Waiting for each other to do very basic things for/with each other? I've never had a serious relationship so I don't know... I find it really odd though. With my parents, my mum will stand there and tell my dad how thirsty she is until he gets her a glass of water, pretty much every time, I don't think she ever pours her own if he's in the house with her. On the other hand she'll insist he stands there like a lemon when he gets in from work while she pauses whatever she was doing and goes to fetch his book from upstairs for him. Every time, she insists on it. Then my SIL sits back while my brother carefully butters her bread for her, checking with her it's the right amount of butter he's using as he does it, and now they're married they seem incapable of going to the loo or having a shower separately. Not even a sexual thing (I hope!) but just their daily routine. I find this sort of behaviour really peculiar. I don't see why being in a committed relationship means you stop doing basic things for yourself that a 6 year old could do. Yes of course it's nice to do each other a favour, if one of you is tired or has their hands full, but to wait for your other half to fulfil their expected 'role' in your basic needs, even if it means it all takes longer? Is this sort of thing just normal and I'm a bitter old maid, or are my family oddballs?