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9 month old waking every 30-45 mins

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 20:01

Looking for some insight or advice ... my 9 month old has just recently starting waking every 30-45 minutes during the night, she sits up gets upset and then sometimes stands up in her crib. Prior to this she was great, often sleeping 11 hours with no intervention from me or my partner. This has come from no where, why is this happening ?

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StillMedusa · 01/12/2021 23:13

Can you co sleep?
One of mine was like that..slept beautifully til she was one, then became a nightmare. In the end the only way to get any sleep was to have her next to me.
We did that til she was 2.5 (and broken!) and then sleep trained her in 3 nights flat. I'd go into her when she cried, would pat and sooth and leave..repeat. It was hideous the first night, 3 hours the second night and on the third she kept it up for 20 mins then slept through..and that was that! It felt brutal but was essential to my sanity by then!
(I co slept with my 7 month old grandson last night for the same reason... dear god I'm knackered today!)

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Newmum2127 · 01/12/2021 23:13

@Skips123 sorry didn’t see your first message. I think if I can get her to sleep past 5 in the morning at some point I’ll do as you say and wake her at the same time every day because she wakes up all different times so there is no consistency to a nap schedule

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Shimmylikejoanholloway · 01/12/2021 23:15

Did you say whether she’s in her own room by the way? DH just reminded me we also had a stage of this before we moved him and when we moved him into his own room he settled down - I think we were disturbing him! Just trying to think of anything that might help ignore if not helpful x

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Newmum2127 · 02/12/2021 04:57

@Shimmylikejoanholloway yeah she’s been in her own room since 5 months for that exact reason, we were always disturbing her and waking her up x

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Newmum2127 · 02/12/2021 04:58

@StillMedusa I would but she just doesn’t do well with it, she sees it as something fun and doesn’t settle down, plus she likes to move around a lot in her sleep and I’m not sure how I would have her safely in bed with me

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Newmum2127 · 02/12/2021 04:59

No nothing at present x

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DinosApple · 02/12/2021 06:52

I remember kneeling next to my eldest's cot and repeatedly laying her down once she could stand. She would cry a tired cry though, not ramp it up. Then I'd lay on the floor next to the cot with my hand on her and she'd eventually go off. If she woke further in the night she'd come into our bed. She napped in her cot, in the buggy or in the car. Could a walk or car trip at nap time work for you?

DD2 I let her fall asleep in my/DH's arms downstairs in front of the TV from newborn to 3! Make of that what you will.

Double check the room temperature too. It's got chilly here all of a sudden, mine needed sleeping bags with arms and fleecy sleep suits in winter.

FoxIvy · 02/12/2021 07:01

@Skips123

It could be developmental if she's sitting/standing in which case there's not much you can do apart from wait it out or you could co sleep.

To get in a good routine with the naps you need to wake her at around the same time everyday. We wake my LO up by 7am everyday, he's 8.5 months. He then has a 1 hour nap at 9:45am and then a 1.5 hour nap at 2:30pm.

He has been waking atm at 12:30am, 3:30am and 5:30am 😖 but this is because he wants his dummy back and his blanket which he uses as a comforter and I take away when he is asleep as I'm too scared to leave it in his cot. That's bad enough so I don't know how you're coping with every 30-45minutes. I'm already so run down I feel ill and this waking for us has been going on for only a few weeks. Although he's never been a great sleeper.

Sorry to hijack but I have an 11 month old (second baby) and am so curious about this. Do you go out and about and do things? How often is this exact schedule followed? My baby would fall asleep in the car / pram at the 'wrong' time depending on what we're doing. But then she's terrible for waking at night, as was my first, so maybe I should be placing more store in carefully timed naps.

Skips123 · 02/12/2021 15:28

@FoxIvy we go out everyday. I try and work around naps as much as possible but obviously it doesn't always go to plan but 9 times out of 10 it's fine.

All the baby groups we go to are at midday, so 11am, 12:30pm etc.

The baby group at 12:30pm it is difficult as by 1:15pm he is getting a little tired but not tired enough for a good nap so I just have to just try and keep him awake in the car. I'll make noises etc which make him laugh and keep him awake for when we get back.

How old is your LO?

It gets easier as they get older. At 8 months they should be old enough to go 3 hours or so between naps so plenty of time to get out in the middle of the day or after their 2nd nap before bedtime too.

eliz20 · 25/01/2022 05:26

@Newmum2127 sorry I know this post was a few weeks ago but just interested to know did things improve for you at all? My 9month old is going through something similar at the minute. She used to be such a good sleeper but since Christmas she has been wakening every 30mins-1hour all night long. The lack of sleep is driving me crazy! My partner even wants to contact a paediatrician as he thinks maybe there is something wrong with her 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Newmum2127 · 25/01/2022 08:28

Hi, it actually did get better, in our case it ended up being that she wasn’t well, nothing major just a bad cold, she got back on track after a few days. I hope things get better for you ASAP !!

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eliz20 · 25/01/2022 09:26

Thanks! So did yours just last a few days in total? Ours is at least 4 weeks so far. She is definitely teething at the minute, plus she’s trying her best to crawl but just this past week we have all had covid (I didn’t test her but she more than likely has it). But the lack of sleep is extreme and has been going on for so long now. Especially cause she used to sleep 13-14 hours every night without wakening. Glad it got better for you 😊

Outfoxedbyrabbits · 25/01/2022 11:34

@eliz20 There is a major sleep regression at 8-10 months. If your baby slept well previously they will probably do so again. The Beyond Sleep Training Project on Facebook is good for advice on biologically normal sleep.

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Newmum2127 · 25/01/2022 12:56

Yeah so if I remember rightly it lasted 1 week max but she did it again 2 weeks ago, kept waking constantly I was going in patting the bed etc and then a couple days later the snotty nose came, glassy eyes, she was just full of cold but I hadn’t realised. I think if your Lo is trying to master crawling that will 100% be playing on her mind and I’ve found anytime they try to master a new skill their sleep is always disrupted ! I think it’s positive that your lo used to sleep so well, so they have that skill established and fingers crossed it won’t last much longer. As mentioned by some one else they do go through a sleep regression around this time but I think that is closely linked with developmental advanced.

Also, sickness is rife right now, my little girl keeps picking things up from nursery, it’s a nightmare.

I so feel for you !! X

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Newmum2127 · 25/01/2022 12:58

Also teething is a nightmare. So you have 3 things that are probably disturbing them, illness, teething, development and possibly you just haven’t gotten a break from either one so the sleep disruption is continuous if that makes sense ?

Although that doesn’t make it any better or any easier

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eliz20 · 25/01/2022 16:25

Yes that’s so true! She is going through an awful lot at the minute so I just need to ride it out I think. I rang me health visitor this morning out of desperation lol she told me to try and cut out giving her a bottle at night time because she more than likely just uses it as comfort now so I think I’ll try that starting tonight 🤞🏻 Thanks for your reply 😊

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Newmum2127 · 26/01/2022 19:35

Good luck with taking away the bottle. Hope things get better soon

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QuiltedHippo · 26/01/2022 19:46

@eliz20

Shes teething, had covid and is figuring out a new skills and the advice is to take her food or comfort away from her. That seems so harsh, think I would ignore that advice!

eliz20 · 26/01/2022 21:33

Yeah that didn’t last very long, I did try it last night but she literally would not settle at all so as soon as I gave her the bottle she went to sleep. She still woke up a few times but I couldn’t just let my baby cry. I’m just going to have to take each day as it comes now ❤️

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Newmum2127 · 27/01/2022 07:33

How many bottles does she have of a night ? Whilst she is in this tricky phase I’d just keep using the bottle, don’t put that pressure on yourself whilst you’ve got everything else going on. Once she is feeling better and things level out that’s the time to do it

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eliz20 · 27/01/2022 08:00

She just drinks the one bottle but over the course of the night so it’s usually 9oz. Last night she woke at 11.30, 12.45, 1.50, 2.10, twice at 4am, 4.30am and then slept till 7.20am. Every time she wakes crying I lift her and give her a little bottle and put her back in the cot and she goes back over for another while. To be honest im just hoping she’ll grow out of it herself cause im not willing to let her cry without a bottle and I don’t know what other way I’d go about it

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