Single mum. I hate Sunday nights.

[Weewilliewinkie123]

Probably this sounds really pitying, but I hate Sunday nights around this time.

Kids are here and I’m doing dinner, but I feel so alone.

Most people I know are still married so I imagine the whole world sitting at home being a lovely family, or out being a lovely family, or just having a much better time than me. Sunday almost brings home to me what I could have had if Exh wasn’t actually a massive arse.

I’m mid (awful, expensive) divorce, so can’t afford to go out for dinner or anything similar and we are renting a tiny house, so I can’t have people over (couldn’t afford to feed them either and who goes visiting at 5pm on a Sunday?) so the day just feels so long.

I feel like I don’t want the weekend to pass as I don’t want to go to work tomorrow, but on the same token I want the weekend over so that I’m not dealing with my own loneliness.

Does anyone get what I’m saying?

@needtogetfit21 my youngest is 5 and I am mid forties so I don’t really have youth on my side, as not many single mums my age have younger children and ditto to dating, most men my age will not want to start again with my young children.

I’ve made peace with being alone, aspects of my life have been awful and I really don’t ever want some bloke telling me what to do and making me feel crap again.

I’d just like to be that person with loads of friends and places they could go, but somehow during my marriage my friendships eroded because going out was stressful and when I came home there had always been trouble and the house was trashed and it was just left to me as some kind of punishment for going out, so not going out became easier.

Then as times gone on I’ve got more and more caught up in the chaos that is my life and I’m not fun to be around, then Covid killed off more friendships until really there isn’t much left, and obviously my age and the ages of my children mean I don’t fall easily into the older single mums crowd because I still have younger children.

Each week I think it will improve, but then more shit comes from the Solicitor or I do the income v outgoings thing and realise I can’t do it all and then more lies come from my ex on the paperwork and I see that this month isn’t going to be the month it gets sorted out financially.

Most of it I can keep at the back of my mind, but then a day of nothing to do comes once a week and I realise I can’t run from my head and my worries, but likewise I can’t solve those worries, because my ex still controls me financially at this moment in time.

[quote Weewilliewinkie123]@needtogetfit21 my youngest is 5 and I am mid forties so I don’t really have youth on my side, as not many single mums my age have younger children and ditto to dating, most men my age will not want to start again with my young children.

I’ve made peace with being alone, aspects of my life have been awful and I really don’t ever want some bloke telling me what to do and making me feel crap again.

I’d just like to be that person with loads of friends and places they could go, but somehow during my marriage my friendships eroded because going out was stressful and when I came home there had always been trouble and the house was trashed and it was just left to me as some kind of punishment for going out, so not going out became easier.

Then as times gone on I’ve got more and more caught up in the chaos that is my life and I’m not fun to be around, then Covid killed off more friendships until really there isn’t much left, and obviously my age and the ages of my children mean I don’t fall easily into the older single mums crowd because I still have younger children.

Each week I think it will improve, but then more shit comes from the Solicitor or I do the income v outgoings thing and realise I can’t do it all and then more lies come from my ex on the paperwork and I see that this month isn’t going to be the month it gets sorted out financially.

Most of it I can keep at the back of my mind, but then a day of nothing to do comes once a week and I realise I can’t run from my head and my worries, but likewise I can’t solve those worries, because my ex still controls me financially at this moment in time.[/quote]
I'm sorry to read all this Op. Things WILL change though, it's just about getting through this difficult stage best you can.

Please try to get a hold of dr chatterjee's book feel better in 5. I think it could help you. I got it from the library x