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Annoyed and embarrassed at the end of a friendship.

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Aliveandkicking23 · 21/11/2021 19:07

Last night eight of us went to see a singer at a local club. Ages range from 35-50.
We all took our children aged between 14-16. (4 children)
One of these couples turned up and we could tell they had already been drinking.
They then got their DS 16 a pint of lager then kicked off because we were telling them he can't drink alcohol. It ended up with him being sick all over the table, seats and floor. By this time we know he had drank 3 pints in this place what he had before. Never mind how much the parents had drunk.
The other children were happy to drink soft drinks.
She then stood up to start shouting about her son being allowed to drink and knocked a full table of drinks over belonging to another party.
Her partner just walked away vaping as he was angry that he had to pay for more drinks for this other party.
Thank goodness they left after this incident.
Today the other 3 couples got a very nasty email to say that WE had embarrassed them.
We were treating them like babies not supporting the son in drinking.
This isn't the first time they have turned up drunk.
We have decided that this is the end. We have been friends for nearly 20 years so we are not kids.
I'm all for having a good time but it was ridiculous.

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girlmom21 · 21/11/2021 19:16

It sounds like they haven't matured in the same way as the rest of you over the past 20 years.

Gettingthereslowly2020 · 21/11/2021 19:17

It sounds like they don't know how to behave themselves. They're hardly positive role models for their son or for any of the other couples' children. It's no big deal their son having a sneaky alcoholic drink but it's wrong of them to allow him to have more than one and drink to the point of him embarrassing everyone by being sick.

I certainly wouldn't go out with them again, if I saw them again at all then it would have to be somewhere without alcohol. They're immature idiots who can't control their own behaviour, never mind parent their own teenage son

A580Hojas · 21/11/2021 19:18

Yep. Time to say goodbye to them. I feel most sorry for the 16 year old son.

Aquamarine1029 · 21/11/2021 19:19

Good riddance to them. FGS, they behave like neanderthals.

MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry · 21/11/2021 19:19

They’re alcoholics. Shit for them and particularly their child but you don’t have to be around them when they’re drinking.

We have decided that this is the end.

Who is the ‘we’ here?

Yogaandcocoa · 21/11/2021 19:19

Fair enough

Iamthemaid · 21/11/2021 19:21

I don’t get why you were telling them their 16 year old shouldnt be drinking?

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Aliveandkicking23 · 21/11/2021 19:23

@MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry the other 3 couples.
We all received the email at the same time. But one of the other couples saw it first and phoned me and I phoned the 3rd couple.

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Aquamarine1029 · 21/11/2021 19:25

Honestly, are you really upset about this? These people are lowlifes. You should have binned them years ago.

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Aliveandkicking23 · 21/11/2021 19:27

@Iamthemaid because we all could have been asked to leave or the club could get into trouble for serving under age. Didn't you know that to have alcohol in a pub or club you need to be over 18.
This place didn't serve food so they couldn't get around the rules that way.
The other children know that they can drink at home with their parents.

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HaveANiceFuckingDay · 21/11/2021 19:27

@Iamthemaid

I don’t get why you were telling them their 16 year old shouldnt be drinking?

Because he was throwing up and as parents they should know better ?

MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry · 21/11/2021 19:29

[quote Aliveandkicking23]@MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry the other 3 couples.
We all received the email at the same time. But one of the other couples saw it first and phoned me and I phoned the 3rd couple.[/quote]
Weird that you decided as a group.

SolasAnla · 21/11/2021 19:29

@Iamthemaid

I don’t get why you were telling them their 16 year old shouldnt be drinking?

Is it legal to buy a minor with alcohol in a licenced premises, my understanding that it was a chargeable offence?

Iamthemaid · 21/11/2021 19:31

[quote Aliveandkicking23]@Iamthemaid because we all could have been asked to leave or the club could get into trouble for serving under age. Didn't you know that to have alcohol in a pub or club you need to be over 18.
This place didn't serve food so they couldn't get around the rules that way.
The other children know that they can drink at home with their parents.[/quote]
Hes not a child, hes 16, not your place to police his parents. As for your friend phoned you and you phoned the other friends about ending it, you sound like a right pearl clutcher. No I has no idea about being 18 and booze

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Aliveandkicking23 · 21/11/2021 19:32

@MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry because the rest of us are fed up of being with them when they are drunk.
If the other couples want to get back in touch that's up to them. But the tone of the calls this afternoon I don't think they will.

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Iflyaway · 21/11/2021 19:34

You need different friends.

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Aliveandkicking23 · 21/11/2021 19:36

I hope none of you go out for a nice night out and the next thing sick is everywhere, tables and glasses smashed.

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5zeds · 21/11/2021 19:38

It’s not getting round the rules to eat with alcohol, those ARE the rules.

I wouldn’t need to call other couples etc to just avoid them.

lynntheyresexpeople · 21/11/2021 19:39

@Aliveandkicking23

I hope none of you go out for a nice night out and the next thing sick is everywhere, tables and glasses smashed.

You need to calm down.

LuluBlakey1 · 21/11/2021 19:40

They sound awful. I wouldn't begrudge a 16 year old a shandy or half a lager but parents allowing him to get drunk, them getting drunk, vomit everywhere, shouting and accusations and tables of drinks being knocked over is horrible and I wouldn't want to spend my nights out with them.

5zeds · 21/11/2021 19:40

I hope none of you go out for a nice night out and the next thing sick is everywhere, tables and glasses smashed. well obviously

Fluffycloudland77 · 21/11/2021 19:42

Oh it’s the attitude of it’s ok if the parents allow it isn’t it? It’s how your 13yo ends up pg 🙄 & your 16yo stomach rejects the large amount of neurotoxin you’ve bought him all over the carpet.

I saw a boden clad middle class mum at Dartmouth castle give a little girl in nappies fruit flavour cider “if you start them young it’s not exciting to them” as her equally clueless friends nodded approvingly.

I grew up with parents who were licensees though so I’ve got different views if alcohol to a lot of mumsnetters, especially on the ‘is a bottle a night too much?” Threads.

Chunkymenrock · 21/11/2021 19:43

Sounds like a club full of scrotes.

cameocat · 21/11/2021 19:44

I probably wouldn't have got involved with the 16 year old drinking but YANBU to end the relationship for their judgement in his drinking (ie allowing too much), theirs and the consequences of what should have been a fun evening.

Kuachui · 21/11/2021 19:45

To be fair that would have embarrassed me, a bit of a scabby thing to do.

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