Just feeling rubbish

[batmanladybird]

Not managing to hit deadlines at work
Tired all the time - often need a daytime nap
Not being the mum or wife Or co worker want to be
Already on 50mg sertraline a day
Just want to hide away

Keep coming on here and scrolling like that is going to help me

😳
Back here scrolling and discovered I am
Queen of Killing Threads

Hi @batmanladybird sorry you’re feeling like this. The good thing is that you obviously have high expectations if the kind of worker/wife/mother you want to be. That’s a good start.

Do you ever read self-help books?

I'm rubbish at giving advice, and not at all qualified to give it. But you sound like you're being very hard on yourself.

Is there anything nice you could do for yourself that might give you a little respite and replenish some energy supplies. 15min walk in your lunch break, calling an old friend, your best tea in your best tea pot and 15mins in peace to drink it. That sort of thing.

And try to be kind to yourself. Who couldn't stand to be a better wife/mother/coworker. But who can be perfect like that. We're just human. So long as you're good enough, with the important stuff covered like the kids feel loved, you're working as a team with husband, you're mostly meeting any reasonable expectations at work - failing on the smaller stuff is fine, and basically necessary given all the demands on our time.

Have you had any blood tests to check whether anything could be causing your tiredness such as low iron or a thyroid issue?

Sorry to hear you're feeling rubbish

Worth doing an ADHD questionnaire just to rule it out. I have complained of fatigue for years and finally found the answer.

Snap OP! I could have written that 6 weeks ago. I felt like that for months but very gradually coming out of it now.

How much are you sleeping?

@tellmetologoffIamaMNaddict

Worth doing an ADHD questionnaire just to rule it out. I have complained of fatigue for years and finally found the answer.

How did this make a difference? I have recently been drawn to this I am very "butterfly Brain" always drawn to the shiny new things

@specialsauce

Snap OP! I could have written that 6 weeks ago. I felt like that for months but very gradually coming out of it now.

This is encouraging

@Titsywoo

How much are you sleeping?

Often 90 minutes (when I mean to have 20) in day And midnight to 7.30 most nights

@belimoo

Have you had any blood tests to check whether anything could be causing your tiredness such as low iron or a thyroid issue?

Have been checked for perimenopause and the tests weren't overly conclusive Maybe I will go back to gp

@Jacaranda75

Hi *@batmanladybird* sorry you’re feeling like this. The good thing is that you obviously have high expectations if the kind of worker/wife/mother you want to be. That’s a good start.

Do you ever read self-help books?

God all the time I am queen of self help books. Kindle is full of them

awww... wanna swap problems?

I have rat(s) in my loft, an untreated 4 week-old ear infection, a pile of un-answered emails, a hole in my tooth.... There's always something, right?

i'm going to flea treat the kittens, put some kind of electronic killer in the loft, put some batteries on to charge - now , and try to call myself productive for the evening.

I'd speak to your GP and ask for a full blood test. Maybe you are not depressed and need alternative meds. How long have you been taking the ad's?
Could be low iron, thyroid, or B12 issues, or others. All of these are common in peri.
All easily sorted, but you need to make the first move.
Hope you feel better soon.

Thank you all for kind replies

@batmanladybird
sorry i got distracted haha. I am still waiting for diagnosis and hopefully medication. The main difference so far is the strategies I use and understanding my brain. My fatigue is often triggered by intense periods of concentration. I am also tired at certain times of day. I am learning to boost dopamine. I have started drinking coffee in the afternoon. I had stopped to solve my insomnia but caffeine doesn't affect adhd brains in the same way.Other ways to boost dopamine include connection with others and exercise. Also outsource and automate all executive functioning and boring tasks eg. finances. There are also ways to organise your house to make it more adhd friendly. It's a big learning curve. There are lots of books and podcasts and also support groups.

Ps some supplements are important like omega thingy (the fish oil capsules) and magnesiusm. Also, have you removed any stimulants you may have been using to self medicate like nicotine and caffeine? I discovered i had adhd when i tried to stop vaping.

You might need a higher dose. I take 100mg a day and I'm tiny- 5ft1

www.tracyotsuka.com/podcast

Have a listen to this

@Invasionofthegutsnatchers

You might need a higher dose. I take 100mg a day and I'm tiny- 5ft1

That's interesting. I am 5'8 and 3 stone overweight (final stone added courtesy of deep depression during winter lockdown )

@tellmetologoffIamaMNaddict

www.tracyotsuka.com/podcast

Have a listen to this

Thank you. I will. Be grateful for any other suggestions you have x

@tellmetologoffIamaMNaddict

Ps some supplements are important like omega thingy (the fish oil capsules) and magnesiusm. Also, have you removed any stimulants you may have been using to self medicate like nicotine and caffeine? I discovered i had adhd when i tried to stop vaping.

I have been decaf only for quite a while: about 18 m. Used to br a massive caffeine drinker; coffee and Diet Coke Quit the Diet Coke about 3 years ago. Drink fizzy water now instead. Prob need to quit that as I know it's bad for my teeth

This may be part of your answer. If you quit these stimulants it may be affecting your focus. Caffeine is the poor woman's ritalin.