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What to do about the dogs?

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JunoMcDuff · 14/11/2021 17:45

Please be gentle with me.

Earlier this year we temporarily took on 2 dogs for a friend. I've named changed as this outing.

Dogs belonged to friends mum&dad. Friend has had a very, very bad time of it the last few years - still birth, multiple late term miscarriages, loss of her brother in an RTA, sister emigrated, dad diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, mum died of a sudden brain haemorrhage and shortly after her dad was taken to hospital and died of his cancer. In between all this she had 2 living children as well, currently 8 months and 2.5. You couldn't make it up, so much shit happening to one lovely person.

When her mum died, her dad couldn't manage the dogs and my friend took them in until a new home could be found. After her dad died she had a breakdown and her husband couldn't manage her support, two kids, a FT job and 2 dogs. We agreed to temporarily look after the dogs. They've been with us 6months. Both my friend, her husband and myself have tried to find them alternative homes. They're very bonded (mum and pup) and need a home together which is making it harder. We've been turned down by breed specific rescues (1 agreed to try and find a home whilst we 'fostered' but nothing has come of it), dogs trust and local charities. Mainly because they're trying to force our hand to keep them. RSPCA have said we can surrender when they aren't full but as mum dog has a health condition (manageable with medication) she'll likely be euthanised unless they re-home her or find a no kill shelter within 2 weeks. Local vets have also been approached but nothing has come of it.

We need to re-home them/ move them from our house. DH doesn't want a dog. Has never wanted a dog. I like dogs and would probably keep them if he were on board but I work FT out of the home, DH WFH so most care really falls to him. We also have 2 kids, 2&4. Plus extra cleaning they create and the money. We can't afford doggy day care or a dog walker for the two (well maybe we could, but don't want to, it isn't a priority for us and we're far from rich do it would be at the expense of other things). Thankfully the insurers have been amazing and transferred the existing insurance to us otherwise we'd be paying in full for the medication, but I don't think they'd transfer it again.

Friend and husband have said they absolutely won't have them back, even if that means they're euthanised - they just can't cope (fair enough). They've asked friends, relatives and neighbors, as have we.

The rehoming shelters are all basically saying they are full with lockdown puppies and puppy farm breeding dogs and cannot take more dogs right now.

Does anyone have any suggestions? My next port of call is to sell them but I'm just so so wary of that as you hear the horror stories of bait dogs etc. But is selling them better than having them PTS?

Please help, any suggestions? Not a begging thread and PMs requesting details will be ignored.

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FazedNotPhased · 14/11/2021 19:33

There's a small rescue called Fall in Love with a Rescue - they're on FB. They mostly take sighthounds but I think they're worth a try. They take in a lot and might either keep them as one of their waifs and strays or have a home lined up - they will know people waiting for dogs who can live with cats and children.

JunoMcDuff · 14/11/2021 19:40

@Daisy4569

I have a beagle and am part of a couple of groups on FB made up of numerous members who often rehome or temporarily home beagles in need. With some checks I’d far rather mine was rehomed than pts. There are plenty of kind people out there, they aren’t all looking to hurt dogs just because they’re individuals and not a charity
I'm sure they aren't but it's difficult knowing which is which. An older dog with health issues (and will be no insurance) isn't an easy sell..it's difficult to check when some live a distance away as well.
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EvenRosesHaveThorns · 14/11/2021 19:41

Try golden oldies. I think you need to really be clear when you tell the rescues the dogs will be PTS by Christmas. I'm afraid I can't get my head round the 'pts is best' brigade here!

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Daisy4569 · 14/11/2021 19:45

Totally appreciate this and can see you want to do the best for them. I have found that beagle owners tend to be quite a close knit community. if you felt you could post in a couple of their groups you’d probably find the same couple of names come up to help and many who would offer to help would probably already have a beagle or two so you might feel more comfortable that they were going somewhere safe.

StormBaby · 14/11/2021 19:48

Greyhound Gap are another really good small rescue that may be able to help. They’ve had other breeds in the past.

Pumpkinsonparade · 14/11/2021 19:50

Op please if you do try and rehome yourself you at least Google the individual
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When I had our 'foster' ddog I tried... Emailed a man who seemed genuinely interested.. Sent the 'right' sort of questions. Some reason I Googled him. He had convictions of animal cruelty!! Won't repeat them here but oh hell of I hadn't checked him out. That was when I came here and was helped immensely.. I hope for a good outcome for the ddogs for you and them.

cherrypie66 · 14/11/2021 19:51

Contact the Wood Green animal shelter worth a try. I give money to them every month

Twospaniels · 14/11/2021 20:39

PTS is not the worse thing that can happen to them.
Please do NOT sell them, they could end up anywhere, we’ve all read the horror stories about being used as bait for fighting dogs. PTS would be preferable to that.
I hope you can resolve this soon.

D1ngledanglers · 14/11/2021 20:50

Try Animal Adoption International. Based in UK and take dogs nationally and internationally. Best of luck

EvenRosesHaveThorns · 14/11/2021 21:16

Why is PTS the best thing for them?? I'm.sure if you put a good price on them.& vetted the buyer, that would be preferable. Dogs are given away for free or for 50 quid, those will (tragically) become the bait dogs. But of course rescue best

Cameleongirl · 14/11/2021 21:25

Is your friend paying for the pet insurance and kennels when you need them? She really should be while you try to sort this out.

AwkwardPaws27 · 14/11/2021 21:26

@EvenRosesHaveThorns

Why is PTS the best thing for them?? I'm.sure if you put a good price on them.& vetted the buyer, that would be preferable. Dogs are given away for free or for 50 quid, those will (tragically) become the bait dogs. But of course rescue best
Are people going to be open to taking on the ongoing costs and care of a dog with health issues though, which will be uninsurable?

My dog is on Atopica & other medications, regular vets check etc. The Atopica is £200 a month alone (from the cheapest online pharmacy I can find).

Most people wouldn't buy a dog knowing it's meds would be a significant monthly cost.

OpalOwl · 14/11/2021 21:33

I know you dont want to sell to an individual but the fb groups beagles uk and beagle banter could be worth a shot, lots of people on there with knowledge of the breed and their quirks.
I have a beagle and would be tempted, not in the best position at the moment though. Moving house.

Takingabreakagain · 14/11/2021 21:46

Finding furever homes (they're on Facebook) might be able to help. They seem to specialise in hard to home cases. My dog is from there and I still follow them on FB.

Babyroobs · 14/11/2021 21:57

Whatever you do please do not sell them. can your friend contribute to a dog walker if that would help until you can find somewhere?

JunoMcDuff · 14/11/2021 22:48

@Babyroobs

Whatever you do please do not sell them. can your friend contribute to a dog walker if that would help until you can find somewhere?
She's already contributing to their care, she can't pay more.

Thanks to everyone who's suggested shelters and things to try...some we've tried others are brand new so will give them a go.

I would much prefer to see them rehomed appropriately but we just can't keep them. We're supposed to be away every weekend in December visiting family but I won't be able to go unless we can re-home them. I missed out on time away with friends this weekend - DH took the kids. I don't think it's fair to keep putting the dogs in kennels plus we can't afford it!

These dogs deserve a family that's happy to fit their lives around them. DH is not willing to do it any longer (they came on our summer holidays with us which involved changing some plans etc).

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Okki · 15/11/2021 16:13

@JunoMcDuff I hope you've had some luck with finding a rehoming charity - or that they've been able to advise you.

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