Do you ever chat to your friends on the phone? As in actually TALK?

[BoozyHotChocolate]

Hi,

I was just thinking the other day, I never talk to my friends on the phone. Only ever message on WhatsApp, FB etc. We do our proper catching up in person, but I would never pick up the phone just for a 'natter'.

I think the only person I do this with is my mum.

I suspect this is just generational, as I know that if I randomly called any of my friends, they'd wonder what was wrong with me which when you think about it, is really quite strange 🤔

I'm mid 30's, just for reference.

What about you?..

[Branleuse]

Yes, some of them, particularly the ones not on social media or who dont live nearby, or if they or i have a lot to catch up on

[Workyticket]

Only with 1. She's a newish friend (met at work 3 years ago) and I was a bit the first time she rang for a chat.

It's a regular thing now when she's bored / home alone and I've got used to it!

[RobinPenguins]

Nope. Also mid 30s and I think the last time we actually phoned each other just to chat was when we were ringing our parents landlines to do it.

[Mojoj]

Totally generational. Am older. Love a wee gab on the phone. I feel sorry for the younger generation who are losing the ability to converse.

[MenopauseSucks]

I'm in my late 40s now & chatting on the phone with friends is great. We do set up dates to chat now but at least fortnightly.

We grew up waiting until after 6pm for cheaper calls so making up for lost time!

(We do WhatsApp video sometimes but you can't beat a good yarn!)

[ParkheadParadise]

Yes, I phone my friends regularly.
I also phone my sisters for a chat.

[Oneforthemoneytwo]

All the time. Mostly when I am in the car or walking the dog. Speak to my sister on the phone multiple times a day, my mum most days. Also speak to my close friends, some several times a week and some once a week or every couple of weeks. My DP usually calls me when he gets in the car from from work and on his way home from the gym incase I’m interested in how many lunges or squats he has done

[BloodyAlarms]

I have one friend who I speak to on the phone once or twice a week but they are usually less than 10 minute chats.

Another friend and I chat on and off all day via what's app voice notes.

Another friend I speak to every 2 weeks or so and it can last for hours!

I speak to my sister on the phone - she lives abroad, maybe once every 2 weeks but we message in-between too.

[Kite22]

my friends would wonder what was wrong if I did call and vice versa. We would automatically assume something must be wrong

My dnephew had to call me once, with the news that an Aunt of mine had died (cousin had phoned their landline and he'd answered the phone when his parents were on holiday), and, a month or two later, I had to call my own dd (away at university) with some similar bad news.

It made me realise that we only ever phoned each other to say something we wouldn't want to deliver by text or WhatsApp, so, since then, I do try and ring my dc every couple of weeks, so they don't think someone has died if they do get a phone call from me.


Friends though ? Not many. I do about once every 6 months with a friend of 45 years who I don't get to see very often, but mostly I prefer to meet in person (or at least video call) so you get to see faces and hear expression etc. and eat cake .

[Newbabynewhouse]

Nope! And i think it stems from working in a call centre..as soon as i got home i didnt want to see another phone..

[EishetChayil]

Never. I despise talking on the phone. I hope it becomes obsolete.

[Yogaandcocoa]

I'm same as you OP

I don't chat right my friends on the phone very often

There is one I do

Some of them use voice notes which is a nice alternative

[NotMyCat]

@Newbabynewhouse

Nope! And i think it stems from working in a call centre..as soon as i got home i didnt want to see another phone..

That ^^ after 200 calls a day then text works FINE

[Oneforthemoneytwo]

Some of them use voice notes which is a nice alternative

Absolutely hate voice notes. They’re a total pain to listen to. Far prefer a text to them

[Tripledogdare]

Nope, always WhatsApps etc. Will sometimes voice on discord if were gaming together, but apart from that never.

[TurquoiseDragon]

I have a friend who lives in another town, so we settle down for a cosy chat on the phone about once a week, as well as exchanging messages in between.

[underneaththeash]

I do, if I've gone to write a text and it's overly long (or complicated) I just call.

I can't stand those annoying what's ap voice messages though.

[Ragwort]

Yes, love catching up with friends on the phone, but it might be generational as I am early 60s ... my closest friend and I have probably had regular chats on the phone since we were at school, we've never lived
Close to each other since sixth form so the phone chats have been great.

[HerRoyalNotness]

I dislike talking on the phone as I can’t judge when it’s my turn to talk or get other social cues. One friend insists on calling so I answer her as I don’t have many friends here. Another does call and sometimes I’ll answer or not, as she NEVER replies to texts. I guess the more I do it the more comfortable it becomes but it’s not my preferred method of communication

[comedycentral]

Yes, my friend and I speak most mornings or after work during commute time! I'll also ring my husband or sister sometimes in the same journey 😆

[Juolo]

Never, we chat a lot but just on messaging apps like WhatsApp and similar. I hate phonecalls and it makes it easier being able to reply when free vs finding a time to call.

[Allmarbleslost]

Not if I can help it! I'm autistic and am crap on the phone. It's either endless awkward silence or constantly talking over the other person.

[ddl1]

Yes, I do. There are some friends with whom I just do e-mail, but definitely some with whom I chat regularly on the phone. Not quite as much now as during lockdown- it was a lifeline then- but we still do!