Anyone want a venting thread?

[PhoboPhobia]

I am so irritated and frustrated this morning - nothing on it's own is that bad but everything together is getting on top of me and I'm really just trying to work so could do without stewing.

1 - we have a puppy - he's lovely and I adore him 80% of the time but bloody hell he tires the patience
2 - MIL is in hospital, she's just been transferred to a stroke rehab unit - it's only a half hour drive technically but the traffic is so bad that it can end up being a 3 hour round trip including the hour visiting slot - if I hear SIL (300 miles away) say 'can't you or DH just pop and see her after work/in your lunch break' once more I cannot be responsible for my actions
3 - DS (17) and his phantom upset stomach which miraculosly only occurs on a Monday morning - he's not gone to college today and he's only been for 1 full week since half term
4 - DH and his back problems - he's had 2 surgeries in the past and now a new epsiode has flared up - I am so sad for him and he's in so much pain but it means he isn't taking on his share atm - I don't for one minute resent him for that and would never say anything to him - it's just more pressure
5 - My weight - I am so overweight and have been for so long - I don't feel like I can ever tackle it. I'm 51 and just see myself turning into my very unhappy, very immobile mother

Sorry - I'm wallowing but bloody hell, I could happily go and live in my caravan in the middle of a field right now.

I’m here for it. Diet is bringing on my IBS, I’ve only lost 1/2lb in the last week. DS and partner down for the weekend, she’s spent most of the time in their bedroom and went for her shower as we were plating up my mother’s birthday lunch at 1.00 PM, I can’t decide whether I’m relieved that she may be planning to return to her native country to get a job or heart broken for DS as they’ve lived together for 6 years. AND the bloody leaves keep falling, two bin loads this morning.

I will just add a non-specific but feeling you r pain AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHH if that’s ok. Too much to go into

@Tinabn that’s spectacularly rude of your DS partner

@Tomatalillo that pretty much sums my day up!

Hope things improve for you both

It’s good to have a vent from time to time. And you definitely have a lot on your plate!

My vent is that my washing machine is backing up into the sink and the landlord hasn’t replied to my message about it, I found the perfect place to rent but someone else got in there first, I’m steadily gaining back the bit of weight I lost this year, and my car is on its last legs - when it gives up, I’m not sure what I’ll do!

Why is it so hard to lose weight? And to all those who say it’s energy in Vs. energy out, pffft bore off and talk to someone else

Ahh that’s better.

Time for a coffee I think.

@TannyFickler (great name!). It’s the psychology of losing weight I wish I could crack. I suspect I know exactly what I need to do but it’s just not that easy is it?

Sorry for your troubles too.

@PhoboPhobia Why thankyou! I was surprised it hadn’t been taken already. Childish, I know.

It’s certainly not easy, and some days I question why I/womankind places so much importance on it, but the health aspect gets me worried. Although I’ve seen some interesting conversations about body acceptance and the flawed thinking around weight over on Instagram. Sorry, I just rambling now.
I do hope your puppy brings you some extra joy today x

Oh yes please. Could do with a good vent today.

1. Looks like I'm going to have to cancel a few days holiday from work this week (again!) Because we are busy. I really need a few days off to lounge around doing nothing, I'm knackered.
2. DC off school sick (again!) And I'm buried in work whilst trying to wfh, to try save the holiday days booked.
3. I've had to make 3 teabags last the day which is in no way easy.
4. DC isn't too sick to be giving me a constant running commentary on the various random/crap youtube videos they are watching. I know whats going on, I can bloody hear it

An it's only Monday! Got to keep thinking positive thoughts.....

My daughter has just been diagnosed with ASS and is highly anxious and depressed. Missing school ++
I am doing two jobs and my other daughter needs ferrying to sports practice 4-5 times a week. I dont have time to take care of the puppy my daughter with ASD begged for - but she is too unwell to take of him - so I am paying a small fortune in doggy daycare costs.
My mum texts me today to ask how my daughter is - and doesnt listen to my answer then tells me to do what I have already done - I am trying to work when she is texting so I ask her to read my message properly. She gets arsey - accuses me of the following - 'you have no time for me - but you have time for your friends. I had to manage lots of things in my life when I was your age.This is very natural for us all'
I am so pissed off with her. As a mother of three daughters - if I am ever that unsympathetic to one of my daughters then may I be struck down by lightening!!!!

The puppy has had me in tasers this afternoon. I mean, not him really, it’s not his fault but whoever convinced me having a dog while wfh would be good for me was a bloody liar!

Disclaimer, I take full responsibility for the decision to get the puppy.

Not in tasers! Tears.

@bembridge11 It’s so horrible that you’re being guilted and criticised when it’s the last thing you need!!! I can’t stand that martyr attitude, it’s got to be one of the most under-acknowledged toxic behaviours.

Feeling all of the weight loss frustrations.
I have got fat in the past two years. I am not in denial about this and I know it's unhealthy. Unfortunately I like eating and I don't like strenuous, organised exercise. Even doing stuff like squats at home bores the shit out of me and I hate doing it.
I seem to be surrounded by vegans and obsessive fitness bores who do Crossfit and triathlons, so I can't even talk about it to someone, apart from my mum, who is sympathetic but a lifelong fat bird and doesn't have any good advice.

Oh, and puppies are adorable, but they are pricks. They bite, they chew things and they wee everywhere.

Had to vent. The school my little boy goes to have changed the uniform. They sent this letter home about how they were conscious of the washing, cost, etc. Make it easier for parents. Pff. So yeah, now my kid looks like he's ready for a football training session. It's horrible. You can only buy it in one shop, and there's no cheaper alternative. Not only that, he is almost 7, tall for his age so I went with size 9 to 10 (they jump sizes so there's no 8 to 9). I thought it would be huge on him! Ha! Now, he has little boy feet, but trying to get these stupid slim fitting track pants over them was a joke. I pulled the poor guy off the couch trying to get them off again! What were they thinking!! I used to be able to buy two generic track suits, plus 4 polo shirts of the old uniform, plus two sew on crests for half the price of the new one. There's no way in he'll I'm forking out for a spare. He is an ASD class (they expect you to have double of everything)
I just know some GAA (I live in Ireland) obsessed knob on whatever committee decided this was a fantastic idea, and it's such bloody balls. I'm well hacked off. Grr.
No wonder they didn't send a picture of it out to run past the parents.

Grrrrrrrroawrrrrrrrrr!

Yes I’ll join you. Absolutely fed up to the bloody god damn back teeth of people getting pets and then realising that (although wonderful, for some of us) it’s actually very expensive and very time consuming and you basically have another child and a tie etc. Just because you visit your mate, whose dog/cat is amazeballs- it doesn’t mean your newly acquired pet will exhibit that behaviour and you may GULP have to get off your lazy arse and train it, walk it, play with it, groom it, it may and likely will piss and shit and vomit.

Please if your child begs you for a pet don’t do it unless YOU want it too. For good measure let said child hang around that pet for a bit, some children will be allergic. So really get your child to stroke the animal and then rub their eyes and face and if they start to sneeze/itch- don’t get the damn pet. Take some bedding if need be.

Vent over.

I have a summer top that is a crinkle-effect fabric.
When it's wet you roll/twist it up, leave it 'set' the crinkles, later on hang it up to finish drying.
My husband found it 'screwed up' in a washing basket and helpfully smoothed it out and hung it up, in this heat it dried instantly. And flat.
Why can't they tackle something useful???

Can’t take Dd anywhere at the moment. What should be a pleasant time out turns into us constantly attending to her. The jelly legs thing is pissing me off no end. She used to be really good to take out for lunch etc, not perfect but good for her age. I feel like I am constantly reprimanding her at the moment. It’s making me tired and angry all the time. For some reason her behaviour really deteriorates when both DH and I are with her. She’s better behaved one on one and it’s making family life pretty shit tbh.

My neighbour is a covert narcissist. He's caused us so much angst over the years. He is elderly and when he dies I will celebrate and I may need to pay a visit to his grave to spit on it.

I've been up all night worrying about what happens to my severely disabled child when I die. I blame the heat.

Dp pissed me right off.

we have only just set off for a rare family day out because he ‘had’ to do his hobby this morning.

its a 90 minute drive. What is the point. I would tell him to fuck off if it wasn’t for the kids being excited.

when brought to his attention he has fallen out with me!! How dare I.😡

Was having a restful day when my thoughts drifted to work and I got waves of anxiety 😪

I've been with this company over 15 years and this is the first time my job has caused anxiety in all that time.

Had this boss for over 5 years and ever since I was furlouged it's been going downhill. Feels like I'm being managed out. I am so stressed by it. HR said have a conversation with boss so I need to do that. But what if, as a result, I am made redundant? I'm almost 60 and the breadwinner with a mortgage. I'll never get a job with the same level of pay at my age 😪

Something very lovely that I’ve had for a long time was caught by a sudden gust of wind through the open doors, fell and smashed.
I know it’s not the end of the world but I am sad.😢

This reminds me of the time I bought a cashmere jumper
googled how to wash and dry it-bought the right products-all good
washed it by hand,laid it to dry and fucked off to work
his nibs came home,saw I’d left some washing in the machine (but hadn’t washed it as I wanted to put my uniform in when I got home)
bunged all the dirty but dry clothes and shoved them in the dryer-saw my beautiful jumper on the side-so shoved that in for good measure
turned the dryer onto the ‘hotter than satans ballsack’ setting and wandered off,dead pleased ‘he’d saved me a job’ (I do all our washing-he hoovers up and takes the bins out)
my lovely,lovely jumper!
I came come to a crisp packet sized ball of fluff

i cried over that one-he’s never touched the washing since…

Oh no! I could weep on your behalf!
I nurture my precious [lovingly sought out in Sales] cashmere like the treasure it is.

My mother in law is having a proper angry rant about how she can't stand lazy people who have cleaners and gardeners and don't do their own decorating ... trying not to take it personally 😳 we only have a cleaner to be fair but I was talking about getting quotes for clearing part of our garden of gravel. I gather that would be totally unacceptable. We have 18mo twins in case the whole of mumsnet now thinks im lazy too ...