stopped because obvs so tired. He started sleeping through just before he turned three. I have no advice.

We gave up on the cot and did cosleeping so at least when he woke he would sit up, realise I was there, and lie down again.

For us, the sleep training books were all useless.

Skips123 · 01/12/2021 23:00

It could be developmental if she's sitting/standing in which case there's not much you can do apart from wait it out or you could co sleep.

To get in a good routine with the naps you need to wake her at around the same time everyday. We wake my LO up by 7am everyday, he's 8.5 months. He then has a 1 hour nap at 9:45am and then a 1.5 hour nap at 2:30pm.

He has been waking atm at 12:30am, 3:30am and 5:30am 😖 but this is because he wants his dummy back and his blanket which he uses as a comforter and I take away when he is asleep as I'm too scared to leave it in his cot. That's bad enough so I don't know how you're coping with every 30-45minutes. I'm already so run down I feel ill and this waking for us has been going on for only a few weeks. Although he's never been a great sleeper.

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 23:02

Bottle didn’t work, still crying and standing up

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Skips123 · 01/12/2021 23:04

@Newmum2127 can you not rock or cuddle her to sleep and then lay her down?

My LO used to self settle but when he started rolling over it went out the window as I couldn't lay him down without him practicing his new skills

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 23:11

@Skysblue OMG you poor thing, that must have been a tough few years !!

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 23:11

@Skips123 unfortunately not, as soon as we put her back down she starts crying again

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Shimmylikejoanholloway · 01/12/2021 23:12

@Newmum2127 can you try taking her out of her crib and laying her on you? Even if she’s crying, hold her in the dark room til she calms down and rock her/ssh whatever it is you do. I sometimes had to do this for an hour and a half on these nights trying not to nod off myself but was worth it for a bit of sleep after!
I agree about naps - I used a little ones schedule app which is on my other phone which really helped us, you have to pay but I’ll see if I can find the schedule and dm you as it really helped us sort out his mess of naps

Shimmylikejoanholloway · 01/12/2021 23:13

she doesn’t have any signs of dairy allergy or any reflux issues does she? Sometimes they just do this and it’s so frustrating and such a shock to the system when they have been good sleepers previously